P.S. Younger Self

You finally set the boundary. But instead of feeling peace, you feel anxious. Guilty. Exhausted. Overthinking every interaction and second-guessing your decision.

In this episode, host Chris Oh shares a personal story and walk you through what actually happens emotionally after setting boundaries, the part few people talk about.

You’ll learn:

• Why your nervous system still feels activated even after doing "the right thing"
• How guilt, anxiety, and people-pleasing tendencies get activated post-boundary
• Why boundary-setting often leads to emotional labor long after the conversation is over
• How to stop overthinking and start feeling confident in your standards
• My personal 4-step emotional reset framework to manage boundary anxiety

If you’ve ever struggled with:

• Fear of being "too much" or "too selfish"
• Worrying how others will react to your boundaries
• Feeling emotionally exhausted trying to manage others' feelings

...this episode will give you the language, insight, and tools to hold your boundaries with confidence and emotional peace.

🎯 DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet — the first step to get clear on your personal standards (vs expectations that often lead to frustration and disappointment):
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💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here. 

What if your identity is the reason you keep attracting the wrong people? In this episode, Master NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Practitioner Damon Cart reveals how your unconscious self-concept shapes your relationships — and how to reprogram it for deeper connection, lasting transformation, and authentic self-belief.

Trained and mentored by NLP pioneer Steve Andreas, Damon now teaches the powerful Self-Concept Model to clients and coaches around the world. He shares how he personally overcame depression — once in just one session using Neuro-Linguistic Programming — and why traditional therapy often struggles to reach the unconscious structures where real change happens.

Listeners will also learn:

• Why the key to mastering Neuro-Linguistic Programming is applying it on yourself first — not just others
• The difference between self-worth and self-esteem from NLP perspective
• Why self worth is considered a myth  — and how letting go of it unlocks real confidence
• How to uncover and rewire limiting beliefs that shape your identity and relationships
• A live coaching demo exploring how your values reveal what’s truly driving you

Whether you're stuck in recurring relationship patterns or ready to transform how you see yourself, this episode offers a practical and deeply empowering path forward through Neuro-Linguistic Programming and identity work.

💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here. 

Clarity should bring peace… but what if it feels heavy instead? Learn what it’s really costing you — and how to respond with self-trust.

In this Part 5 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh dives into the hidden emotional and psychological costs of clarity — the part of personal growth no one talks about.

Clarity is essential if you want to live by your own standards. But what happens after you know your truth? Why do guilt, fear, or tension show up when you’re finally clear on your values, decisions, or direction?

Whether you're going through a mindset shift, making big life changes, or stepping into new boundaries — this conversation will help you understand:

• Why clarity often feels heavy, not peaceful
• The 3 hidden costs of clarity: relational, identity, and comfort
• How your brain resists uncertainty (even when it’s right for you)
• How to move from awareness to aligned action with more self-trust

This is a powerful follow-up to our last episode on discernment — and a must-listen if you’ve ever thought, “I know what I want, but I don’t know how to live it yet.”

🎧 If you’re searching for:

• How to navigate clarity and discomfort
• Emotional cost of setting boundaries
• How to take action after a mindset shift
• Building self-trust and inner alignment
  ...this one’s for you.

✨ Ready to stop second-guessing yourself and start honoring your truth — even when it’s hard? Hit play.

💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here. 

💬 “It’s the communicator’s responsibility to be understood.” — wisdom from my 70-year-old friend

In this episode, we explore life lessons on love, adult friendships, and communication skills — including how to be heard and understood, how to ask better questions, and how to build meaningful, lasting relationships. Chris Oh sits down with her dear friend — a vibrant, curious, and thoughtful woman in her 70s. What started as a friendship across a 25+ year age gap has grown into a relationship rich with real talk, curiosity, and the kind of life lessons you can’t find in a quick Google search.

Together, they explore:

• How to build and sustain meaningful adult friendships
• The underrated skill of asking the right questions
• Why curiosity and receptivity are key ingredients in personal growth and building meaningful connections
• What makes love and commitment last in a long-term relationship
• How to communicate in a way that helps you truly be heard and understood
• Debunking the myths about life, aging, and relationships in your 70s and beyond

This conversation isn’t about advice from an “expert” — it’s about sharing lived experience, hard-earned wisdom, and the reflections that come from paying close attention to life.

If this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who would appreciate these insights, too. And if you’re enjoying the show, it means so much if you leave a quick review — it helps others find these conversations.

💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here. 

If you find yourself stuck overthinking every decision — questioning your gut and feeling guilty after saying "yes" — this episode is for you.

You might be overlooking one of the most powerful tools for personal growth: discernment.

In part 4 of the “Living By Your Standards” series on P.S. Younger Self, host Chris Oh shares a vulnerable personal story of overriding her truth — and introduces the DAR Framework, her 3-step method to help you make aligned, guilt-free decisions in everyday life. 

