You probably do this  and may not even recognize it.

There are things that we do on a daily basis, that are actually toxic not just to other people, but to ourselves.

These specific behaviors, patterns & habits can seem so small and have become so engrained in our every day lives and conversation that we have come to label them as acceptable and normal, when in fact they are a product of our insecurities, our self doubt, our unfulfilled selves and lack of true happiness.

Today, I share a personal story of how I once was a toxic person to many people in my life. 

I had friends whom I gave the label "best friend" who were very toxic to me, using personal stories, my vulnerability and intimate conversations against me.

And sadly, I did the same.

I bad mouthed other people, I rained on their parade, I shared their secrets to others, I was always up for a good hate fest, and gossip seemed to be the only thing spoken at happy hour or brunch with "friends".

I wasn't trustworthy, I was two faced, I was fake, I was always acting like I was so concerned when really I just wanted juicy details of someone else's pain in order to feel better about my own life. 

See, I was miserable. Absolutely miserable. I was broken, insecure, unhappy, jealous, pathetic.

I had no idea who I was, what I stood for, what my values were, the morals I stood by, and I had zero boundaries.

What seemed to be the normal martinis and gossip girls night out, was really just a cesspool of all our inner selves -

Misery was loving its company.

These hidden toxic habits keep us held down in our own insecurities and fears. They keep us living in lack and attracting the like.

The longer we practice these habits, the longer we stay stuck - confused, miserable, tired.

Listen now to find out the habits I discovered in my own self and how I recognized them and once I did, how I was able to change them.

Some may seem verrrrrrrry verrrrrry familiar (in Elmer Fudd's voice)

xoxo- 

Meg 

Life can suck.

Even with all of the wonderful, amazing things we have in our lives- Don't roll your eyes, you have them too.

Life can still just throw you for some real curve balls.

When we were younger, I am sure most of us were taught to "suck it up", "handle it", "wipe your tears, quit your cryin, smile and move on".

Most of us grew up with the belief that you don't let em see you cry, you don't share your private business and you certainly don't dwell on it.

But as children, when we are being told these things, what we are really being taught is to never acknowledge these feelings, to never experience a basic and normal human experience.

Being sad, being hurt, being confused, being angry or frustrated, being anxious, uncertain or just in a bad mood is just as normal as being happy, joyful, peaceful, clear, confident, and in a good mood.

When we push the "bad" feelings down and try to skip over a human experience, in an attempt to look strong, look tough, look resilient. 

We are actually weakening our core. We become so fragile, so vulnerable. We crumble and crack. 

We manifest anxiety and depression because we don't allow ourselves to experience what we are going through- and the key words are "going through".

We cant skip it, we cant jump over it, hop it, go around it, under it or over it, we have to go through it to come out on the other side.

We have to let ourselves be ok with experiencing  the good bad and the ugly. We have to surrender to they way we are feeling and experience what we need to SO THAT, we can let it go and move forward.

If we don't we are only carrying more and more baggage to the next stop and eventually we are going to become so tired and weak that we can no longer carry this around and we breakdown. Our souls are crushed, our spirit dimmed, our confidence gone, our resilience dust.

When you accept and acknowledge that having and experiencing a human experience such as pain, sadness, despair, sorrow, anger etc. You allow yourself the mercy and grace you need to be able to move on from that, you open the door to find power in your experience and you allow it to propel you into more of an empowered life.

You discover so many amazing things about yourself. Your resilience grows. Your confidence unmeasurable, your strength can move mountains.

It is in the silence and the stiff upper lip that we become weak and insecure. 

It is in acceptance and experience that we become resilient and confident.

xoxo-

Megan 

I recently suffered a miscarriage.

As a matter of fact, I am still suffering from it, in the middle of it to be exact. 

So this episode is pretty timely. This episode was recorded while I was still pregnant, or maybe not. Its hard to say. 

But what would have shattered me to pieces months ago, actually brought me into a whole new understanding of faith, trust and resilience. 

Months ago, just mere months, I would have let this devastation completely take over my life. I would have been unable to get out of bed, riddled with anxiety and depression, I would have asked my husband to stay home from work or to take the kids to our in-laws because I was incapable of taking care of them . I could only focus on myself, only felt what I was feeling. Wallowing in my despair. Mad, angry, confused, frustrated, my faith shaken to the core. 

