Dr Kirk Honda discusses borderline personality and partner abuse while reacting to the reality TV show, Love Is Blind.

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00:00 Introducing Love is Blind work
16:35 Chapter 1 - Patterns of escalation
54:12 Chapter 2 - Exerting control
1:32:11 Chapter 3 - Abusive cycle
2:17:27 Chapter 4 - Absolute thinking & respect
2:34:47 Chapter 5 - Abandonment & betrayal
3:09:00 Chapter 6 - Rejection & countertransference 


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April 22, 2024

The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®


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[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda analyzes Tyrion Lannister from Game of Thrones.

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June 3, 2017

The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®


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[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda analyzes Theon Greyjoy from Game of Thrones.

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June 3, 2027

The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®


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Humberto and Dr Kirk discuss the difference between abuse and exploration in childhood.

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00:00 Where is the line between sexual exploration and abuse?
45:44 Is the omission of infidelity harmful?

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April 19, 2024

The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®


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Humberto and Dr Kirk discuss what grooming is exactly.

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00:00 Power imbalance in management/abuse of the power dynamic
16:29 How do I know if I'm being groomed as an adult?
22:36 What is the definition of grooming?
49:10 Am I having my needs met or being abused?
1:02:15 Are these red flags of grooming? 
1:13:22 How can I recognize grooming from my childhood?

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April 17, 2024

The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®


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Dr Kirk Honda answers patron emails and takes random psychological tests.

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00:00 How do we identify our needs?
04:10 Where does the pleasure for sadists come from?
08:57 Is it possible to treat sadists?
14:07 OPP
18:10 Can my therapist also be my supervisor?
21:52 Is it weird to not experience existential anxiety?
28:42 How can I prepare for grad school?
34:37 OPP2
35:49 Developing narcissism
46:03 Completist listening of PiS
49:09 Why do people self-diagnose?
56:41 On the fence about having children
59:00 How can I navigate therapy when my therapist has cancer?
1:01:23 Am I creating a communication barrier?
1:12:32 Dr. Kirk takes psychology scales

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April 15, 2024

The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®


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[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks analyzes Sandor Clegane (The Hound) from Game of Thrones.

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April 26, 2017

The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®


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[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda analyzing Cersei Lannister from Game of Thrones.

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April 24, 2017

The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®


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Dr Kirk Honda answers patron emails and takes random psychological tests.

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00:00 How does recognizing our attachment style influence us?
07:23 Is BPD only treatable through psychiatry & medication?
14:00 Is the Hero Journey Club therapy?
27:34 OPP 30:05 How can I support a friend with delusions?
41:35 Has Dr. Kirk experienced the loss of a mentor relationship?
55:30 OPP2
58:24 What could cause a personality change?

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April 12, 2024

The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®


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Dr Kirk Honda interviews Dan Koch (from the You Have Permission Podcast) about his new psychometric survey that measures religious abuse.

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00:00 Introducing Dan Koch & liberal christianity 
12:51 How do some fall victim to the culture war?
25:10 What is spiritual abuse?
29:14 Koch's Spiritual Harm & Abuse Scale criteria
49:24 Upholding the status quo & masculinity
1:11:13 Christianity & choice
1:23:36 Where to find Dan
1:26:09 Christian YouTube discourse


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April 10, 2024

The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®


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