Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the World

For the 120th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes the long-time co-hosts of the Multiamory podcast, Jase Lindgren, Emily Sotelo Matlack, and Dedeker Winston, to celebrate the publication of their new book, Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships.

Today we’re talking about non-monogamy with a triad of podcasting OGs. Jase, Emily, and Dedeker have been podcasting together for nearly a decade… so long that they’ve developed their own relationship tools and co-authored a new book that just came out. In this episode, we discuss the romance that preceded the podcast, podcasting through a breakup, the cultural shift toward non-monogamy — which they helped forge — their favorite chapters and tools from the book, their keys to good relationships of any kind, and tips for open relationships in specific.

For more from today's guests, Jase, Emily, and Dedeker, from the Multiamory podcast:

• Check out their website multiamory.com
• Check out multiamory.com/book for more info about their new book and how to order it
• Order their new book Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships on Bookshop.org
• Follow Multiamory on Twitter @multiamory
• Follow Multiamory on Instagram @multiamory_podcast

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For the 119th episode of Private Parts Unknown, first, host Courtney Kocak shares an update on Hot Pod Summer; then, you'll hear the story Courtney reported on Charlie Matula and his husband, Hunter Fox, entitled "Happily leather after at The Eagle in Silver Lake" for KCRW, the local NPR affiliate based in Santa Monica, California. The story originally aired in June 2019 for Pride.

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For the 118th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Gigi Engle, sex educator, soon-to-be sex therapist, and author of All the F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life.

Today we’re doing a listener-requested episode. I got requests to cover praise kink and breeding kink, and I've been hearing a lot about both of them lately, so I invited Gigi Engle on the show to give us the 411. Gigi’s got bylines at top publications, and she’s really good at breaking this stuff down and unpacking the nuances, so she’s the perfect person to be our guide as we explore these two kinks and what they suggest about our culture. Gigi also shares her journey to becoming a sexpert, and the difference between a kink and a fetish.

For more from today's guest, Gigi Engle:

• Check out the 3Fun app, for which Gigi is the lead intimacy expert https://www.go3fun.co/faq.html
• Order Gigi's book All the F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life on Bookshop.org
• Follow Gigi Engle on Instagram @gigiengle
• Check out all Gigi's links missgigiengle.com/links

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For the 117th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes another history-maker to the podcast: Maebe A. Girl, the first drag queen elected to public office in the U.S. She is currently a member of the Silver Lake Neighborhood Council, while also running for a seat in the U.S. House of Representatives to represent California's 30th Congressional District. Maebe uses she/they pronouns and identifies as trans and gender fluid.

In this episode, first, you'll hear the story Courtney reported on Maebe A. Girl for KCRW, the local NPR affiliate based in Santa Monica, California, back in September 2019. The story, entitled "For Maebe A. Girl, gender nonconformity isn't her only political act," actually went on to win an LA Press Club Award for Gender/LGBT reporting. After the original radio story, Maebe A. Girl gives us an update on her life these days, including politics, drag, the competitive advantages of her third run for Congress, and her love life.

For more from today's guest, Maebe A. Girl:

• Check out Maebe's campaign website to donate or volunteer maebeagirlforcongress.org
• Follow Maebe A. Girl on Instagram @maebeagirl
• Check out Maebe's Linkree for all her links linktr.ee/maebeforcongress

Check out the award-winning KCRW story Courtney reported on Maebe A. Girl here: https://www.kcrw.com/news/shows/greater-la/silver-lake-drag-queen-takes-on-politics/for-maebe-a-girl-gender-nonconformity-isnt-her-only-political-act

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The 15-month effort to gain union recognition by dancers employed at the Star Garden Topless Dive Bar in North Hollywood, California, ended in victory this week. For the 116th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Velveeta, one of Star Garden's newly unionized strippers, to explain how this historic milestone came to be.

On Monday, May 15th, lawyers representing the owners of the Star Garden withdrew all election challenges, agreed to recognize the union, and will meet with the Actors’ Equity Association across the bargaining table within 30 days to negotiate a first contract. The club also will reopen for business and bring back dancers who were dismissed last year.

The spark that ignited the unionization campaign was lit in March of 2022 when the club’s security guards repeatedly failed to protect dancers from threatening and abusive behavior from patrons. Dancers were illegally fired for bringing concerns about safety and security to management. With the assistance of Strippers United, a 501(c)3 organization led by strippers that advocates for strippers’ rights, Star Garden’s strippers began picketing outside the strip club to protest unsafe working conditions. Picketing continued every week through November outside the club’s location on Lankershim Blvd in North Hollywood, California.

