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Ready for your own pattern interrupt? Explore Wendy’s upcoming experiences in France and discover what becomes available when you step outside your routine, learn something new, and say yes to an adventure that feels good.

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In this episode, Wendy sits down with therapist Jessica Fern and restorative relationship practitioner David Cooley to examine how shame shapes the way we relate to ourselves and the people closest to us. They introduce the “inner shame triangle”: an inner critic that attacks, a shame part that absorbs and believes the criticism, and escaper parts that try to outrun it through over-functioning, under-functioning, busyness, or numbing. The conversation becomes deeply personal as Wendy reflects on her divorce and Jessica and David share how they ended their marriage, continued co-parenting, and created a new relationship structure that better meets their family’s needs.

They explore:

•  How the inner critic, shame, and escaper parts reinforce one another and show up during relationship conflict 
•  Why willingness and capacity are both necessary for couples who want to grow together 
•  What it means to measure a relationship’s success by whether people’s needs are being met, not simply by how long it lasts 

This is a conversation about recognizing the internal patterns influencing your relationships, responding to yourself with greater compassion, and allowing relationships to evolve when the old configuration no longer works.

Connect with Jessica & David:

Get their book, Transforming the Shame Triangle: amazon.com/Transforming-Shame-Triangle-Using-Parts/dp/199086970X?tag=syty-20

JessicaFern.com

RestorativeRelationship.com

TheAzuriteWay.com

Ask Jess & Dave Show: www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLGHjbRL3XbZT0ZppTALUwwBUub68uMiij

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In this bonus mini episode, Wendy shares how a series of small, aligned yeses led to unexpected friendships, collaborations, and opportunities across France. From meeting Chef Eric in Normandy to expanding her work with Jessica Hickman-Woolcott and the Cognac Jewellery School, none of it arrived through a perfectly mapped-out plan. It unfolded one decision and one connection at a time.

Wendy also shares how she recognizes her next right step, why she doesn’t need to see the entire path before moving forward, and the practices that help her distinguish intuition from resistance.

You don’t have to know exactly how everything will work. You can quiet the noise, trust your own knowing, and take the next logical step.

Referenced in This Episode:

• Listen to Wendy’s conversation with Jessica Hickman-Woolcott: buzzsprout.com/1872382/episodes/16767951
•  Explore the Cognac Jewellery School: 
  • Foundations: wendy-harrop.com/experiences-cart/p/cjs-foundation-2027
  • Collections: wendy-harrop.com/experiences-cart/p/cognac-jewellery-school-collections-2027
•  Explore Wendy’s coaching offers: wendy-harrop.com/coaching

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Website: Phineas Wright House
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Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
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French Antiques Experience - Chateau de Brives: wendy-harrop.com/experiences-cart/p/antique-experience-france

Cognac Jewellery School Foundations 2027: wendy-harrop.com/experiences-cart/p/cjs-foundation-2027

Cognac Jewellery School Collections Week 2027: wendy-harrop.com/experiences-cart/p/cognac-jewellery-school-collections-2027

In this episode, Wendy sits down with author and educator Thymai Dong-Sheehan to talk about identity, belonging, and the courage to tell your own story. Born in Vietnam and raised in the United States, Thymai grew up navigating two cultures while never feeling fully claimed by either. Years later, stepping away from her career to care for family left her grieving the loss of her worker identity, but it also gave her the space to pursue two dreams she had been saving for retirement: publishing The Beauties of My So-Called Asian Life and starting her own business. What emerged was an honest examination of the stories told about her, the parts of herself she had learned to minimize, and what it meant to finally decide that her experiences were valid and worth sharing.

They explore:

•  How Thymai moved from feeling caught between Vietnamese and American identities to embracing the full complexity of who she is 
•  Why releasing the need to prove she belonged required vulnerability, spirituality, community, and self-forgiveness 
•  How losing confidence after leaving her career led Thymai back to the inner work behind her larger vision for educational change 

This is a conversation about claiming the right to tell your own story, allowing every part of your identity to belong, and trusting what can emerge when an unexpected pause creates room for something new.

