In this episode, I coach Pam, a mom raising fraternal twin 10-year-old boys, both PDA and autistic, who present and react quite differently from each other.

We talk through the socialization question: what gets in the way, what actually helps, and why the issue for many PDA kids is not a lack of social skills but a nervous system that cannot access those skills in the moment. I introduce the concept of therapeutic equalizing and what it can look like as a daily practice at home.

We also spend time on the harder, less tactical piece: what it means to stay in the energy of nonattachment when you have tried everything and your kids still did not go to the D and D group.