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In this episode, we discuss my new book ‘Heal Your Anxious Attachment’ and break down the work of building ‘Earned Secure Attachment’ into two vital parts:

Building INNER secure attachment and OUTER secure attachment.

Jen is a licensed Clinical Psychotherapist, Couple Therapist and Energetic Healer. She practices online from her home in Sydney, Australia and is licenced to practice globally.

Resources

BOOK: Heal Your Anxious Attachment - US LINK | AU LINK

Extra Resources

FREE TRAINING:

I'll take you through the three stages of transformation: Discovery, Healing and Growth. We will explore Attachment Styles, and I'll share with you three things you can do to help you have more effective conflicts that don't deteriorate into relationship killers:

https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/cycle-breaker-registration

Also, join Jen in her exclusive online program to help you heal from an insecure attachment style and break repeating patterns in your relationships:

https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/rcb-registration

Browse Jen’s suite of online courses:

https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/store

Follow Jen on:

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• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@psychotherapycentral

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-nurick-psychotherapist

Have you ever experienced the confusion and struggle of not knowing whether you should stay or leave a relationship? You might have two parts. One who wants to stay and might see the good in your partner or be afraid of being alone or scared about the future. And another part that wants to leave and might feel there are irresolvable differences and might not see a future with this person or want to go off on a solo adventure. When these two parts pull in the opposite direction, with one shouting ‘Stay!’ and the other shouting ‘Go!’, it can feel like you are in your own personal hell.

In this episode, we cover 7 indicators that it might be time to let go of your relationship

Jen is a licensed Clinical Psychotherapist, Couple Therapist and Energetic Healer. She practices online from her home in Sydney, Australia. 

Resources

Domestic Violence Helplines:

1800 737 732 in Australia 

NCADV on 1-800-799-7233 in the USA.

Book a one-on-one or couple counselling session:

https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/bookings

Extra Resources

Get a copy of My Book, Heal Your Anxious Attachment - US LINK | AU LINK

FREE TRAINING: 

I'll take you through the three stages of transformation: Discovery, Healing and Growth. We will explore Attachment Styles, and I'll share with you three things you can do to help you have more effective conflicts that don't deteriorate into relationship killers: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/cycle-breaker-registration

Join Jen in her exclusive online program to help you heal from an insecure attachment style and break repeating patterns in your relationships: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/rcb-registration

Browse Jen’s suite of online courses: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/store

Follow Jen on:

In today’s episode, Jen interviews Joanna Grover, LCSW, and Jonathan Rhodes, PhD, Co-Authors of The Choice Point: The Scientifically Proven Method for Achieving Your Goals – a groundbreaking guide set to transform lives, one choice at a time through Functional Imagery Training, FIT.

FIT can improve our decision-making and communication skills, lessen stress, increase sleep, and create a deeper sense of purpose and belonging. Jo and Jon have used FIT to train Olympic athletes, special military forces, and top CEOs around the globe.

Joanna was the first person in the U.S. to be trained in FIT, and Jonathan is a co-developer. In this episode, we cover;

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Resources:

Jonathan Rhodes, PhD, is a Chartered Psychologist (British Psychological Society) and a published researcher and lecturer specializing in cognitive psychology. After working with athletes at the 2012 Olympic Games, Jonathan decided to research strategies that change mindset, train individual and cultural resilience, and enhance performance. Ten years later, Jonathan concluded that imagery is the most effective way to achieve individual and team goals. To get to this conclusion, Jonathan helped develop FIT by teaching individuals how to master their imagination, subsequently raising the performance levels of athletes who went on to compete at the Olympic Games, in Premiership football and rugby, and with a multitude of athletes competing in other sports such as with Red Bull Cliff Divers, and America’s Cup sailors. In 2019, Jonathan partnered with the British Army to develop the British Army Commando Resilience Training Program, which has increased recruits passing the All-Arms Commando Course by 44 percent. He lives in Plymouth, UK.

