Prosperity for Posterity

Law of perseverance

BUILDING THE NEXT GENERATION WITH YOUR WORDS

Thank you for tuning in to today’s episode of the Prosperity for Posterity podcast.

The topic of today is one that’s very close to my heart and I am here with a guest to have this discussion - Phinnah Chichi.

Phinnah Chichi’s Bio: IG: https://instagram.com/phinnahchichi?utm_medium=copy_link

Phinnah Chichi is a passionate Parenting Teens Educator/Consultant and a Teens Personal Development Coach who has worked with parents of teens and teens for over 15 years.

She runs an Organisation called Parenting Teens Solutions Ltd which is dedicated to Educating, Empowering, Encouraging and Equipping parents with the right tools to help themselves and their teens as they navigate through the changes and challenges of the adolescent journey.

It is her mission to help, support, disrupt wrong parenting habits/norms and transform the lives of families through serving both parents of teens and their teens.

Phinnah believes that raising teens does not have to be stressful And that when we know better as parents, we do better.

In today’s episode:

✅Welcome and Introduction of my guest (1:30)

✅How did you start to be more intentional about how you speak to your children? (5:10)

✅How should we see our children? (8:47)

✅How should we speak to our children? (11:35)

✅Unlearning and relearning parenting styles (15:57)

✅Phinnah Chichi’s programs (20:19)

✅What are the dangers we are pushing our children out in the world when we shout them down? (26:00)

✅Let’s go practical (35:35)

✅Phinnah Chichi’s Parting Words (58:45)

Always remember that your choices today affect generations to come - CHOOSE TO BE GOOD!

Thank you for tuning in to today’s episode of the Prosperity for Posterity Podcast.

The topic of today is a very crucial one - in fact the scriptures says:

Prov. 11:14 - Where there is no counsel, the people fall; But in the multitude of counselors there is safety.

I want to talk to you about mentoring relationship under the topic “who is your father”

There are many avenues by which God intends for us to maximize our potential and fulfill our destiny while we are here on planet earth. One of those avenues is relationships. God never intended for us to do life alone – human beings are created for relationships and these relationships come in diverse ways and I will be talking about one of such on today’s episode of the Prosperity for Posterity podcast – Mentoring Relationship.

In this episode, you will learn:

what mentoring relationship is

a number of benefits of having mentoring relationships

how to choose a mentor

and how to maximize the mentoring relationship

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Always remember that your choices today affect generations to come - CHOOSE TO BE GOOD!

Seek The Wisdom From Above

James 3:17

“But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy.”

‭‭James‬ ‭3:17‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

What is wisdom?

Wisdom is defined by the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment; the quality of being wise.

A synonym for wisdom is common sense.

In a nutshell, I will summarize wisdom to mean the ability to know the right action to take on any and every situation - having the “know-how” of life.

The All-wise God created us in His image and in His likeness, which means wisdom for living is part of the package. Have ever stop to ponder how Adam was able to single-handedly know what to name the animals and the Bible says whatsoever he named them remains their names till today.

That is wisdom in action.

Wisdom is very important in life if we must live a life of purpose, a life of significance - one that will impact generations to come:

“Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom…”‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭4:7‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

“Getting wisdom is the wisest thing you can do!…”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭4:7‬ ‭NLT‬‬

How do you get wisdom?

Ask God

“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.” ‭‭James‬ ‭1:5‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Prioritize getting wisdom

“The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it costs all you have, get understanding.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭4:7‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Seek out wisdom from the word of God

“The law of the Lord is perfect, converting the soul; The testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple;”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭19:7‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

We know God is the All-Wise; all-knowing God, then it will be best to seek wisdom from His words

Learn from experience

Experience, they say, is the best teacher but it doesn’t necessarily have to be your own experience. The most beneficial type of experience to learn from is that of others. Why, you ask? You have the blessings of the lessons without the scars and the mistakes to show for it personally.

You learn from other people’s experience through:

reading their books

Working with a coach or mentor

“He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will be destroyed.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭13:20‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

A good coach can shorten the learning curve exponentially.

(Check out Episode 3 of my podcast titled “Who is your father” for tips on how to choose a mentor)

In conclusion, the wisdom of God; the wisdom from above that we must seek is:

pure: based on God’s word & not manipulative

peaceable: not with a mentality of my way or the highway; not forceful

gentle: not boastful

willing to yield: not self-seeking

full of mercy: not revengeful

good fruits: the end result is always good

without partiality and without hypocrisy.”

Whatever counsel or advice you want to follow, must fulfill all those qualities.

