Episode #1097

How do you encourage your partner to grow… without making them feel like they're not enough? That's the question we're digging into in this episode

A lot of men make this mistake. They start doing personal development. They feel better. They see the benefits. Then they turn to their wife and say, "You should do this too." What she hears is, "Something's wrong with you." And that's where the resistance starts.

We talk about why pushing growth almost always backfires, and what actually works instead. It starts with being the example. Not in a holier-than-thou way. Not in a "I've figured it out" way. But in a grounded, consistent way where you just live it. When you're doing the work, sharing what you're learning, and applying it in your own life, it becomes contagious.

We also get into the idea of judgment and the gap. The gap between where you are and where you think you or your partner should be. When you focus on that gap, it creates tension. When you own your own growth and detach from how it should look for them, things shift.

This conversation is honest. I share examples from my own marriage, including times I tried to hand my wife the "right" book and it went nowhere. Not because she didn't care, but because it wasn't hers. Growth has to be chosen. You can't force it.

If you want your partner to rise, rise first. Lead your home by who you are, not by what you tell her to fix.

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