🎙️ In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why self-doubt shows up, even when you know your values and standards
• How to spot misalignment in your body and behaviors
• The subtle signs you’re out of sync with your inner clarity
• How to build discernment into daily decisions — without guilt, noise, or people-pleasing

Whether you're navigating a relationship, career shift, or trying to stop overthinking every choice — this episode gives you tools to trust your gut and live in alignment with your own standards.

🎧 Listen now to reconnect with your truth and start making empowered decisions.

💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here. 

Are you clear on your values — but still find yourself looking for outside validation?
The missing link might be self-assurance.

In Part 3 of the Living By Your Standards series, host Chris Oh breaks down what true self-assurance looks like and why it’s essential for setting and holding personal standards — without needing others’ permission or praise.

🎙️ In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why self-assurance isn’t about confidence — and how to tell the difference
• How self-assurance protects you from people-pleasing
• What it really means to live by your own standards
• A journaling prompt to strengthen your inner trust

If you're tired of second-guessing your worth or compromising your values for approval, this episode will help you return to your truth.

🎧 Listen now and learn how to stand firm in your standards from the inside out.

💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here. 

Do you know your core values — and are you actually living by them?

In this part 2 of the Living By Your Standards Series of P.S. Younger Self, host Chris Oh guides you through a grounded process to identify your core values and turn them into non-negotiable personal standards. It’s the first step to living in alignment — and protecting your energy, peace, and self-worth.

🎙️ In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to clarify your true core values (not the ones you inherited)
• What makes a standard “non-negotiable”
• Common traps that lead to misalignment
• How to check if you’re honoring your values in everyday decisions

This episode is part of the “Living By Your Standards” series — designed to help you stop performing for others and start standing in your truth.

If you’re ready to stop second-guessing yourself, set stronger boundaries, and live life on YOUR terms, hit play now.

💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here. 

When you hear the word "intimacy," do you only think of sexual connection? Intimacy in a relationship goes far beyond the physical—it includes emotional, intellectual, spiritual, experiential, and physical without sexual intimacy. These six intimacy tanks are the foundation of deep, meaningful connections, but here’s the thing: expecting one person to fill them all isn’t sustainable.

In this episode of P.S. Younger Self, we’re joined by Tannaz Hosseinpour, a Relationship & Manifestation Coach, to explore intimacy on multiple levels and rethink how you nurture these connections in your relationships. Together, we’ll dive into:

• The six intimacy tanks and why they’re essential for relational health.
• Inspiring and practical tips from Tannaz to foster deeper intimacy in each area, helping you build meaningful connections across all relationship dynamics while staying fulfilled through personal growth and community.
• How to share the responsibility of filling intimacy tanks with your partner, yourself, and your wider support system, including your friends, for a more balanced and sustainable relationship.

Tannaz will also help you reflect on which intimacy needs are non-negotiable for your partner to meet and which ones can be filled through your own practices or external relationships.

Connect Tannaz on Instagram here or her website here.
Be sure to download Tannaz´s free  nervous system regulation e-book here.

💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here. 

Are unmet expectations leaving you frustrated? Do you find yourself clinging to the idea that people or circumstances should be a certain way? In this first episode of 2025, host Chris Oh unpacks how deeply ingrained expectations are often confused as personal standards, leading to a cycle of disappointment and frustration.

This episode is part of a new P.S. Younger Self monthly series, Living By Your Standards. In part 1 of this series, host Chris reveals the 5 key signs you might be prioritizing expectations over standards and why this subtle shift can transform your relationships, mindset, and overall quality of life. From releasing 'should be' beliefs to breaking free from overthinking and blame, this episode offers actionable insights to help you reset your approach to connections and cultivate a life aligned with your values.

Discover how personal standards—not expectations—create healthier dynamics, deeper fulfillment, and a stronger sense of self. Start the new year by releasing expectations and embracing the power of living by your standards.

💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here. 

What happens when the need for self-expression clashes with deeply rooted cultural traditions? In this profoundly personal episode, host Chris Oh shares her journey of growing up Korean American, navigating familial and cultural expectations, and finding peace in accepting that prioritizing a relationship with her mother means letting go of the hope for full understanding—but grounding herself in the love and acceptance her mother expresses in her own way.

Chris reflects on a recent trip to Korea with her mother, where old childhood insecurities resurfaced, and she found herself grappling with the delicate balance of honoring her Korean cultural heritage while staying true to her own voice. This is a story of vulnerability, cultural identity, and acceptance—showing that while mutual understanding may not always be possible, finding clarity in a loved one’s perspective and focusing on connection can foster healing and peace, even when worlds feel apart.

💬 How do you navigate cultural and familial expectations? Share your thoughts with us in the comments or reviews. 

💡 ▶ DOWNLOAD my free Standards vs. Expectations Self-Reflection Worksheet here: https://stan.store/psyoungerself

Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.
And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.