PUSHING BACK CHAOS

We will all face new roles. Yesterday’s solution is not going to cut if for tomorrow’s challenge.

These new roles will occur professionally as promotions, or entirely new career paths. They will also occur in our personal life. New friendships. Singles become couples. Couples become parents.

Mike and Melon have both repeatedly moved into new roles, and are facing new roles in their near future. They get together, bringing what has worked for them in the past, and to try and learn from how each other is aiming to grow and adapt in the near future. 

How should we present and interact as we move into new roles and new relationships? How can we unite a new team? How do we create expertise? Is it just down to genetics and innate intelligence?

Do we live inside a fixed or growth mindset? How can we deal with limiting self-beliefs and generate an open ended and positive attitude towards our abilities?

Can we build multiple areas of deep expertise as we move through our life if we develop the attitude of being a lifelong learner?

Let us know how you adapt and move into new roles. What has worked best for you? 

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Overt: Done or shown openly. Plainly apparent.

Covert: Not openly acknowledged or displayed. Veiled, secret or hidden.

Military operations are conducted either out in the open, with part of the aim being a display of capability, or are conducted in darkness and secrecy, aiming to keep the enemy unaware or unsure of what has been done. 

Your team have all conducted both overt and covert operations during their time in uniform, and are all familiar with techniques and methods for success with both styles.

During this conversation, they aim to bring this concept of open vs hidden operations into the personal domain. What should be conducted in public view, compared to what should remain private? We live in a different world now, with 24/7 social media and an increasingly common cultural preference for transmitting our lives overtly.

When was the last time you reviewed your social media settings? When was the last time you thought about your overall social media profile and behaviour? How much of your life is on full display? Would a quick search by a potential future employer be improve your career prospects?

Alternately, what is the optimum level of transparency inside your family and personal relationships? Should we utilise the same level of secrecy or openness?

Let us know whether you feel overt or covert styles are best, and in which area of your lives.  

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Everyone has something they are scared of. It follows you throughout the day and goes to bed with you at night. Just the thought of it can bring anxiety, uneasiness, stress, or even pain.  But when we take a step back, what really is fear? Is it some invisible force acting upon us? Or is it our own actions and perceptions that put ourselves in that worrisome space?

This week, Raf and Mike are joined by special guest and friend, BJ Finney, former NFL offensive lineman, to discuss the following questions:

What is fear?

Why do I feel the way I do with fear?

What can I do to approach it and conquer it?

The team shares some personal experiences while discussing fears of their own. Raf shares his story from Afghanistan 2012 when some of his friends were shot down in an army Blackhawk by the enemy and having to make the choice to return to the same area to fight the enemy. BJ talks about his time in NFL training camp when he experienced a heart condition scare during a team workout, and Mike talks about a dive operation in which he blacked out and drowned but was rescued and had to make the decision to return to the water the next day.

Everyone experiences fear. What separates some from others is how they either run from it, face it, or live with it.

Which do you choose to do?

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This week, Melon and Raf sat down for a Q&A about some of the lessons, convictions, and mistakes they’ve gleaned about Fatherhood. Our long-time listeners know how earnestly, both Raf and Melon, take their roles as fathers. They share some of the strategies that they’ve found successful, as well as changes that they didn’t foresee coming. Both men, in agreement, share the importance and looming understanding of the role time plays in our lives. More specifically, the pressure they feel knowing time runs out for all of us. And their strategies for imparting as much experience and knowledge while they still have the time. Similarly, they both discuss the dichotomy of working hard to achieve financial stability for your family, while maximizing your work-life balance, and the never ending challenges that seem to be innately familiar to all of us. Finally, Raf and Melon discuss some of the challenges they had to overcome with their spouses about issues they stood in contrast about, and the methods they used to resolve the conflict. . 

Please share your thoughts about this episode and more importantly, we hope this encourages our listeners to spend some time thinking about what you’ve gleaned from Fatherhood and/or Motherhood. We love reading your insights, feedback, and how we can add more value to your day. 

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This conversation is the result of a classic Pushing Back Chaos three time-zone rendezvous across the globe- Raf in an overnight airport crash pad about to fly home; Mike racing in from a training session with his men; and Melon getting up in the middle of the night.

Books

The three cover off recently read books. Raf will give you an update from Dr David Sinclair and his life extension research in his book “Lifespan”. Melon has been reading “Sapiens”, by Yuval Noah Harari, on human development from hunter gatherer to modern life. Mike fills us in on leadership insights from “The Wisdom Lunch Warrior” by Rod Olson.

12 Month Goals

Tio lets us know how important time is with his young son, and shares a goal around coaching- and you’ll be left in no doubt as to how seriously he is taking this aspect of his family life. Melon likewise is in the midst of updating his son’s coaching team, aiming to bring some rigour and professionalism to his club; but his main focus is on clarity for his next career step, and his family’s possible return to Australia. Mike has got a huge task ahead of him in his professional life as he takes command of a team, and his highest priority in this area may surprise you.

Last hard thing

Your team finish with an unflinching talk about the most recent hard thing they have each done. 

Honesty, integrity and humility are what they attempt to maintain through this conversation. 