Until now everything had been going swimmingly! Excited, elated, supported, faithful. 

But this time; this time was different. 

Because of the work I have been doing on myself, the relationship I have been building with God my creator and ultimate provider, because of the faith I am building, the confidence I am creating and the transformation that is taking over, this did NOT take me down. 

This did not break me. I am not fragile and weak, I am strong and resilient. 

This did not mean I smiled, put on my mascara and kept moving. This meant that I rested when I needed, in the Lord. I cried when I needed, I was angry and frustrated when I felt it, but I gave everything to God and God alone. 

I found gratitude, I found love, I found peace in this situation. 

I found a brand new gratitude for my amazing marriage that grew stronger that day. 

A renewed and deeper love for my husband who is my supporter, my rock, my person. 

I saw my kids as bigger blessings, strong, healthy and happy. 

I found a refreshed joy in motherhood and in my life. 

My resilience is stronger than ever because of the WORK that I do in my life every single day by the Lord's hands. 

What is your resilience factor? Do you crumble, as I once did, the moment something cracked?

Are you overtaken by doubt, anxiety, depression and fear, the moment a fault is found in the foundation?

It's not fun to live on a a see saw- up and down and up and down. 

So how can we build resilience that is everlasting, that is pure, that is unshakeable?

Listen now to this weeks episode where I talk about what your resilient factor is and how to build a resilience so strong, that you transform your entire world from fear to faith. 

I got my mind on myself and myself on my mind!

Last week we talked about habits that come from the heart, specifically the things you say and think.

You speak over you life. 

You create your environment, what comes in, what goes out. 

You are in control of your life and as soon as you realize the power that lies within your thoughts and words, your life will forever transform any way you want. 

Especially your relationships- to everything; career, finances, family, love, friendships, boundaries, and most importantly- yourself.

The relationship you have with yourself is so darn special and is the MOST important. 

I hate to break it to ya. It's not the relationship with your significant other, your cat, your kids, the title at work, the house you live in, the car you drive.

The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. The one you have while looking in the mirror, the one you have while driving by yourself, the one you have while taking a shower, going to bed at night, or in those times of silence.

Why?

I knowwwwww- its like on repeat, but your true, authentic happiness comes from within.

It's not being in a relationship that will make you happy, it's not having a certain amount of money in the bank, it's not about a certain job promotion.

Your relationship with yourself is the DRIVING force of happiness and fulfillment. 

When you neglect your personal relationship or have one that's barely hanging on, it affects EVERYTHING in your life. 

When you have no idea who you are, what you stand for, your morals or values- then quite frankly you might as well just have none. 

And when you have none, you have crappy friends, you have sh*t heads for a partner,  you're always broke, you make lateral moves in your career (if you even move at all), you are constantly chasing chasing chasing and never get anywhere. 

You always wanna be "anywhere but here".

When you do have an amazing, powerful and fun relationship with yourself- you know how to set boundaries and accept nothing less, so you have bomb a$$ friends, an out of this world partner,  money in DA BANK, you do what you love for work,  all with a stupid silly smile on your face. You THRIVE my dear. YOU thrive. 

So tune in now for a shift in your perspective on yourself and start to take a some good tender loving care on the relationship that matters the most. 

The one with YOU.

xoxo-

Meg 

Wooo!! The last few weeks have been TRANSFORMATIONAL!!!!

We have been diving into such an amazing topic and have really been diving deep into our habits and how they are serving us!

As we continue our journey of exploring our habits and discovering if what we practice on the daily is propelling us into the life we want or holding us back and keeping us stuck in the life we have, I want to bring a new narrative to the conversation surrounding habits.

The things we say, and the thoughts we have are HABITUAL aka HABITS

YASSSS- What comes out of our mouths, is what lies truly in our hearts!

The negative thinking, the constant shaming or negative self talk- that is a habit and guess what? The more we practice it, the more it progresses.

BUT BEFORE YOU FREAK OUT! I have great news.

The same goes for POSITIVE thoughts and self talk!

Trust me, I know firsthand how it is almost physically hard to get positive words about yourself to come out ya mouth, but the more you practice it, the more it progresses, and little by little, you start to replace your negative default state into a positive one!

And then????

Confidence blossoms, resilience takes root, and transformation breaks through.

