P.S. Younger Self

Do you set expectations in your relationships? Or feel like your expectations are too high? 

What happens when you have certain levels of expectations with your family, friends or with your romantic partner? They make you sad, disappointed or unhappy. 

Setting and having expectations goes hand in hand with the dangers of making assumptions. You assume someone would act a certain way because you create expectations of some imaginary experience. 

In this episode, we explore the implications of having and setting expectations in life and what it could mean by practicing letting go of all expectations.

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Can abundance be our birth right? Without feeling guilty about it, can we have  it all. 

In this week's episode, we speak to Lisa Moore, a tastemaker, thought leader & lifestyle entrepreneur bridging spirituality & style, who says yes, we can have it all! Lisa is the founder of URBAN GILT; a sleek fashion brand for soul-aligned women on a mission to live to their full potential.

She passionately shares her personal experience of becoming a soul-aligned person, which has not only led her to meet her soul partner in life and business, Hadrian Thomas. But, it has also led her on a mission to inspire more people to unapologetically raise their vibrations and seek more abundance in their life. Through her raw honesty and tactical tips, you'll learn what it means to be GILTY and how to own.

To connect with Lisa Moore, you can find her on Instagram here > https://www.instagram.com/lisa.c.moore or on Linkedin here > https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisacmoore/
You can also find Hadrian Thomas here > https://www.instagram.com/hadrian.thomas/

To learn more about Urban GILT, click here. 

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We can be our biggest limiting block in pursuing everything in life. A life authentically aligned with our heart and defined by our own terms. We get in our own heads, allow external voices to drown out our internal, intuitive voice and then let fears we create to cripple us in taking the leap of faith in everything we truly desire. 

In this unique episode, you'll hear me your host Chris Oh as a guest on Facing Fear Podcast with its host  Sara McInerney Hauck. I speak about why we are our own limiting blocks, how to face our own fears in pursuit of all of our dreams and the five proven tactical steps I've created and implemented over and over to take a leap of faith on everything in my past that held me back because of my own fears.

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 What constructs of your identity define you? What if we told you that constructs of previous generations don't work anymore?

In this powerful episode from our monthly collaboration with Hub Dot, we speak with an inspirational speaker, identity specialist, coach,  educator and the founder of the Identity Dichotomy, Lathi Dube who shares how her passion was born from a tragic loss in her family that led her on a mission today to transform the way we see identity. Lathi says it's so much more nuanced and often we struggle to reconcile our internal and external selves to understand our intrinsic role we have in this world.

Lathi doesn't hold anything back in this thought-provoking conversation about our identity dichotomy, the role of our core essence in shaping our identity (attitudes, values and experiences) and also the role of first impressions. Some have the luxury of first impressions, but how important are they in representing our authentic identity?


To connect with Lathi Dube, find her on Linkedin here. You can also visit her sites here and here.

To learn more about Hub Dot, click here. 

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What does it take to make big life-changing moves?

Female podcaster, digital media maven turned full time content creator of The Lipstick Fever who has been recognized by the huffington post, The Evening Standard and Elle to name a few, Em Roberts, has not only made some major moves in her own life, but is also inspiring women around the world to fearlessly do so too whether it’s in our personal or professional lives by speaking to motivating female founders and entrepreneurs through her own podcast called The Big Move.

We talked with Em to gain insight and perspective on how we can develop the right mindset to make major life-changing moves that can lead to positive change, transformation and growth.

In this episode, you'll learn:

5:35: Why the message of fearlessly making big moves is important to Em.

10:55: How to develop your mindset for any major big life-changing move.

15:13: How to overcome fear when making big moves.

17:13: The importance of taking that first step and the baby steps of progress when making big moves.

20:00: What is the difference between taking the first step vs. managing the steps along the big move.

25:14: Em's morning ritual that's instrumental in setting her mindset for success every day.

26:44: How Em found Stoicim and its meaning in her life.

30:50: How taking big moves can change your life perspective.

32:57: Em's next big move.