Let us know books that have impacted you, what your goals are and what you have done recently that was genuinely hard.

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Life beats us down. It’s unforgiving at times. We’ve been lost, deceived, injured, heartbroken, etc. Everybody goes through tough and challenging times. As we say, “Nobody gets a pass!”

What we also must remember is that our personal VALUE must remain in the mirror at all times. What do we mean to ourself? Our family? Our friends? Our team at work? Or how about to those you don’t even know that you affect?

There is a stigma out there that echoes “Once you have been beaten down, broken, made mistakes, had your heart broken, or injured…you no longer have value and are expendable or replaceable.”

THIS IS NOT THE TRUTH! 

This week, we dive into the meaning of true value and fake value and how it plays a major rule in our everyday lives and discuss some ways we can remember our value when the times are the toughest.

Do you struggle with realizing your value? 

Join us on the conversation! We can help you realize your value to this world!

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This week, the boys discussed the difficulty and challenges we face when we try to right a wrong. More pointedly, they discuss the times they each made catastrophic mistakes that didn't just cause them pain, but hurt those closest around them. With some of these mistakes, came great shame and disappointment in themselves. Similarly, they talked in great detail about the crucible they had to endure to get back to the right path of righting that wrong, and most importantly, easing some of the pain they had cultivated with their mistakes. 

Raf talks about his insidious fight with porn addiction that happened nearly overnight. He talked about the pain he caused in his marriage, but also the steps he took, as well as, the people he leaned on to escape that destructive environment. 

Melon discusses his earlier dating years where he learned the real cost of being honest, but most importantly, salvaging the relationship with the woman he would eventually marry. 

Finally, Mike shares his experiences and some painful mistakes, and insights he recognized after his failed marriage. All together, they agree that above all, being honest with yourself is the most important first step before you head into that crucible. 

If you don’t recognize that person in the mirror, then that might be the very wake up call you need to find the courage, and expose those weaknesses to those you love most. Remembering that our goal should always be to live outside of the shadows.

Please share your thoughts about this episode and more importantly, we hope this encourages our listeners to spend some time thinking about a time when you made a catastrophic mistake, and more importantly, how you found redemption.. We love reading your insights, feedback, and how we can add more value to your day.

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As we move through our adult lives, we often find ourselves unclear or struggle to remember some of the most important and fundamental things. Easier said than practiced, yes? 

We came together and decided that maybe we didn’t have all the right answers from our perspective. So this week, Raf and Mike brought in Melon’s 13 year old son Michael to conduct a blind interview with him and hear what it’s like for a young man growing up in todays world.

We don’t hold back with some of life’s biggest questions for him. Go ahead and take a listen and maybe you’ll just learn something from this very impressive young man. We sure did.

Have you sat and talked with the young people of the next generation? Have you taken the time to become a leader and a mentor for them? We encourage you to do so. It is necessary!

“It is the primary duty of parents to make their children socially desirable.” 

-Dr. Jordan Peterson

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Lots of people are dealing with stress in our lives. Some of us are overloaded now, and many more have been there in the past.

Is there a way of relating to stress that is different, and that brings with it a new freedom?

Raf couldn’t make it this week- airline schedules can be rough on the family, and getting the three guys together across the globe s a challenge at the best of times. Melon and Mike carry on the chat this time and look forward to seeing Raf next week.

Mike and Melon have both dealt with significant stress on professional and personal levels, and have a conversation around reframing the way we think about the entire topic.

What if we could shift the feeling of stress into one where we see opportunity, challenge and growth?

Melon talks about looking for ways to either shift your mindset, or to take action to change the environment. Sometimes we need to power through, but sometimes we need to address fundamentals, or take a knee for some healing. 

Mike talks about preparing his life before the “bang”, or stressful event occurs. He prepares his environment and culture; marshals resources; gets into communication; and identifies allies. These four steps bring clarity around the best and worst case, which in turn reduces surprise and shock when the stressful event occurs.

Let us know how you relate to stress, and whether you have used these, or other techniques to shift your relationship to it.

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This week, the boys discussed the importance of attenuating your thoughts to one or two things that allow you full focus and clarity. They’ve found through their experiences that working on the ability to harness that conscious effort over a long period of time, into one activity, has catapulted them into high states of productivity and the skill to execute that task at a very high level. Not surprisingly, their anecdotal stories had many parallels and similarities. 

Raf for instance, shares that during his highest levels of execution, especially when flying airliners, he feels the most relaxed. His breathing is deep and physiology in a low pulse state. 

Mike, similarly, adds that during that similar state when executing high stakes activities as a Special Operator, he always enters and exits that task with a high level of visualization. What it will look like when it’s done perfectly, what it will look like when something is off, and how to pivot to correct that deviation. 

Finally, Melon shares his valid point that in the macro view of precision, you ultimately save more time and overall energy. This alone should be reason for us all to make a concerted effort to continue to live in these moments. 

Please share your thoughts about this episode and more importantly, we hope this encourages our listeners to spend some time thinking about how you can benefit from focusing on precision in your life. We love reading your insights, feedback, and how we can add more value to your day.

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