Do you believe you need to feel terrible about your porn use in order to change it? In this episode, I revisit why those emotional highs of celebrating a long streak and the lows of feeling devastated after a slip-up make quitting harder. When your experience swings between extremes, it becomes difficult to stay consistent, and the process starts to feel discouraging.

I explain how neutralizing your porn habit creates space for real progress. You will hear how to identify the main emotion you associate with quitting porn and how to shift toward a more grounded internal experience. This neutral space is not justification. It is a practical way to step out of the high highs and low lows so you can stay committed. When you make your habit less emotionally charged, the path to quitting becomes clearer and more manageable.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/neutralize-porn-habit-emotions-quitting

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When sexuality and religion overlap, it is easy to get stuck looking for the “right” answer from your church or leaders. If you have ever found yourself searching for approval about masturbation, sexual decisions in your relationship, or whether quitting porn fits your faith tradition, this episode will help you understand why that search feels so confusing. The real question is not what your church says. It is whether you feel aligned with God and with yourself.

In this episode, I talk about developing your own spiritual authority instead of relying on external voices that often contradict each other. You will hear what it looks like to move away from black and white thinking and into principle-based living, where you get clear on the sexual values you want to live by and make decisions from integrity rather than fear. This shift opens space for nuance, compassion, and choices that truly support your wellbeing.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/learning-trust-own-spiritual-authority

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Do you get stuck in the cycle of negative “what-ifs” that hold you back from taking action? Many of us play the “what if” game, imagining worst-case scenarios that paralyze us from moving forward. Whether it’s fear of failure, shame, or anxiety, these negative thoughts can keep us from trying new things, especially when it comes to challenging old habits like pornography use.

In this episode, Coach Kat Jenkins shares a powerful coaching experience about how shifting from “below ground zero” thinking, where we spiral into fear and self-doubt, to “above ground zero” thinking, where we focus on positive possibilities, can break the cycle of inaction and create real change. She explains how giving “equal airtime” to empowering “what-ifs” opens up a new world of possibilities and helps you overcome fears and anxieties before they stop you from reaching your goals.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/playing-new-what-if-game-kat

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So many of us grow up believing our worth is measured by how much we get done, and those messages follow us into adulthood. When you live in a culture that praises achievement, it becomes almost automatic to link productivity to being a good person. The moment you slow down or rest, your brain floods you with thoughts about what you should be doing, which creates anxiousness that often leads to buffering.

In this episode, I talk about why tying your worthiness to productivity becomes a major barrier when you want to quit porn. You will learn how to unshame your need for rest, how to separate your humanity from your to-do list, and how this shift directly supports long-term success with quitting porn. I walk you through the three-step process for changing these deeply conditioned beliefs so you can feel worthy without relying on productivity and move forward with more confidence, calm, and self-trust.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/stop-tying-worthiness-productivity

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Talking about sex in a relationship can feel intimidating, especially when pornography use adds another layer of complexity. The vulnerability required to share desires, boundaries, and preferences often triggers fear of rejection and judgment.

In this episode, coach Jessica explores the challenges many couples face when discussing sex, offering practical strategies to navigate these conversations with curiosity and care. She explains why these conversations can feel so difficult, particularly when pornography is involved, and offers a clear framework for approaching them in a way that strengthens connection rather than creating conflict.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/talking-about-sex-partner-jessica

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Have you ever felt like you have to quit pornography perfectly or not at all? Many people fall into the trap of believing it’s all or nothing—total success or complete failure. This mindset creates pressure, shame, and burnout, making it even harder to follow through. Real change doesn’t come from perfection; it comes from persistence.

The compound effect teaches that meaningful results come from small, consistent actions that add up over time. Just like investing a little each month or lifting slightly heavier weights builds incredible long-term growth, quitting pornography happens through steady progress. You’ll learn how to shift from an all-or-nothing mindset to one focused on growth and consistency.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/compound-effect-small-steps-change

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Shame is one of the biggest barriers to change, but what if understanding where it comes from could help you finally release it? We often see shame as something that lives only inside of us, but it actually has two sides: the external messages we’ve absorbed from the world around us, and the internalized beliefs that shape how we see ourselves.

In this episode, coach Kat Jenkins explores how these two layers of shame work together to keep you stuck in cycles of disconnection and self-criticism. You’ll hear practical ways to start releasing shame by questioning where it came from, choosing what to let go of, and learning to respond with compassion instead of criticism. Kat also shares somatic tools to help calm your body when shame arises so you can feel grounded, safe, and open to connection again.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/understanding-healing-two-sides-shame-kat

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Have you ever felt overwhelmed by your emotions, like anger, anxiety, or sadness? We all experience powerful emotions, but the difference between getting stuck and moving forward often comes down to one skill: emotional agility.

In this episode, coach Hunter dives into the concept of emotional agility and why it’s such a crucial tool for overcoming pornography. You’ll discover a simple, four-step process to help you build emotional agility. Hunter also shares why emotional agility doesn’t mean suppressing emotions, but learning to navigate them in a way that allows you to respond thoughtfully, rather than react impulsively.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/emotional-agility-hunter

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Have you ever wondered why your thoughts about yourself or pornography feel so automatic and unchangeable? So often we treat beliefs like facts, but many of the things we tell ourselves repeatedly are just thoughts we’ve rehearsed until they feel true. Learning to separate facts from beliefs is the first step in taking control of your mind and your habits.

In this episode, I’m revisiting the beliefs and identity milestone, where we spend the most coaching time in the program. We focus on how repeated thoughts shape the beliefs you hold about yourself and pornography. By noticing these beliefs, questioning them, and identifying evidence that contradicts them, you can begin to shift how you think about yourself and your actions.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/changing-beliefs-identity

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Have you noticed that trying to be “Mr. Nice Guy” or constantly people-pleasing can actually keep you stuck? On the surface, it may look like kindness or keeping the peace, but prioritizing others’ approval over your own needs often leads to resentment, disconnection, and the very behaviors you’re trying to overcome.

In this episode, Coach Jessica explores how people-pleasing creates a cycle of self-abandonment disguised as kindness. She shares how to stop managing other people’s feelings, allow for discomfort in relationships, and engage in real, honest conversations that deepen connection.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/mr-nice-guy-stuck-jessica

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