One of the hardest parts of parenting children from hard places is the constant question: am I doing the right thing?

Every decision feels weighted:
Do I push or do I give grace?
 Do I set the boundary or soften it?
Do I make the accommodation or hold steady?

If you’re parenting a child with trauma or anxiety, you’ve likely asked yourself these questions on repeat. And you’re not alone.

Recently, one of the mamas in my Fearless Fostering community shared something that hit home for many of us:

“I’ve been working through a continuing education on parenting anxious kids, and it’s made me realize how many accommodations I’ve made for my son. With our adopted daughter, I could keep the long view in mind because adoption brought stability. But with my foster son, I find myself parenting in the unknown. I’m not sure where the line is between helpful and harmful when it comes to accommodations.”

This is such a brave, honest reflection — and one so many foster and adoptive parents will resonate with.

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