Joanna Grover, LCSW, is an executive coach with nineteen years of experience as a cognitive behavioral therapist specializing in anxiety. She first encountered FIT when it helped her recover from a horse-riding accident. After witnessing this strategy's effectiveness in a client’s weight loss journey, she felt even more committed to the work. She subsequently became the first person in the US to be certified in FIT. Since 2019, Jo has used FIT mainly in an individual context, where she’s worked with top leaders at the US Department of Commerce, Olympic athletes, and C-suite executions at corporations such as Citi, IBM, and KPMG. She is a board-certified coach and member of the International Coaching Federation and the Harvard Institute of Coaching. Joanna lives in Miami, FL.

These are the links for Jon's Instagram and LinkedIn:

https://www.instagram.com/rhodespsychology

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jon-rhodes-phd

These are the links for Joanna's instagram and LinkedIn:

https://www.instagram.com/jogrover2.0

https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanna-grover-lcsw-730a1852

These are the links for the Imagery Coaching Instagram and LinkedIn: https://www.instagram.com/imagerycoaching

https://www.linkedin.com/company/imagerycoaching

Extra Resources:

Browse Jen’s suite of online courses: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/store

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When you are avoidantly attached, dating can feel like a complete minefield. You might have had people tell you that you are aloof, a closed book, secretive or not open to a relationship, even when you would like a relationship more than anything else.

Moving into deeper intimacy can feel terrifying, whether you acknowledge it and are aware of it or not. Often, it is part of your subconscious that blocks intimacy before you have any conscious say in the matter. This can be incredibly frustrating and painful for you and your partner. It can be a confusing time.

In this episode, Jen discusses the four factors that make dating difficult for the avoidantly attached and her 9 top tips for dating when you have an avoidant attachment adaptation.

Resources:

To learn more about avoidant and anxious adaptions - listen to Episodes 2 and 3.

EP 2 Avoidant Attachment Explained

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/psychotherapy-central/id1701257974?i=1000623584769

EP 3 Anxious Attachment Explained

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/psychotherapy-central/id1701257974?i=1000623929027

Extra Resources

Heal Your Anxious Attachment by Jennifer Nurick

Attachment by John Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth & Main & Solomon

FREE TRAINING: I'll take you through the three stages of transformation: Discovery, Healing and Growth. We will explore Attachment Styles, and I'll share with you three things you can do to help you have more effective conflicts that don't deteriorate into relationship killers: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/cycle-breaker-registration

Browse Jen’s suite of online courses: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/store

Follow Jen on:

You suspect (or have been told by your partner) that you are dating someone who is anxiously attached. You are growing in love for them, and want to be close to them, but it feels difficult. 

You are wondering if there are any tips or things to remember as you move into more vulnerability and connection with this beautiful person. You are in the right place. 

In this episode, Jen will help you know if you are dating someone with anxious attachment and then give you her six top tips for moving into deeper intimacy. 

Enjoy! Jen

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Resources:

Heal Your Anxious Attachment by Jennifer Nurick

To learn more about avoidant and anxious adaptions - listen to Episodes 2 and 3:

EP 2 Avoidant Attachment Explained

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/psychotherapy-central/id1701257974?i=1000623584769

EP 3 Anxious Attachment Explained

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/psychotherapy-central/id1701257974?i=1000623929027

5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Extra Resources

Attachment by John Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth & Main & Solomon

Park, Y., Johnson, M. D., MacDonald, G., & Impett, E. A. (2019). Perceiving gratitude from a romantic partner predicts decreases in attachment anxiety. Developmental Psychology, 55(12), 2692–2700. https://doi.org/10.1037/dev0000830

FREE TRAINING: I'll take you through the three stages of transformation: Discovery, Healing and Growth. We will explore Attachment Styles, and I'll share with you three things you can do to help you have more effective conflicts that don't deteriorate into relationship killers: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/cycle-breaker-registration

Join Jen in her exclusive online program to help you heal from an insecure attachment style and break repeating patterns in your relationships: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/rcb-registration

Browse Jen’s suite of online courses: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/store

Follow Jen on:

When you are anxiously attached, the dating phase of a relationship can be painful, triggering and confusing. It is often difficult to know if your gut feelings of anxiety are real and valid, or if it is your anxious attachment patterns causing your inner alarm bells to go off for no reason. It can be a really confusing time. 