Connect with Thymai:

ThymaiDongSheehan.com

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tmaidong

Get her book, The Beauties of My So-Called Asian Life: Vulnerability, Equity, Spirituality: amazon.com/Beauties-So-Called-Asian-Life-Vulnerability/dp/B0F7GSKHVN?tag=syty-20

Referenced in this Episode:

A Course in Miracles Links: 

• https://apps.apple.com/us/app/acim-remind/id737568020
• https://www.amazon.com/Course-Miracles-Combined-Quality/dp/1883360242?tag=syty-20
• marianne.com/acim/

Creative in Residence at the Phineas Wright House: app.flodesk.com/form/6995f2e1ae676cb64b2c5b37

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Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
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Fan Mail: Tell Wendy how you're saying yes to yourself!

French Antiques Experience - Chateau de Brives: wendy-harrop.com/experiences-cart/p/antique-experience-france

Cognac Jewellery School Foundations 2027: wendy-harrop.com/experiences-cart/p/cjs-foundation-2027

Cognac Jewellery School Collections Week 2027: wendy-harrop.com/experiences-cart/p/cognac-jewellery-school-collections-2027

Carrie Fabris is a Gallup Certified Strengths Coach and the founder of CareerFrame, where she works with leaders and teams on the kind of self-awareness that actually changes how people show up at work. She's also a self-described activator — someone wired to move fast, act now, and figure out the rest later. Lately, life's been asking her to do the opposite: pause, observe, and trust that the timing isn't hers to control. In this episode, Carrie and Wendy explore:

• Why Carrie has learned to trust a slower pace and pay attention before reacting
• What it actually took to leave a stable job with zero clients lined up, simply because staying didn't feel right anymore
• The difference between forcing an outcome and taking inspired action, then trusting the timing to work itself out

Carrie's story isn't about having a plan for everything. It's about learning that the how isn't always yours to control, and that the action you take matters more than having it all figured out first.

Connect with Carrie:

CareerFrame.com

Instagram: instagram.com/cdfabris

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/cfabris-reframe-coaching-training

All In: A Working Mom's Unapologetic Quest for a Juicy Life: amazon.com/All-Working-Unapologetic-Quest-Juicy/dp/1945587776/?tag=syty-20

Referenced in this Episode:

Who Not How by Dan Sullivan: amazon.com/dp/B0B61XSW1M?tag=syty-20

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks: https://www.amazon.com/Big-Leap-Conquer-Hidden-Level/dp/0061735361?tag=syty-20

Saying YES to Living Life by Design with Gina DeVee: buzzsprout.com/1872382/episodes/15316784

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Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
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What if your next chapter could be born in a beautiful city… while you gave yourself permission to dream? Space to Dream Global Workshops: wendy-harrop.com/experiences-cart/p/space-to-dream-global

Sonya Weisshappel calls herself the Chaos Whisperer, and her business card should probably read more like a dictionary than a title — she helps people move through major life transitions by starting with what's actually around them, whether that's a friend circle that no longer fits or a lifetime of inherited belongings nobody's touched since a loved one died. 

In this episode, Sonya and Wendy explore:

• Why it's okay to let go of relationships that used to be a match and no longer are, and how to trust that shift without needing to explain it
• The disconnect Sonya sees constantly between what someone says they want and what their actual physical surroundings are set up to support
• How organizing a closet, a junk drawer, or a lifetime of inherited belongings is rarely just about the stuff, and why the physical work often opens a side door into grief that talk therapy alone doesn't always reach

Sonya's approach isn't about decluttering, or networking, for their own sake. It's about recognizing that your surroundings — people included — should actually reflect what you want now, not just what you've always had.

