At just 28, Phil Samba is already a legend. When he writes, we read and when he speaks, we listen. His openness about both his sexuality and his sexual health means he’s often inundated by other young Black men who want to know more about him — how he’s cultivated his openness, how he’s come out and how he’s become the young man he is. Phil is already miles beyond where I was at 28 and sitting in conversation with him reveals a man who is leaning into his greatness. We speak on our relationships with our parents, the role education and representation plays in preventing homophobic beliefs taking hold — even within ourselves — and finding our strength outside of the prescribed strength tropes so closely associated to Black people.

I highly recommend you follow Phil Samba on Twitter: @idiosyncraticXL

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