Words affect our relationships, to each other, and to ourselves.

Is what you are speaking bringing your relationships closer together or separating you?

When you are unfulfilled, unhappy, insecure, mad, angry, frustrated- you grumble, you complain, you judge, you are negative, you are ungrateful. UGH can you feel it? It’s such a heavy, gross feeling.

But when you are content, grateful, happy, fulfilled, confident, clear - you speak with peace, love, joy, compassion, and kindness- ahhhh now that's better.

Want to change your words? You need to change your heart.

Luke 6:45

“Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”

Check out the newest episode today on how your words are a habit, and how those habits are created from your heart.

Love yall,

Xoxo-

Meg

Do you practice a morning routine? 

Do you practice consistently?  

I didn't understand or realize the magnitude of how much a morning routine could not only change your day, but totally change your life! 

 Before I realized and learned that morning routines are the anchors of your day, I would literally get up exactly when I needed to (well lets be honest about 5 snoozes later).

I would rush out of bed, do enough to look presentable, get dressed, grab my coffee and out the door like a tornado. 

Funny enough, my day always felt like a tornado too.   

I would come home exhausted, drink some wine and have dinner, stay up late to "unwind" and then started the madness all over again.   

I then began to connect the dots. 

On the days that I happened to be up earlier than normal and was able to just sit on the couch and have coffee in complete silence, no cell phone, no tv, total darkness, all cuddled up and comfy, were the days that I was at my absolute best. 

I was more focused, energized, my mood was boosted, I was motivated, happier, and way more productive. 

 I absolutely crushed my goals and felt soooo good on those days. 

 Fast forward to now- I (almost) always practice my morning routine everyday, and I get excited to do so!

  Trust me, I have tried and failed and tried and failed- it takes time, patience and practice. 

 After reading and researching many other successful entrepreneurs morning routine, I was able to create my own according to my life and what fits in with my habits, my goals and my time.  

In today's episode I explain to you the 3 KEY things you need in order to build a fail proof morning routine. 

One you can actually stick to, one you are excited about & one that builds confidence, resilience and your faith every day-all day. 

I also share with you something I teach in my 6 week personal development course; My VERY OWN morning routine that I developed for myself - after many attempts and adjustments and research.  

I introduce to you the A.C.T.S. morning routine:

 A- Awaken with the Lord 

C- Create you care 

T- Teach yourself something new

S- State your day 

Need me to elaborate? Lucky for you, I do!! Just simply hit play, sit back and enjoy the ride.

So you feel like you have this grand vision right? 

You may even have goals with corresponding action steps written out in a cute planner all nice and neat just begging for that inky check mark.  

And maybe you are on a checking spree at first, but then find yourself and your motivation lost and those check marks become far and few between until that cute hot pink planner with the gold curly font that spells out "YOU GOT THIS GURL" on the front has slowly found its way to the bottom of all your last years planners and calendars.   

Again, you  are not alone. In fact, I am staring at that pile of my own "lost  motivation" right now. 

But what if I were to shift your mindset a little bit? I promise, it won't hurt. 

 What is preventing you from keeping that inky check mark from your goals check box? 

It's probably your habits! 

What habits are you practicing every day and do they support the life you want or the life you have? 

You know we can develop habits that are totally keeping us on the wrong path, even if we have the right vision. For instance- Distraction is a habit that WE create!! 

The more we divulge in mindless social media scrolling, or Netflix bingeing,  the more we are practicing it and the more powerful that habit becomes!

  Take a look at what you are doing every day and you will see that you are probably practicing habits that are keep you circling the drain,  like that annoying buffer signal that pops up in the best part of the Netflix movie you've been watching or better yet, that super important zoom meeting. UGH  

For me, I had to examine what it was I was creating and practicing on the daily. 

I realized my habits were far more than just waking up a tad bit early and making my bed (though super powerful tool at winning your day)  

I had to examine what I was doing with myself. 

Was I being active to keep my body strong?

 Was I meditating daily to keep my mind clear and focused? 

Was I drinking that extra glass of wine late at night that was causing my sleep to be disrupted therefore feeling foggy in the morning?  

The habits I practiced every single day were not supporting the goals that I had in place that would propel me into the life I was trying to create!  

I have to make some big changes that were intentional and purposeful.  

