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For the 261st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares the story of a mindblowing happy ending massage she got in Tokyo, Japan, that completely changed her perspective on sex and pleasure.
In October 2022, Courtney wrote all about it for Cosmo and then included it as an audio essay in episode 103 with more from our Tokyo, Japan series. To ring in a hot and sexy summer, we're dropping this audio essay on the feed as a standalone quickie. Enjoy!
Here are links to the other episodes mentioned:
And here's a link to Kocak's Cosmo essay: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/confessions/a41217848/tokyo-happy-ending-massage/
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For the 260th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Emma Koenig, the author & editor of Moan: Anonymous Essays on Female Orgasm.
Emma shares how her popular Tumblr, How to Make Me Come, evolved into a powerful book that explores the diverse and often misunderstood experiences of female pleasure. We discuss how sexuality is shamed and stigmatized, the need for better sex education, and the importance of open communication in the bedroom. Emma also offers insights on how partners can engage in honest dialogues about sexual needs and preferences. (This episode also features former co-hosts Sofiya Alexandra and Dave Rankin.)
For more from today's guest, Emma Koenig:
Get your copy of Girl Gone Wild from Bookshop.org or Amazon.
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
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For the 259th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Treena Orchard, anthropologist and author of Sticky, Sexy, Sad: Swipe Culture and the Darker Side of Dating Apps.
In this episode, anthropologist Treena Orchard shares her experiences with online dating after turning 45 and offers insights into the complexities of modern "swipe culture." She discusses the unexpected interest from younger men, the vulnerability men face in shifting gender dynamics, the dark side of dating app gamification, and the upsides of tech involvement in our love lives. Orchard critiques popular platforms like the "feminist" dating app Bumble and highlights how dating apps commodify romance. Despite the challenges, she found meaningful connections and argues that in-person, activity-based dating may be the future of romance.
For more from today's guest, Treena Orchard:
Get your copy of Girl Gone Wild from Bookshop.org or Amazon.
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
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For the 258th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes licensed educator, content creator, and author Laura Danger.
Laura’s new book, No More Mediocre, takes a hard look at the unequal labor dynamics that quietly erode so many relationships—and what it actually takes to build something more equitable, sustainable, and sexy.
In this conversation, Laura breaks down the nag paradox, weaponized incompetence, and the invisible emotional labor that disproportionately falls on women in heterosexual partnerships. She shares how she and her partner had to “burn it down” and rebuild their relationship from the ground up after years of simmering resentment, and why explicit communication and shared responsibility are essential to lasting intimacy. We also get into the connection between unequal labor and dead bedrooms, the motherhood penalty versus the fatherhood bonus, and some practical first steps for anyone who feels stuck in an exhausting relationship dynamic.
For more from today's guest, Laura Danger:
Get your copy of Girl Gone Wild from Bookshop.org or Amazon.
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:
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Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
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For the 257th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes author and New Yorker cartoonist Sophie Lucido Johnson.
Sophie is the author of Kin: The Future of Family, a thought-provoking book that explores how we can build meaningful, supportive relationships beyond the traditional nuclear family. In this conversation, we get into the roots of the loneliness epidemic and how modern life has pulled us away from community, what we can learn from polyamorous and nontraditional family structures, and why friendship and chosen family might be just as vital as romantic love. We also talk about raising kids in expansive networks, navigating conflict and accountability with people who aren't relatives, and what it really looks like to show up for each other—emotionally, logistically, and even financially.
For more from today's guest, Sophie Lucido Johnson:
Get your copy of Girl Gone Wild from Bookshop.org or Amazon.
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
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For the 256th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes writer and publicist Lindsey Hall, whose viral essay “I Stumbled Across My Boyfriend’s ChatGPT and It Ended Our Relationship” ignited a massive conversation about love, privacy, and AI in the modern dating landscape.
