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For the 190th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, intimacy coach, educator, Stanford lecturer, and founder of TurnON.love.

Trying to conceive can turn sex into a chore, and the hormonal shifts of perimenopause and menopause can bring new challenges to intimacy. But it doesn’t have to be that way! In this episode, we're joined by the incredible Dr. Aly for actionable tips on how to make sex more enjoyable, intimate, and playful during these pivotal moments.

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For the 189th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares two inspiring voices to kick off your Dry January journey—Tawny Lara, sober sexpert and author of Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze, and Keegan Winfield, co-host of the My Worst Date podcast.

First, we discuss Tawny's sobriety journey and why she decided to document it, sex with alcohol vs. sex without alcohol, the role liquid courage plays in our romantic lives, ideas for non-awkward sober dates, tips for dating someone who doesn't drink, and advice for anyone reevaluating their relationship with booze.

Next, Keegan opens up about her transformative 100-day break from drinking. She discusses how she resisted social pressures, the impact the experiment had on her life, and how it reshaped her relationship with alcohol for the better.

Whether you’re curious about life without alcohol, reconsidering how often you reach for a drink, or just looking for practical tips on navigating sobriety in your love life and beyond, this episode has you covered. You’ll leave with actionable inspiration to start the year fresh, focused, and empowered.

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For the 188th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes erotic wholeness coach and sex therapist Darshana Avila—for one of Courtney’s favorite interviews of last year.

You may have seen Darshana’s work on the Netflix series Sex, Love & Goop! If you’ve seen the show, you already know that she’s something of an orgasm whisperer. In this episode, Darshana shares her journey from personal exploration to becoming an erotic wholeness coach and sex therapist. She also explains what erotic wholeness is, the deep layers of tantra that explore “how to human,” how she maintains boundaries with her clients with all that intimacy in the room, what goes on inside her membership community Erotic Explorers Collective, and so much more.

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For the 187th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Eleanor C. Whitney, author of Riot Woman.

We’re diving into the evolution of feminism with Eleanor C. Whitney. Eleanor takes us on a journey from the suffragettes to the third-wave feminists of the 90s Riot Grrrl punk movement, where she discovered her voice as a writer and musician. We discuss how this shaped her relationships, sexuality, and ideas of community, as well as the emergence of fourth-wave feminism and what it might look like moving forward.

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For the 186th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes The World Walk author Tom Turcich.

Over seven years, Tom Tursich walked across six continents with his loyal dog, Savannah, on an epic journey chronicled in his book, The World Walk. Tom was the tenth person, and Savannah was the first dog to achieve this feat of walking around the world. In this episode, Tom shares what inspired this global trek and recounts the highs and lows of the adventure—from the scariest moments to the heartwarming hospitality he experienced along the way. And this journey has a happy ending: Tom reveals how he met his fiancée, Bonnie, on the final stretch of his walk. 

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For the 185th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes certified nurse midwife and It’s Your Body: The Young Woman’s Guide to Empowered Sexual Health author Dena Moes.

Dena's book is a comprehensive guide for making informed decisions about sexual health, covering everything from pregnancy options and birth control to understanding consent and breaking the stigma around STIs like herpes. In this episode, we talk about her inspiration for writing the book, a Cliff’s Notes overview of many of the book’s topics, and discuss the evolving dialogue around consent. Plus, we highlight why open, honest conversations about sexual health are more important than ever.

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For the 184th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes happily married swingers Dave and Victoria Arena for an episode all about non-monogamy — swinging, in specific. And I have the perfect guests because they’ve been happily married and active in the lifestyle for decades.

I met Dave and Victoria through a screenwriting workshop. They actually wrote a pilot for a TV series inspired by their swinger lifestyle. In real life, it began as innocent pillow talk, but when Victoria took the daring step to sign them up for a non-monogamy app, they had no idea what they were in for... But they quickly worked through that first awkward encounter and have been making it work ever since. Twenty years is a long time to be happily swinging with your partner, so in this episode, we'll learn their secrets for lasting so long in the lifestyle. We also explore how they first became swingers, their initial rules, how they prioritize their relationship, the joys of sex clubs, and the swinging scene in Cleveland, Ohio vs. New York City, plus tips for couples who want to start swinging and how to approach the conversation with your partner. This is a horny treat from the archive—this episode originally ran in April 2023.

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Private Parts Unknown host Courtney Kocak recently appeared on the Well...Adjusting podcast to discuss the aftermath of friendship breakups, making and maintaining friendships as an adult, reconnecting with old friends, and intentionally nurturing new ones. If you enjoyed this preview, tune in to the full episode, The Search for Close Connections: Making Friends in Your 40s.

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For the 183rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Mistress Colette Pervette, a professional Dominatrix of 20 years.

As an Educatrix, Colette teaches the art and practice of FemDom and BDSM to women and couples. She holds a Ph.D. in Education from UC Berkeley, where her research focuses on misconceptions and conceptual change. Through her teaching and writing, she dispels misconceptions about kink, sex work, and alternative sexuality. She guides women and femmes to find and cultivate their personal power by learning how to play with it in the bedroom, dungeon, and beyond.

Colette teaches an online Dominatrix training course called MistressClass, where she takes you on an immersive journey where she shows you every step it takes to become a Dominatrix and come into your full power. She has guided and trained hundreds of women and femmes to become the Dominatrix of their vision.

In this episode, we discuss how she got started as a pro domme at The Gates dungeon in the San Francisco Bay, what a typical client session entails, the tools of the trade, how to screen clients and stay safe, how it affects her personal sex life, and all things professional domination.

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For the 182nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Jennifer Case, author of We Are Animals: On the Nature and Politics of Motherhood. 

Jennifer explains how human maternal behavior makes more sense when viewed through the lens of evolutionary biology and how these biological instincts often clash with modern societal expectations of motherhood, creating tensions that manifest in issues like maternal mental health, isolation, and lack of support. We discuss Jennifer's personal experiences with pregnancy, childbirth, and motherhood, including the challenges she faced with her second unintended pregnancy and her husband's opposition to abortion. She also opens up about her challenges in balancing academic and career ambitions with the demands of motherhood, how she navigates the complexities of sharing childcare responsibilities equitably with her husband, and how she reconciles her feminist ideals with the realities of motherhood.

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