Let us pray:

Dear Heavenly Father, I praise you because you are the All-Wise; All-knowing God. I pray for your divine wisdom upon everyone listening or reading this devotional right now - that they no longer linger in confusion, not knowing what to do or how to go about life, but that from this moment on they will receive your wisdom for living victoriously in Jesus name! Amen! Amen!! Amen!!!

Seek Peace & Pursue It

1 Peter 3:10-11

“For, “Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech. They must turn from evil and do good; they must seek peace and pursue it.”

‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭3:10-11‬ ‭NIV‬‬

This is Part 3 of Key to Living A Long & Prosperous Life

Seeking peace and pursuing it is so crucial to enjoying your life and living long.

It is the duty of Christians not only to embrace peace when it is offered, but also to seek and pursue it when it is denied.

“Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord:” ‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭12:14‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

As Christ believers we are peace dealers, Jesus called us peacemakers -

“Blessed are the peacemakers, For they shall be called sons of God.” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5:9‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

There are three dimensions of this peace that I would like us to examine, there is peace with God, peace of God and then peace with fellow humans. It is impossible for anyone to experience the true peace of God or be able to pursue peace with anyone without first experiencing peace with God.

What does it mean to have peace with God?

Peace with God means that our great sin debt has been paid and God sees us as righteous - we are no longer objects of His wrath because the word of God says ““There is no peace,” … “for the wicked.” ‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭48:22‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

but right now we are enjoying His mercy, grace and love.

We have peace with God through salvation.

What does it mean to have the peace of God?

Paul’s prayer for the Philippians in the 7th verse of chapter 4:

“and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:7‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

To have the peace of God means having an extra ordinary calmness in your mind, body and soul that supersedes any prevailing circumstance. As Scriptures says “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:6‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Basically, no circumstances no matter how core-shaking it could be, would be able to overwhelm you - that’s why the scriptures say it surpasses all understanding.

Now to the 3rd dimension, which is the subject of our discussion, peace with fellow humans. So the question will be, how do I seek and pursue peace with everyone?

It is only a heart full of God’s love that will be able to seek and pursue peace with others.

In our pursuit of peace, we must learn to seek understanding in conflict so as to reach for peaceful resolution.

Additionally, pursuing peace means we are seekers of forgiveness and not revenge. To help reach the point of forgiveness, we have to learn to let go of past wrongs.

And lastly, fill your heart with joyful thoughts about the situation. Look to the brighter future and enjoy everyday free of resentment and bitterness and thereby allowing yourself to enjoy a long and prosperous life.

Be a peace dealer.

Let us pray:

Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for filling our hearts with your divine peace that passes all understanding. Thank you for redeeming us from being children of wrath to being recipients of your mercy, grace & love. Daddy, I pray that you fill our hearts with your peace, enable us to follow, seek and pursue peace as much as it lies in our power to do. In Jesus name Amen! Amen!! Amen!!!

Turn From Evil & Do Good.

1 Peter 3:10-11

“For, “Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech. They must turn from evil and do good; they must seek peace and pursue it.”

‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭3:10-11‬ ‭NIV‬‬

This is part 2 of the Key to Living A Long & Prosperous Life

Do good and turn away from evil.

Do good:

“Therefore, to him who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it is sin.” ‭‭James‬ ‭4:17‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

There are several opportunities everyday for us to do good. I’m not talking about big gestures of goodness, but rather little things like saying please and thank you; Smiling at others around you to brighten their day; being a good neighbor; a good citizen - obey traffic signs;

In your relationships, to lead a prosperously long life, you must

“…love … without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good. Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another;” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭12:9-10‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Job 29:11-18 is my favorite scripture - I title the chapter leading a fulfilled life:

“When the ear heard, then it blessed me, And when the eye saw, then it approved me; Because I delivered the poor who cried out, The fatherless and the one who had no helper. The blessing of a perishing man came upon me, And I caused the widow’s heart to sing for joy. I put on righteousness, and it clothed me; My justice was like a robe and a turban. I was eyes to the blind, And I was feet to the lame. I was a father to the poor, And I searched out the case that I did not know. I broke the fangs of the wicked, And plucked the victim from his teeth. “Then I said, ‘I shall die in my nest, And multiply my days as the sand.”

‭‭Job‬ ‭29:11-18‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Turn from evil:

It is never enough to simply try to do good, however, We must also avoid evil with each step we take. Avoiding evil includes avoiding the appearance of it.

There are lots of people who do good but are still deep seated in activities directly or indirectly that bring harm to others.

