If you’ve ever looked at your child and thought, “How can someone so smart fall apart over a planner, a backpack, or one tiny assignment?” — this episode is going to feel like a deep breath.

Today I’m talking about something I’m seeing everywhere right now: executive functioning struggles that masquerade as motivation or behavior issues. Between advocacy work, school visits, and conversations with families, I’m hearing the same themes — kids who want to do well but genuinely can’t keep up with the planning, organizing, remembering, and transitioning that school demands.

I break down what executive functioning really is, why it tanks for some kids (especially around puberty), and the simple supports that make a huge difference at home and at school.

Here’s what I cover:

• Why executive functioning struggles aren’t “won’t do” problems — they’re “can’t do yet”

• How visual agendas and checklists make task initiation and follow-through so much easier

• Using timers to support transitions, attention, and emotional regulation

• Chunking big assignments so kids don’t shut down before they even start

• Helping kids self-monitor and understand what “successful” looks like

• How to trial supports at home and then communicate what works to school teams

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure where to start, you’re not alone. These quick wins can bring immediate relief — and give your child the structure and support they need to feel capable again.