34:15: Em's one advice to her younger self to live fully in the present and always on her own terms.

To connect with Em, you can find her on her blog here > https://thelipstickfever.com and don't forget to listen to Em's podcast The Big Move where she speaks with incredible female entrepreneurs, creatives and industry leaders making big moves here .

You can also connect with Em on Instagram here > https://www.instagram.com/thelipstickfever

P.S. Listen to my guest episode on Em's podcast here. 

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No, you can't forgive and forget. But the practice of forgiveness (both to yourself and others) can lead to greater peace, self love and even better health. 

We speak with Jannecke Oinaes, a former musical theatre artist who had a longing to understand more of life’s mysteries and a deeper understanding of life. After traveling around the world she started interviewing some of the most reputed thought and spiritual leaders like Bruce Lipton and Gregg Braden on her popular YouTube channel and personal development community called Wisdom From North. Jannecke shares her personal experiences and practices of forgiving herself and people in her past and how they have led to radical acceptance and a deep sense of self love. 

Dive into this rich conversation to discover more about why and how we can practice forgiveness, understand the psychology of why it's a process and personal and learn tools and exercises to start your forgiveness practice today. 

To learn more and connect with Jannecke, you can connect with her here  - https://wisdomfromnorth.com or watch her library of fascinating interviews and conversations with transformational teachers and leaders here - https://www.youtube.com/user/MsOinaes You can also connect with Jannecke on Instagram here - https://www.instagram.com/wisdomfromnorth/

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Why is it so hard to say "No?" What is it about saying "no" that triggers guilt in us. How can we confidently say no without ever having to feel guilty again? 

We talk to Julia Kristina, a clinical therapist, researcher, master coach and the founder of the Shift Society who helps individuals break through the crap to live more fulfilling lives. She’s a regular speaker at regional and national conferences on mental wellness and mindset and she says that guilt is maladaptive when we're trying to be something we are not in order to control someone else's thoughts. This can be the key driver in holding us back in saying no to honor oneself and associating our value and worth from our decision. 

Julia gets very tactical with us on how to say no without feeling guilty, including the language we use. You'll learn so much more, including: 

3:18 - Understanding healthy adaptive guilt vs. maladaptive emotional guilt associated with saying "no"

6:22 - The 'Mother Wound' - the source of so many "guilt trip" experiences

9:22 - How so many of us will choose to do things we don't want to do because we rather feel resentment than guilt

13:02 - What is true generosity. And, why the better we are with our boundaries, we are more generous. 

16:05 - How having healthy boundaries makes us more flexible. 

18:53 - What is real self love and how loving yourself is the least selfish thing you can do. 

21:25 - Tactical steps to say "No" without feeling guilty

21:40 - First, separate not liking your decision from your value and worth 

22:17 - Why we can't say no without feeling guilty - we want other people to think a certain way so we can feel okay. 

22:44 - How to honor relationships when saying "no" 

25:40 - Why you don't need to explain yourself too much when saying "no" 

31:25 - Why it's superfluous to preface your "no" with "I'm sorry" 

32:02 - How saying "sorry" when saying "no" is more for yourself so you don't feel guilty

34:51 - How to determine what you really want to say if you're vacillating between the "yes" and "no" 

43:30 - Julia's one piece of advice to her younger self to live fully in the present and always on her own terms

To connect with Julia Kristina and learn and/or join her Shift Society, click here - https://juliakristina.com . You can also connect with Julia on Instagram here - https://www.instagram.com/juliacounsellor/

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What does it mean to create healthy boundaries? How does it vary in different relationship dynamics? 

Shamanic healer, teacher, author and the founder of Last Mask Center for Shamanic Healing, Christina Pratt shares an enlightening perspective on how having and creating healthy boundaries is an expression of our sovereignty. 

We explore what that means. How a boundary is more than a language you communicate about your limits and standards, but it's an energy body we need to develop, foster and protect in our relationships to be true to ourselves. 

In this episode we learn: 

3:40: What external messages define whether we're supposed to have boundaries or not? 