I have  to practice habits that support me in every single aspect of my life and my wellbeing so that I stay ready instead of having to get ready.  

Ya feel me?  

In today's episode of PeP. Talks with Megan De La Concha, I dive in on the changes I had to make and how I leveled up my habits to match my game.  

Watch the entire episode here :)  

Have a beautiful and empowering week! I am so proud to have you on my squad!  

xoxo Megan

FAKE NEWS ALERT:

 Life hasn't always been this happy, I wasn't always this peppy and positive. 

 I have and lived very dark, dark days. 

Days where I didn't know if I was either more happy that the day had ended or more scared of the day to come.   

I self medicated. HIGH. ALL. THE. TIME. 

 It was the  only thing that took me away from the reality I was living.  

I was verbally, mentally, emotionally abused, which turned physical- but that was the pivot for me.   

God completely took over and he carried me out of that relationship of 7 years and a baby later.  

I can tell you exactly how it went down, but I can't tell you how strong I was. Because I was weak, and God delivered me- the entire way through. 

 It was not enough to just get out of this relationship, but I had to STAY out AND I had to heal & transform

I was determined. 

So am I here by a mere stroke of luck? HELL NO  I am here by faith and faith alone. 

It was hard work, but great work.  

It took time, but how precious time was 

It took painful growth, but it was rewarding

 I am not a victim nor a survivor, I am just me. 

Here for you. 

 Here to tell my story. Here to help someone else get out of the hell they are currently living or help heal from the hell they were in.   

I am here to teach women how to FULLY come into their authentic confidence and grace 

 I just wanted to remind you, you are not alone. I have been there and now I am here.  

If you want to chat more, I want you to reach out. 

 You  can head over to megandelaconcha.com and book a call with me. It is not a sales call, it really is just a chat.

 You can DM me on social media  

IG: @megndlc_ 

FB: PeP with Megan De La Concha 

 I love you and I want you to  be the woman you were always meant to be and start living the life you were always meant to live.  Check out  my footprints in the sand episode right Neow!!

  XOXOXO- with all of my heart

 Meg

Anxiety and Depression were my default state of mind for the majority of my life to date.

Anxiety is rooted in fear. So fear drove every decision I made. Fear controlled my actions, my reactions, my sleep, my mood, basically my life.

It wasn’t until much later in life (ahem breaking a toxic relationship, seeking out therapy, and spending time on my healing) that I was able to open the door to my own self growth. This included growing my self awareness and self discovery.

By doing the work I needed to heal and grow, I was soon able to manage my anxiety. Did it disappear altogether? PSH I WISH!!!

Reality is, anxiety and bouts of depression, stress, anger, frustration, struggles, they never leave your life, you just manage it a heck of a lot better.

Anxiety and fear have ZERO control over my life, I have control over it.

How do I manage and control my emotions and feelings?

Through my very own R.A.D. method

Using the R.A.D. method you will learn how to

Recognize

Accept

Dismantle

The R.A.D. method is something that I teach in my 6 week signature personal empowerment course! Want to learn more? click here

So I am sharing this little nugget of wisdom that will grow your self awareness exponentially!

And by increasing your self awareness, you build confidence, resilience and transformation.

You become unstoppable.

Listen today to learn about the R.A.D. method on how to easily control and manage the not so great feelings and emotions that inevitable make up our life. This is called empowerment.

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Xoxo

Megan

Real Talk:  

Doing "the work" is not sitting in front of your computer, laptop or phone all day long. 

 Doing "the work" does not mean letting your clothes and dishes pile up, creating clutter. 

Doing "the work" does not mean neglecting your self care and turning what could be or used to be that 30 minutes of exercise or physical care into an extra 30 minutes to answer an email. 

Doing "the work" does not mean letting your significant other sit in the living room by themselves so you can get a few more posts out on social media 

 Doing "the work" does not mean plopping on cartoons for the kids all day long so you can "focus" 

Doing "the work" does not mean grinding it out, burning the midnight oil, or getting up early to work and forgetting your time with the Lord, your meditation, your reading, your time for learning and silence.  

 So if doing "the work" doesn't mean any of this, then what does doing "the work" mean? 

- Listen with intention and open ears to this NEW episode of PeP. Talks with Megan De La Concha  to find out what the work really looks like and the truth behind it.

xoxo-

Meg