In this episode, Jen discusses the 4 factors that make dating difficult for the anxiously attached and her 7 top tips for dating when you have an anxious attachment adaptation.

Enjoy! Jen

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Resources 

Heal Your Anxious Attachment by Jennifer Nurick

To learn more about avoidant and anxious adaptions - listen to Episodes 2 and 3.

EP 2 Avoidant Attachment Explained

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/psychotherapy-central/id1701257974?i=1000623584769

EP 3 Anxious Attachment Explained

https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/psychotherapy-central/id1701257974?i=1000623929027

Extra Resources

FREE TRAINING: I'll take you through the three stages of transformation: Discovery, Healing and Growth. We will explore Attachment Styles, and I'll share with you three things you can do to help you have more effective conflicts that don't deteriorate into relationship killers: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/cycle-breaker-registration

Join Jen in her exclusive online program to help you heal from an insecure attachment style and break repeating patterns in your relationships: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/rcb-registration

Browse Jen’s suite of online courses: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/store

Follow Jen on:

1 in 6 people have serious suicidal thoughts in Australia, with the “lifetime prevalence of suicidal thoughts ranging from 64% among cisgender men to 90% among non-binary participants and 91% among trans men.” (AIHW, 2023). Suicidal thoughts often cause a lot of distress to your inner system. Through the IFS (Internal Family Systems) lens, this is called a ‘suicidal part’.

In this episode, we cover;

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Resources:

Here’s a podcast explaining IFS - Ep 5 What is IFS Therapy?

https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/podcasts/psychotherapy-central/episodes/2148047131

This episode helps you to identify the Self in IFS therapy - Ep 07 The Central Role of the ‘Self’ in IFS Therapy.

A powerful book on IFS, by the creator of IFS, Richard Schwartz Ph.D. is called “No Bad Parts”:

https://amzn.to/45qZr7n

Podcast - in this podcast Tim Ferris interviews the creator of IFS, Richard Schwartz Ph.D.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/492-richard-schwartz-ifs-psychedelic-experiences-without/id863897795?i=1000505309243

Some of the statistics for this podcast came from the Australian Government. https://www.aihw.gov.au/suicide-self-harm-monitoring/data/deaths-by-suicide-in-australia/prevalence-estimates-of-suicidal-behaviours

Psychology Today has an extensive list of verified therapists in your area.

Psychology Today US - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Psychology Today - Australia - https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/counselling

Extra Resources

FREE TRAINING: I'll take you through the three stages of transformation: Discovery, Healing and Growth. We will explore Attachment Styles, and I'll share with you three things you can do to help you have more effective conflicts that don't deteriorate into relationship killers: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/cycle-breaker-registration

Join Jen in her exclusive online program to help you heal from an insecure attachment style and break repeating patterns in your relationships: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/rcb-registration

Browse Jen’s suite of online courses: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/store

Follow Jen on:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychotherapy.central/

• Facebook: https://facebook.com/psychotherapy.central/

• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@psychotherapycentral

Are you thinking of talking to someone and wondering where on Earth to start? Have you tried a therapist, and it just didn’t flow as you wanted it to? Choosing a therapist is a journey that we need to invest time and energy in. This episode is a great place to start!

In this episode, we cover:

Jen is a licensed clinical psychotherapist, couple therapist and energetic healer. She practices online from her home in Sydney, Australia.

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Resources

Psychology Today has an extensive list of verified therapists in your area.

Psychology Today US - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Psychology Today - Australia - https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/counselling

Extra Resources

FREE TRAINING: I'll take you through the three stages of transformation: Discovery, Healing and Growth. We will explore Attachment Styles, and I'll share with you three things you can do to help you have more effective conflicts that don't deteriorate into relationship killers: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/cycle-breaker-registration

Join Jen in her exclusive online program to help you heal from an insecure attachment style and break repeating patterns in your relationships: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/rcb-registration

Browse Jen’s suite of online courses: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/store

Follow Jen on:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychotherapy.central/

• Facebook: https://facebook.com/psychotherapy.central/

• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@psychotherapycentral

In this episode, Jen explores what might happen in your EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy sessions. Although this will differ with every therapist, Jen’s aim here is to give you an overview of what might happen because sometimes we have scared parts that want to know exactly what we are signing up for. 