Last August, the dancers announced they had affiliated with Equity. Shortly afterward, the national union filed for an election with the NLRB on behalf of the dancers. In the fall, the labor board conducted an election by mail. A vote count was scheduled for November, but the results were put on hold by the NLRB due to employer objections and legal filings. The NLRB was scheduled to hold a hearing this week over the employer objections. That hearing is now unnecessary and has been canceled.

Star Garden’s dancers are not the first strippers to seek union recognition. Strippers at San Francisco’s Lusty Lady organized the Exotic Dancers Union in 1997. They were affiliated with the Service Employees International Union. The Lusty Lady closed in 2013.

So that’s how the Star Garden dancers became America's only unionized strippers at the moment. Perhaps they will inspire others just like they were inspired by the Lusties.

For more from today's guest:

• For more about Stripper Strike Noho! and how you can support the cause linktr.ee/stripperstrikenoho
• Follow Stripper Strike Noho on Instagram @stripperstrikenoho
• Follow Strippers United on Instagram @strippersunite

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For the 115th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes lawyer turned OnlyFans model Jazmen Jafar.

Jazmen’s story has gone viral lately and is unique in that she comes from a strict Middle Eastern, Iranian-American household, and after law school, she abandoned the legal profession to become a full-time adult content creator. But it’s paid off because she now earns three times what she made practicing law!

In this episode, we discuss Jazmen Jafar’s journey from being a practicing attorney to being in the top 0.03% on OnlyFans, coming out to conservative parents, the changing cultural attitude towards sex work, promoting on Reddit, her Twitch strategy, tips for creators trying to make more money on OnlyFans, how to be a good fan on OnlyFans, and more.

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• Check out Jazmen's website for all her links jazmenjafar.com

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Hi Privates! Today, I'm sharing a preview of one of my favorite podcasts: The Slutrepreneur Podcast. Join Ana Dee on her journey to financial freedom being a professional goddess in the adult industry, sharing the success and struggle of unconventional ways to make money from home. Today’s clip features her tips and tricks for the field of selling your dirty underwear online. Listen and learn how to start a side hustle selling your worn items safely and discreetly with the help of The Slutrepreneur’s Rulebook.

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For the 114th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes happily married swingers Dave and Victoria Arena for an episode all about non-monogamy — swinging, in specific. And I have the perfect guests because they’ve been happily married and active in the lifestyle for decades.

I met Dave and Victoria through a screenwriting workshop. They actually wrote a pilot for a TV series inspired by their swinger lifestyle. In real life, it began as innocent pillow talk, but when Victoria took the daring step to sign them up for a non-monogamy app, they had no idea what they were in for... But they quickly worked through that first awkward encounter and have been making it work ever since. Twenty years is a long time to be happily swinging with your partner, so in this episode, we'll learn their secrets for lasting so long in the lifestyle. We also explore how they first became swingers, their initial rules, how they prioritize their relationship, the joys of sex clubs, and the swinging scene in Cleveland, Ohio vs. New York City, plus tips for couples who want to start swinging and how to approach the conversation with your partner.

For more from today's guests, Dave and Victoria Arena:

• Connect with Victoria and Dave on Twitter @breakshiz
• Connect with Victoria on Instagram @varenanycmua
• Connect with Victoria on Twitter @VictoriaRArena
• Connect with Dave on Instagram @davearenacomedy
• Connect with Dave on Twitter @davearena
• Check out Dave and Victoria's website breakshiz.com

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For the 113th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Allison Moon, sex educator and author of "Girl Sex 101" and "Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex."

In this "Quickie" episode, we’re going to help you unlock how to pleasure vulva owners with simple hand and oral sex techniques. We discuss the importance of communication, understanding anatomy, and paying attention to your partner's body language and reactions. We also touch on the topic of fisting, sharing tips for beginners, and debunking misconceptions about the practice.

For more from today's guest, Allison Moon:

• Order Girl Sex 101 from Bookshop.org
• Check out Allison's website alliedmoon.com
• Connect with Allison on Instagram @allison_moon

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Are you a fan of adult entertainment? Then you've got to listen to one of my favorite podcasts: Holly Randall Unfiltered. In this sample from Holly's show, the iconic performer Adriana Chechick joins Holly for an interview that shows Adriana's MANY sides! You’ll hear about her upbringing in foster care, her honest reflections on career regrets, and why she finds gangbangs empowering. Adriana will surprise you with her brutally honest insight into a storied career that brought her so much fame... and why she has decided to leave it all behind.

For more from Holly Randall Unfiltered:

• Listen to Holly Randall Unfiltered wherever you listen to podcasts
• Check out the Holly Randall Unfiltered website hollyrandallunfiltered.com

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