Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the World

For the 102nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes three women who not only harnessed the opportunity in their breakups but turned it into their life's work: Amy Chan of Breakup Bootcamp, Kendra Allen of Break Up Bestie, and Gabrielle Stone of Eat, Pray, #FML.

If you've recently been dumped or are struggling to get over a past relationship, this episode is for you! This is the ultimate breakup recovery guide to help you not just survive but thrive after your breakup. No matter how desperate you feel or how embarrassing things have gotten with your ex, you CAN heal your heartbreak, and we'll tell you how. Topics covered include:

• What are attachment styles?
• How long does it take to get over a breakup?
• Should you implement the no-contact rule?
• Can you get back together with your ex?
• Can you stay friends with your ex?
• How to handle friend breakups
• Tips for avoiding social media triggers post-breakup
• And more!

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Private Parts Unknown is a podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations — destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo, Japan.

Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter.

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For the 101st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Alexander Cheves — sex writer, sex worker, sex educator, and author of My Love is a Beast: Confessions — for a primer on fisting.

In addition to fisting 101 tips, Alex shares his experiences coming out, living with HIV in a post-PrEP world (vs. in the 80s or even ten years ago), becoming a sex worker, becoming a sex writer, and writing his memoir My Love is a Beast: Confessions. We also discuss tips for exploring kink, how the pandemic shifted how he thinks about his sexuality, and why he recently moved to Berlin, Germany.

For more Alexander Cheves:

• Check out Alex's website alexander-cheves.com
• Check out Alex's sex advice blog lovebeastly.com
• Buy Alex's book My Love is a Beast: Confessions
• Follow Alexander Cheves on Twitter @BadAlexCheves
• Follow Alexander Cheves on Instagram @badalexcheves

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Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

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For the 100th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Lola Jean, sex educator, headmistress of 7 Days of Domination (for aspiring pro doms/dommes), and world record holder for volume squirting!

We discuss Lola's sexual revolutions, her experience working at a dungeon, going independent as a dominatrix and fetish wrestler, tips for exploring kink, how she discovered she could squirt, how she became a two-time world-record-setting squirter, the two different types of squirters, squirting advice, pegging pointers, how 7 Days of Domination started, and tips for those thinking about domming professionally.

For more Lola Jean:

• Check out Lola Jean's website lolajean.com
• Check out the 7 Days of Domination website 7daysofdomination.com
• Follow Lola Jean on Twitter @lolajeandotcom
• Follow Lola Jean on Instagram @lolajeandotcom

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Here's a playlist of our previous abortion-related episodes, including the "Men Have Abortions Too" series: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4BFDkcQYzdfq5YEV5buzzO?si=19a1d68b109845dd

Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow

Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

• Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com.
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For the 99th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares how the abortion debate has become a truly national issue as its begun popping up at Southern California City Council meetings. This first happened over the summer in San Clemente, and more recently in Temecula. Courtney takes you inside a recent Temecula City Council to show you how it all went down.

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Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

• Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com.
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For the 98th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Orna Donath, an Israeli sociologist, author, and feminist activist who wrote the book Regretting Motherhood based on her research.

We talk about ambivalence vs. regret, the difference in how the genders are socialized around parenthood, the external pressures women face to become mothers, how she conducted her study, and more.

For more Orna Donath:

• Buy Orna's book Regretting Motherhood: A Study

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Here's a playlist of our previous abortion-related episodes, including the "Men Have Abortions Too" series: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4BFDkcQYzdfq5YEV5buzzO?si=19a1d68b109845dd

Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow

Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

• Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com.
• Go to RexMD.com/private today to get started with a sample pack prescription of generic Viagra. All orders come with FREE 2-day shipping. Rex MD – the authority in men’s telehealth.
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For the 97th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Hallie Lieberman, author of Buzz: The Stimulating History of the Sex Toy, to talk us through the highlight reel of sex toy history. Hallie literally has a Ph.D. in sex toys, so she's the perfect guide.