4:20: What is boundary language. 

6:38: Defining the difference between healthy and unhealthy boundaries.

11:04: Everybody is made up of inputs from these four aspects of wisdom bodies. 

11:38: The three things our inner landscape needs.

16:38: Creating, communicating and managing healthy boundaries within the nuanced family dynamic.

20:10: What is this new aged idea of healthy boundaries and why it's not the healthy way of understanding boundaries. 

22:30: How your beliefs shape your boundaries. 

27:11: Why we need to give boundaries to our children as parents. 

30:54: Why individuals with unhealthy boundaries are easily manipulated. 

37:56: What do healthy boundaries look like in an intimate relationship. 

44:50: Strength of vulnerability in creating a healthy energy body and boundaries in an intimate relationship. 

47:00: Can we change our boundaries? 

48:33: Unique Shamanic exercises to practice creating healthy boundaries. 

51:50: Christina's one piece of advice to her younger self.

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To learn more about how to create healthy boundaries and connect with Christina Pratt, find Christina here  - https://www.lastmaskcenter.org where you can also learn about shamainc healing experiences, workshop and classes. 

To hear more deep insights from Christina that explore the practical application of shamanic skills in our contemporary lives for a more enriching spiritual maturity, listen to Christina's podcast “Why Shamanism Now” here - https://whyshamanismnow.com

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Singer/Songwriter Holly Holden was expected to follow a path in academia. But it wasn’t until she realized that following other people’s expectations would never make her happy, she was able to finally follow her heart and passion to live life on her own terms...dedicated to music. 

Her experiences and love affair with Latin America has taken her all over South America and the Carribean, which has shaped her Spanglish soul-pop sound today performing around the world, including the festival circuit at Glastonbury!

Listen to Holly’s full story of her inspiring and unwavering conviction to living life on your own terms on this P.S. Younger Self  x Hub Dot special collaboration episode. 

To connect with Holly and listen to her music, you can find Holly here > https://www.hollyholdenmusic.com or on Spotify under Holly Holden y Su Banda. You can also connect with Holly on Instagram here > https://www.instagram.com/holly_holden

To learn more about Hub Dot, click here >  https://hubdot.com  

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If you can pass on one piece of advice to your younger self to remind him or her to always live fully in the present and always on his or her terms, what would it be?

Well, in the past six months since the launch of P.S. Younger Self interviewing some incredible guests, we’ve gained some powerful wisdom from our guests who come from all walks of life and from all over the world.

We've compiled some of our faves for you in this episode because sometimes we can all use a gentle reminder that everything always works out, right?

You'll hear from:

1. Nicole Stillings aka Nicole Rose: Release your fear of judgement of yourself
(Listen to Nicole's full episode of The Art of Reinvention here)

2. Simona Barbieri: Don't hide or conform. Be the fullest you can be.
(Listen to Simona's full episode on The Power of Storytelling here)

3. David Krantz: You don't have to always be right
(Listen to David's full episode on Understanding epigenetics to hack your genes here)

4. Yerasimos Stilianessis: Listen more and continue to be curious
(Listen to Yerasimos' full episode on Human Design - the science of differentiation here)

5. Gavin Musumiya: You're here to be yourself.
(Listen to Gavin's full episode on The power of emotional awareness in men here)

6. Niajae Wallace: Don't let life tell you that you can't have it all
(Listen to Niajae's full episode on Enchance your cognitive functions and wellbeing with sound therapy here)

7. Manex Ibar: Trust your heart
(Listen to Manex's full episode on The Sphinx Code: Unveil your subconscious archetypes here)

8. Rory Callaghan: Script your life story earlier
(Listen to Rory's full episode on Human centric approach to health & wellness here)

9. Sara Hack: Put your happiness first
(Listen to Sara's full episode on Facing your fears here)

10. Chris Mackey: Life is like a jigsaw puzzle. Everything will fall into place.
(Listen to Chris' full episode on What is the positive psychology of syncrhonicity

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