Psalm 1 gives us how to avoid evil:

“Blessed is the man Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, Nor stands in the path of sinners, Nor sits in the seat of the scornful; But his delight is in the law of the Lord, And in His law he meditates day and night. He shall be like a tree Planted by the rivers of water, That brings forth its fruit in its season, Whose leaf also shall not wither; And whatever he does shall prosper.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭1:1-3‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

As much as we are doing good, we must be far from evil also.

To live long and be prosperous - you must turn from evil and do good.

Let us pray:

Dear Heavenly Father, we praise you because you are a good God. Thank you for loading us with your goodness on a daily basis - new every morning. Daddy, I pray that you grant us a heart filled with your love for ourselves and for others. Help us to turn away from evil and do good all the days of our lives in Jesus name! Amen! Amen!! Amen!!!

Key to Living a Long & Prosperous Life

1 Peter 3:10-11

“For, “Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech. They must turn from evil and do good; they must seek peace and pursue it.”

‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭3:10-11‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Do you love life?

Do you desire to enjoy your life?

How about a good long life?

Then the scriptures say, you must keep your tongue from evil and your lips from deceitful speech.

In yesterday devotional, I spoke to you about the quality of your thoughts and how they affect your life.

I am so thankful that today’s topic follows in succession because both of these are closely related.

“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he…”‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭23:7‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

“… For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth evil things. (‭‭Matthew‬ ‭12:34-37‬ ‭NKJV‬)

These verses of scripture tell us the important connection between our thoughts and what we say.

Have you ever found yourself in a heated argument and you ended up saying things that you regretted afterwards? Those regretful words that came out of your mouth - where did they come from?

Even if you could not admit it - those words have been on your mind - in your subconscious and the anger gave you a platform to express them.

As Jesus said in Matthew 12 - we all speak out of the treasure we have kept in the mind even if we fail to admit them.

Jesus continued in verse 36-37continued and warned us

… I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it on the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭12:36-37‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

How do we keep our tongue from evil and our lips from deceitful speeches?

You must “… let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5:37‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Keep your mouth free of perversity; keep corrupt talk far from your lips.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭4:23-24‬ ‭NIV‬‬

In an attempt to feel belonged, you might want to revert back to your old way of speaking when you are among your unbeliever friends - that’s why it is important to keep your distance from places or people that will draw you back into those evil ways. The best way to do this is to let them know where you stand. I used to have colleagues that will tell each other in my presence not to use profanity because I was there.

I’ll conclude with James 3:9-12 on the need to bridle our tongue:

“With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth comes praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. Can both freshwater and saltwater flow from the same spring? My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.”‭‭James‬ ‭3:9-12‬ ‭NIV‬‬

And these are my favorite prayers when it comes to my words:

““The Lord God has given Me The tongue of the learned, That I should know how to speak A word in season to him who is weary. ...” ‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭50:4‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Pray: Father, give me the tongue of the learned that I may know how to speak a word in season to anyone who is weary.

The second prayer is found in Colossians 4:6

“Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.” ‭‭Colossians‬ ‭4:6‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Pray: Father, let my speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that I may know how I ought to answer everyone

In Jesus’ name we have prayed Amen! Amen!! Amen!!!

What’s on Your Mind?

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:8

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:8‬ ‭NIV‬‬

James Allen in his book, as a man thinketh wrote: The sum of a person’s thoughts are their character. Which means our thoughts have a significant role to play in how we live our lives.

If that is the case, I believe you will agree with me that more attention needs to be given to what is on our minds per time.

No matter how affirming anyone outside of yourself could be towards you - if your thoughts towards yourself are the opposite, you will find it hard to accept what they are saying, instead you will find every way to make your thoughts right instead. You’ll either begin thinking they are insincere or that they have ulterior motives for saying those things to you or about you.

Philippians 4:8 gave us a litmus test on what we should allow in our minds. To put this into practice, I want you to pause for a moment, can you recall what was on your mind before picking up this devotional?

Let’s run that thought through the litmus test:

whatever is true

Is the thought true? Even if it’s a fact, is it the truth? How do you know it is the truth - it must align with the word of God.

whatever is noble

Are the thoughts admirable? Are they things you are not ashamed to voice from the rooftop to the admiration of the hearers? Most smart TVs come with the feature that allows you to cast what you’re watching on your phone on the TV for better viewing experience - now if there’s a way to cast your thoughts onto a giant tv for others to see - will it be admirable.

whatever is right

Right or wrong goes with being just. Ultimately, if God weighs your thought will it find it right before Him?

whatever is pure

If the eyes of God cannot behold impurity - we cannot pretend our thoughts are hidden from Him, so will that thought stand before God?

whatever is lovely

Whatever is praiseworthy.

