Adoption: The Making of Me. An Oral History of Adoptee Stories

Patrick: A Lonely Childhood Led to a Search for Identity


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Patrick Hawes was born in North Carolina on August 10, 1970, and officially adopted in September 1970. From an early age, Patrick knew he was adopted because his adopted mom was Japanese and his adopted father was American but he didn’t look at all Japanese. Patrick never really desired to search for his birth family during his childhood. He was raised in a good home and was well taken care of but there was a distance between him and his adopted mom which led to many of his adoption issues including loneliness, fear, and pain. He often thought of searching for his birth mom but being in the military and moving combined with the adoption laws in North Carolina made it extremely difficult and he often wanted to give up! Patrick finally began searching for his birth family at the age of 45 and through the magic of Facebook was able to find his birth mom, sister, and maternal Aunt- he has been in reunion
with them since 2015 and while there have been many ups and downs, he wouldn’t change a thing.

To go directly to Patrick's interview, skip ahead to timestamp 9:00.

Also in this episode, Sarah and Louise discuss American Baby by Gabrielle Glaser.

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