We discuss how sex toys were illegal in Texas until 2008 (and scary indicators that sex-related laws are regressing!), the Kinsey Institute, Japanese shunga, Anthony Comstock and his terrible legacy of sexual suppression, Betty Dodson and how she linked masturbation to women's liberation, the incredible story of Gosnell Duncan, and more. Hallie also shares what she learned from writing "Women Explain Why They Buy Male Sex Dolls" for Buzzfeed's Sneaky Links series and her predictions for the intersection of sex toys and politics in the future. Plus, we swap gigolo stories.

For more Hallie Lieberman:

• Listen to Hallie's Joy Boy podcast about Gosnell Duncan
• Check out Hallie's website hallielieberman.com
• Follow Hallie on Twitter @hallielieberman
• Follow Hallie on Instagram @hallielieberman

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Here's a playlist of our previous abortion-related episodes, including the "Men Have Abortions Too" series: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4BFDkcQYzdfq5YEV5buzzO?si=19a1d68b109845dd

Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow

Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

• Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com.
• Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30-day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private.
• Go to RexMD.com/private today to get started with a sample pack prescription of generic Viagra. All orders come with FREE 2-day shipping. Rex MD – the authority in men’s telehealth.
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For the 96th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Jaclyn Friedman, founder and executive director of EducateUS: SIECUS In Action, to talk about sex ed in the U.S. — and why it's vital that we do better.

Jaclyn is a long-time feminist activist. She's also the author of Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All and What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety. In this episode, Jaclyn shares her mission to transform public school sex education in the United States and how we can do that via voting and running for office on the school board level, as so much of this issue is currently decided locally. We also cover the wide-reaching impact of good sex ed, how the culture wars are drawing attention to work in this space, the insidious, politically co-opted language of "grooming" and how it affects childhood sexual assault survivors, and more.

For more Jaclyn Friedman:

• Check out the EducateUS: SIECUS In Action website educateusaction.org
• Check out Jaclyn's website jaclynfriedman.com
• Follow Jaclyn on Twitter @jaclynf
• Follow Jaclyn on Instagram @jaclynfable

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Here's a playlist of our previous abortion-related episodes, including the "Men Have Abortions Too" series: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4BFDkcQYzdfq5YEV5buzzO?si=19a1d68b109845dd

Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow

Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

• Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com.
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For the 95th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Zachary Zane, Men's Health Magazine sex advice columnist, Boyslut author (now available for preorder!) & host of the biannual BISLUT sex party for bisexual people and their admirers. Zachary's been dubbed a “Bisexual Mega Influencer” by the NY Daily News.

We dive into Zachary's sexual awakening, coming to terms with his bisexuality and coming out, his mission to destigmatize sexuality through his writing, some favorite stories from his erotic newsletter, the best sex party ever, how consent norms differ in different spaces, his favorite type of threesome, getting the Monkeypox vaccine in NYC vs. LA, and more.

For more Zachary Zane:

• Preorder Zachary's book Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto
• Subscribe to the BOYSLUT newsletter zacharyzane.substack.com/welcome
• Check out Zachary's website zacharyzane.com
• Follow Zachary on Twitter @ZacharyZane_
• Follow Zachary on Instagram @zacharyzane_

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Here's a playlist of our previous abortion-related episodes, including the "Men Have Abortions Too" series: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4BFDkcQYzdfq5YEV5buzzO?si=19a1d68b109845dd

Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow

Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

• Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com.
• Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30-day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private.
• Go to RexMD.com/private today to get started with a sample pack prescription of generic Viagra. All orders come with FREE 2-day shipping. Rex MD – the authority in men’s telehealth.
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For the 94th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dr. Diana Greene Foster, who's responsible for some fascinating and groundbreaking research on abortion and contraceptives.

Dr. Foster is a professor at the University of California-San Fransisco, the director of research at ANSIRH, and the author of The Turnaway Study: Ten Years, a Thousand Women, and the Consequences of Having—Or Being Denied—An Abortion. In this episode, we dive into the Turnaway Study — why she started the study, how the study was conducted, her hypothesis and how it lined up with the results, what Gloria Steinem said about her book, and more.

For more Dr. Diana Greene Foster:

• Check out the website for ANSIRH ansirh.org
• Follow Dr. Foster on Twitter @Dianagfoster
• Buy Dr. Foster's book The Turnaway Study: Ten Years, a Thousand Women, and the Consequences of Having—Or Being Denied—An Abortion

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Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow

Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

• Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com.
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