Francine Shapiro initially developed EMDR therapy in the eighties to treat post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). But now, it is used in various situations like phobias, anxiety issues, stress reduction, pain management, and even dermatological conditions.

In this episode, Jen walks you through the standardised eight-phase treatment process so you can know what to expect in a session. Jen is a licensed clinical psychotherapist, certified EMDR practitioner and energetic healer.

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RESOURCES:

Episode 17: What is EMDR Therapy?

https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/podcasts/psychotherapy-central/episodes/2148140121

Shapiro, F. (2017). Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy: Basic principles, protocols and procedures. (3rd ed.). New York, NY: Guilford Press.

https://amzn.to/3taXZbC

CASE EXAMPLES:

Aranda, B. D. E., Ronquillo, N. M., & Calvillo, M. E. N. (2015). Neuropsychological and physiological outcomes pre- and post-EMDR therapy for a woman with PTSD: A case study. Journal of EMDR Practice and Research, 9(4), 174-187.

https://connect.springerpub.com/content/sgremdr/9/4/174

Prince Harry and Evan Rachel Wood Do EMDR Therapy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9uE04Blfd-Q

RESEARCH:

De Jongh A, Ten Broeke E, Renssen MR. Treatment of specific phobias with eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR): Protocol, empirical status, and conceptual issues. J Anxiety Disord. 1999;13:69–85. 

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10225501/

Gosselin P, Matthews WJ. Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing in the treatment of test anxiety: A study of the effects of expectancy and eye movement. J Behav Ther Exp Psychiatry. 1995;26:331–7. 

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8675720/

Gupta MA, Gupta AK. Use of eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) in the treatment of dermatological disorders. J Cutan Med Surg. 2002;6:415–21.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12001004/

Wilensky M. Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) as a treatment for phantom limb pain. J Brief Ther. 2006;5:31–43.

https://www.ifemdr.fr/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Wilensky-2006-EMDR-as-a-treatment-for-Phantom-Limb-Pain.pdf

Find an EMDR therapist:

You can book a session with me here: https://jennynurick.as.me

Or look for a therapist who has completed ‘basic training’ - levels 1 and 2 and consultation. https://emdraa.org/find-a-therapist/

https://www.emdria.org/directory/

Extra Resources:

FREE TRAINING: I'll take you through the three stages of transformation; Discovery, Healing and Growth. We will explore Attachment Styles, and I'll share with you three things you can do to help you have more effective conflicts that don't deteriorate into relationship killers: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/cycle-breaker-registration

Join Jen in her exclusive online program to help you heal from an insecure attachment style and break repeating patterns in your relationships: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/rcb-registration

Browse Jen’s suite of online courses: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/store

Follow Jen on:

This is one of the main relationship dynamics that brings couples into therapy. It is the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle. So, what exactly is the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle, how does it work, and how do we perpetuate it?

We also tackle the big question: Can an Anxious-Avoidant relationship work? Jen then covers four tips that will help you break out of the negative cycle. This episode is GOLD!

In this episode, we cover:

Resources

Heal Your Anxious Attachment by Jennifer Nurick

Ep. 2 Avoidant Attachment Explained

Ep. 3 Anxious Attachment Explained

Ep. 14 Six Reasons You Are Attracted to Avoidant or Unavailable Men

Meet Your Inner Child course

Extra Resources

FREE TRAINING: I'll take you through the three stages of transformation; Discovery, Healing and Growth. We will explore Attachment Styles, and I'll share with you three things you can do to help you have more effective conflicts that don't deteriorate into relationship killers: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/cycle-breaker-registration

Join Jen in her exclusive online program to help you heal from an insecure attachment style and break repeating patterns in your relationships: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/rcb-registration

Browse Jen’s suite of online courses: https://www.psychotherapycentral.health/store

Follow Jen on:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychotherapy.central/

• Facebook: https://facebook.com/psychotherapy.central/

• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@psychotherapycentral