Connect with Sonya:

seriatim.net

Confessions of a Chaos Whisperer: My Life as an Organizing Guru, Business Owner, and Mom https://www.amazon.com/Confessions-Chaos-Whisperer-Sonya-Weisshappel/dp/B0CTGD5HZD?tag=syty-20

Referenced in this Episode:

The One Question that Shifts Everything | Aransas Savas buzzsprout.com/1872382/episodes/18652692

The Numerology of Endings and Renewal | Dina Berrin buzzsprout.com/1872382/episodes/18106144

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Check out the new website:  www.wendy-harrop.com

Martine Cohen didn't set out to rethink her relationship with rest. Instead, a serious car accident and concussion forced the issue, stopping her in her tracks until she had no choice but to listen to her body in a way she'd ignored for years. She's since built her work, including her book No More Layers, around exactly that: understanding why we override our own needs, and how to stop. In this episode, Martine and Wendy explore:

• Why perfectionism isn't a personality trait but a safety mechanism the brain built to avoid rejection, and why that mechanism can never actually be satisfied
• The small, consistent rituals Martine uses to reset her nervous system daily, and why tiny, repeated habits do more than one big gesture ever could
• Why so many women only give themselves permission to ask for help when something has gone wrong, and never when things are going well

Martine's approach isn't about overhauling your whole life overnight. It's about noticing the habits you already have, deciding which ones are actually serving you, and building new ones in their place, one small, repeatable choice at a time.

Don't forget to DM Wendy @wendy.harrop and Martine @martinecohen_ on Instagram to share your new habit!

Connect with Martine:

Get her book, No More Layers: Discover Your Inner Power and Reclaim True Freedom From the Inside Out: amazon.com/dp/1955811792?tag=syty-20

MartineCohen.com

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/martinecohennml

Instagram: instagram.com/martinecohen_

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Chelsea Ann was married to a man whose company sold for nearly a billion dollars. Homes across the world, nannies, staff, every material thing money could buy. Then came a prayer at the base of the Dalai Lama's temple, and nine months later she found herself at the Great Pyramid, hearing from a man who told her she'd spend her life teaching women something else entirely: how to return to their own nature. 

In this episode, Chelsea Ann and Wendy explore:

• What it actually looked like to walk away from a life of extreme wealth instead of toward one, and why she never expected the prayer to actually be answered
• The gap she kept finding in how women are taught, or not taught, to become mothers, and why she wrote her first two books to fill it
• How her work as a menopause practitioner and her spiritual teaching intersect, and why she believes "returning to a woman's nature" is an actual practice, not just a metaphor

Chelsea Ann's story isn't a rags-to-riches arc, or even a riches-to-rags one. It's what happens when someone decides the life everyone else is chasing isn't the one she wants, even without a clear picture of what comes next.

Connect with Chelsea Ann:

ChelseaAnnEffect.com

Instagram: instagram.com/chelseaanneffect

Get her book, The Feminine Effect: amazon.com/Feminine-Effect-Discovering-Your-Nature/dp/163698617X?tag=syty-20

Get her book, The Feminine Frequency: amazon.com/Feminine-Frequency-Nature-Awaken-Humanity/dp/163698763X?tag=syty-20

See all her books here: chelseaanneffect.com/shop

Referenced in this Episode:

Ina May Gaskin: penguinrandomhouse.com/authors/9774/ina-may-gaskin/

Conversations with God, Book 4: Awaken the Species, A New and Unexpected Dialogue: amazon.com/dp/1786781328?tag=syty-20

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Website: Phineas Wright House
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Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
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Susanne Eden turned 60 and thought her life was over. She could barely get out of a chair, was on 200 units of insulin a day, and had spent years on prednisone that had quietly wrecked her endocrine system. Now 87, she's the author of Healing from the Inside, Living Fully As You Age. 