Whether your thoughts are about you, others, or things, if they do not pass this litmus test, you must discard them as if they were a sin.

Have you heard the saying “I won’t be caught dead in that” - now let me apply it here - don’t be caught thinking it. Instead, catch yourself, discard it and replace it with what is true, what is right, what is noble, what is admirable, what is pure, what is lovely and praiseworthy.

Throughout your day today, pay attention to your thoughts and be intentional about what you allow in your mind. When you catch yourself thinking negatively, pick up a pen and write the opposite that’s true, noble & lovely in your journal.

You must:

“…be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

‭‭Romans‬ ‭12:2‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Let us pray:

Dear Heavenly Father, we are grateful for your words that’s available to us to help us renew our mind from being desperately wicked to being what is good & pleasing to you. We bring every of our thoughts captive now to the obedience of Christ in Jesus name Amen! Amen!! Amen!!!

My Help Comes From The Lord

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭121:1-2‬

“I lift up my eyes to the mountains— where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭121:1-2‬ ‭NIV‬‬

A lot of times we succumb to the temptation of making challenges seem bigger than our God. There's a popular saying that what you focus on gets bigger.

If you keep your focus on your problems and challenges - little surprise, you have more of the problems and challenges.

On the other hand, however, let’s examine what happens if you keep your focus on God instead:

your understanding of His ways increases

your faith grows

you will begin to see possibilities and find ways to come out of the challenges.

Therefore, don’t you think it is time to shift your focus?

Shift your focus to God away from the challenges. Away from the problems.

“I lift up my eyes to the mountains— where does my help come from?

The simple act of lifting up your eyes to the mountains gets you out of a depressed state;

“Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame.” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭34:5‬ ‭NIV‬‬

What are the ways you may begin to lift your eyes to the God:

worship God

We become like unto those whom we desire or worship, therefore when we worship God we tend to become like Him and our faith grows thereby

listen to other people’s testimonies & recall some of yours

testimonies are powerful in helping us see possibilities

declare what God is able to do on your current situation

there’s a saying that a closed mouth doesn’t get fed. which in turn reminds me of one of my mom’s sayings: it is with your mouth you will say what you’re not interested in eating.

like the Hebrew boys - declare your even-if-love for God while in the midst of the challenge

“Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego replied to him, “King Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to defend ourselves before you in this matter. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to deliver us from it, and he will deliver us from Your Majesty’s hand. But even if he does not, we want you to know, Your Majesty, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up.””

‭‭Daniel‬ ‭3:16-18‬ ‭NIV‬‬

My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth

Let us pray:

Dear Heavenly Father, thank you because you have been our help in ages past and because you never leave nor forsake us - we are rest assured that you are with us now and that our help is near. Thank you Jesus! In Jesus’ mighty name Amen! Amen!! Amen!!!

You Are In Good Hands

Isaiah 46:3-4

“Listen to me, you descendants of Jacob, all the remnants of the people of Israel, you whom I have upheld since your birth, and have carried since you were born. Even to your old age and gray hairs, I am He, I am He who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.”

‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭46:3-4‬ ‭NIV‬‬

The word Sustain means to support, hold, or bear up from below; endure without giving way or yielding; to keep (a person, the mind, the spirits, etc.) from giving way, as under trial or affliction;

We all face different kinds of challenges, trials, and tribulations in this life and there might be times we feel like we have done all we knew how to do - prayed, fasted, praised, bound and loosed, casting and pulling down - and yet it all feels like nothing is working.

You might even be tempted to begin to question the love of God for you - and start asking questions like “why me?” The enemy might even be whispering lies into your ears that “it’s because of those sin that you thought God has forgiven you for, see, you are being punished for it.”

Well, I am here bearing good news for you today - that God says it He who has kept you since the day you were born - He wants me to tell you this morning that He is your sustainer - He will carry you through.

Switch up your battle strategy today - you are not a victim, you are a victor - approach the situation knowing victory is assured. At the face of any appearance of defeat - rejoice still, knowing that your God, who sustains you is the one who commands his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways; 12 they will lift you up in their hands so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.

Also, begin yo recall all the ways God have brought you through similar situations in the past and begin to practice your victory dance because if He has come through in those times, He is not about to fail now, He will do it again.

So friends, be rest assured today that you are in good hands.

Let us pray:

Dear heavenly Father, thank you for being our sustainer, our pillar, and the lifter up of our heads. Help us, Lord, to always remember this no matter how hot the battle may get. In Jesus' mighty name - Amen! Amen!! Amen!!!