Travel and friendship can be complicated, especially when it comes to group dynamics and exclusion. In this week's Hello Hayes, we're talking about how to navigate the complexities of travel and friendship.

0:00 - Introduction

4:28 - Overview of the 3 letters

5:48 - Letter 1: “My OG besties went on a trip without me”

8:21 - My personal experience getting “excluded”

10:30 - Why it hurts to fall out of touch with

12:10 - How to handle the situation

15:00 - Should you ask: Why wasn’t I invited?

15:58 - What to say instead

16:40 - Feeling like everyone’s talking about you

18:14 - Letter 2: “How do we tell someone why they were excluded?”

19:25 - The problem with exclusion

20:03 - Tough love

22:52 - The responsibility of being in a friend group

23:50 - What to do in the future

26:10 - Why this isn’t about “boundaries”

27:44 - Why I chose this letter

28: 27 - Letter 3: “My friend won’t stop texting her boyfriend on vacation”

30:00 - Why I don’t watch TV with friends

31:25 - From WTF to compassion

36:25 - Script 1

39:00 - Communication tip: “Keep it consistent”

39:50 - Script 2

43:45 - On being “jealous”

45:45 - Hayes’s phone etiquette rules

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