In this episode, Lindsey shares the story behind the accidental discovery of her boyfriend’s ChatGPT conversations—and how reading what felt like his digital diary ultimately unraveled their relationship. We get into the ethics of snooping, what it means to outsource your emotional processing to AI, and the blurred lines between private thoughts and digital footprints in the age of supercharged technology. Lindsey also opens up about navigating vulnerability, attraction, intuition, and self-worth.
For more from today's guest, Lindsey Hall:
Get your copy of Girl Gone Wild from Bookshop.org or Amazon.
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:
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For the 255th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Rosa Campbell, historian and author of The Book That Taught the World to Orgasm and Then Disappeared: Shere Hite and the Hite Report.
In this episode, Rosa unpacks the groundbreaking (and controversial) legacy of Shere Hite and her bestselling work, The Hite Report—a feminist text that revolutionized how we talk about women’s pleasure, desire, and dissatisfaction. We get into Hite’s unlikely path—from being raised by a single mom in a conservative environment to modeling and working in the sex industry—and how those experiences uniquely positioned her to challenge dominant narratives about sex. We also explore the global impact of The Hite Report, the cultural backlash that ultimately erased Hite from mainstream feminist history, and why her work is still relevant today despite all the progress.
For more from today's guest, Rosa Campbell:
Get your copy of Girl Gone Wild from Bookshop.org or Amazon.
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:
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For the 254th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes writer, journalist, and professor Mallary Tenore Tarpley.
Mallary is the author of Slip: Life in the Middle of Eating Disorder Recovery, and her work reframes recovery not as a clean, finished destination, but as a messy, ongoing “middle place” where progress and setbacks coexist. In this episode, we talk about how grief, control, and perfectionism shaped her eating disorder after losing her mother at a young age, what treatment actually looks like behind the scenes, the concept of normative discontent (the cultural reality that most of us struggle with our bodies), how slips can become opportunities for growth instead of shame spirals, and how she talks to her kids about food, bodies, and emotions in a way that breaks generational cycles. Plus, we dive into the complexities of pregnancy and postpartum recovery with an eating disorder history.
For more from today's guest, Mallary Tenore Tarpley:
Get your copy of Girl Gone Wild from Bookshop.org or Amazon.
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
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Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.
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For the 253rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, the tables are turned—host Courtney Kocak is interviewed by returning guest and Spent author Antonia Crane about her debut memoir Girl Gone Wild on its pub date!
Girl Gone Wild is an unwittingly feminist coming-of-age about ambition, delusion, sex, shame, and misogyny—from growing up in small-town Minnesota to chasing her Hollywood dreams… including a stint selling T-shirts on the Girls Gone Wild tour.
We go behind the scenes of the book’s 15-year journey from first essay to publication and its evolution. We also talk about sex work, addiction, abusive relationships, “dark teachers,” the writers who shaped Courtney’s voice, the challenge of fact-checking memory, and why memoir is about emotional truth more than perfect accuracy.
For more from today's special guest host, Antonia Crane:
Order Girl Gone Wild now—it directly supports the show and helps the book reach more readers. Get your copy of Girl Gone Wild from Bookshop.org or Amazon.
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For the 252nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes life coach, transformation specialist, and author Dr. Dravon James.
Dr. Dravon is the author of Forgiveness: The Pathway to Happiness, and her approach reframes forgiveness as an act of self-love rather than as something we do for those who hurt us. In this episode, we talk about why waiting for an apology keeps you stuck, how unresolved resentment shows up in your relationships, and practical tools for starting a forgiveness practice—especially after a breakup, which is when I’ve needed it most. We also get into the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, and how to set boundaries without holding on to anger.
For more from today's guest, Dr. Dravon James:
Get your copy of Girl Gone Wild from Bookshop.org or Amazon.
Preorder 10 copies of Girl Gone Wild to join The Confessional—a live memoir writing residency during the launch of Girl Gone Wild. For more details, visit www.courtneykocak.com/teaching.
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow
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