Susanne and Wendy explore:

• What actually changed when she stopped waiting for a doctor to hand her the answer and started experimenting with holistic and energy-based healing instead
• Why she believes health, aging, and self-worth are impossible to separate, and how trying to treat them individually is where so many people get stuck
• The recent loss of a close friend, and the recorded conversation they shared in her friend's final months that became part of a new project called Conversations with Susanne

Susanne's story isn't about reversing a diagnosis or finding a miracle fix. It's about what happens when someone finally stops outsourcing the answer and starts paying attention to what her own body and mind were trying to tell her all along.

Connect with Susanne:

SusanneEden.com

Conversations referenced in this episode: susanneeden.com/conversations

Get her book, Healing from the Inside: Living Fully as You Age

https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Inside-Living-Fully-You/dp/1038343712?tag=syty-20

Referenced in this Episode:

Caroline Myss: myss.com

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Cognac Jewellery School Foundation Week: Dates in May, July, August and September 2027 phineaswrighthouse.com/the-shop/p/cognac-jewellery-school-summer-foundations-2027

Cognac Jewellery School Intermediate Week: May, July, and September 2027 phineaswrighthouse.com/the-shop/p/cognac-jewellery-school-intermediate-2027

Kathryn Henry spent a decade beside her wife through a grueling cancer battle, walking away from her corporate career to be fully present for it. After her wife passed, small, inexplicable things like dimes, turning up in impossible places, became something she couldn't write off as coincidence. That became the title of her memoir, A Dime to Say I Love You. 

They explore:

• What happened on a rain-soaked mountain trail in Japan that turned a moment of "what did I get myself into" into the clarity to finish writing the book
• The difference between knowing something intellectually and knowing it in every cell of your body, and why only one of those actually changes how you live
• How childhood trauma decades earlier shaped the spiritual practice she now leans on to process both grief and reinvention

Kathryn's story isn't about grief resolving into peace on a tidy timeline. It's about learning to recognize the signs that were there all along, and letting them pull you forward instead of trying to explain them away.

Connect with Kathryn:

Get her book, A Dime to Say I Love You: amazon.com/dp/B0F787W89L?tag=syty-20

Website: KathrynHenry.com

Instagram: instagram.com/kathryn.m.henry

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/henrykathryn

Referenced in this Episode:

Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Beacon-Classics/dp/080701883X?tag=syty-20

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Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
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Fan Mail: Tell Wendy how you're saying yes to yourself!

Cognac Jewellery School Foundation Week: Dates in May, July, August and September 2027 phineaswrighthouse.com/the-shop/p/cognac-jewellery-school-summer-foundations-2027

Cognac Jewellery School Intermediate Week: May, July, and September 2027 phineaswrighthouse.com/the-shop/p/cognac-jewellery-school-intermediate-2027

Riana Malia works as what she calls an identity architect for high-achieving women, helping them clear the old subconscious patterns running the show long before anyone notices, so they can actually build the life they're reaching for instead of quietly recreating the one they already have. She and Wendy walk through the exact tool she hands her private clients to do it: two lists, a rubber band, and 72 hours. 

They explore:

• Why old patterns keep sabotaging results years after the moment that created them, and how that "residue" gets stored in the body at a cellular level, not just the mind
• The real-time example from Riana's own life (a business relationship blowing up the morning of this interview) and the difference between treating it as something happening to her versus something happening for her
• How the 72-hour rubber band practice works step by step, and why three days is enough to start building a new neural pathway instead of reinforcing the old one

Riana's work isn't about excavating the old story to explain why someone feels stuck. It's about clearing the pattern out of the body first, then giving the mind something new and specific to build toward in love, in money, in work, in whatever's next.

Connect with Riana:

Instagram: instagram.com/rianamalia

RianaMalia.com

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/rianamalia

The Extraordinary Love Index: taketheeli.com

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Website: Phineas Wright House
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Interested in being a guest on the show?
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Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat!

If this episode resonated, follow Say YES to Yourself! and leave a  5-star review. It helps more women in midlife discover the tools, stories, and community that make saying YES not only possible, but powerful.