If you’ve ever stood frozen in the kitchen, fully aware of what needs doing — and still couldn’t start — this episode is for you.

This week’s Quick Reset tears apart the toxic myth that ADHD mums just need to “try harder.” Jane unpacks what’s actually happening when your brain stalls, and why shame, not laziness, is often the real culprit. From inner critics echoing old failures to the neuroscience behind executive dysfunction, this is a raw, validating, and darkly funny call to stop blaming effort — and start working with your brain instead.

You’ll learn practical, low-pressure strategies to get started (no, not with a new app), and finally understand why “just do it” advice doesn’t just fail ADHD mums — it hurts us.

✨ IN THIS RESET:

• The damaging myth of laziness and willpower
• How shame shuts down executive function
• Why ADHD is not about motivation — it’s about regulation
• What to say to yourself instead of “I just need to focus”
• Brain-based strategies for task initiation that actually help
• Real talk about fridge purchases, hyperfocus, and starting vs finishing
• Why “trying harder” never fixed burnout — and never will

💭 This episode is for you if:
– You keep thinking, “I should be able to do this” — but can’t start
– You’ve got planners, lists, and alarms… and still feel stuck
– You want to stop spiralling into shame and start using strategies that work for your brain

🔗 Sources & Citations:

• Brown, T. E. (2006). Attention Deficit Disorder: The Unfocused Mind in Children and Adults. Yale University Press.
• Barkley, R. A., Murphy, K. R., & Fischer, M. (2006). The ADHD Report, 14(6), 6–11.
• Volkow, N. D., Wang, G.-J., Kollins, S. H., Wigal, T. L., Newcorn, J. H., Telang, F., ... & Swanson, J. M. (2011). “Motivation deficit in ADHD is associated with dysfunction of the dopamine reward pathway.” Molecular Psychiatry, 16(11), 1147–1154.
• Sonuga-Barke, E. J. S. (2005). “Causal models of ADHD: From common simple deficits to multiple developmental pathways.” Biological Psychiatry, 57(11), 1231–1238.

📚 Mentioned Resource:

• ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook — Designed to help you rebuild capacity, re-centre your day, and stop measuring your worth by productivity.
• Explore more ADHD-friendly resources: https://adhdmums.com.au/resources/

Other Quick Reset Episodes:

• S3E8 Advocating for Your Child Shouldn’t Break You — But It Often Does: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E10 Why am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong?: Spotify  | Apple Podcast
• S3E12 I can’t stop snapping when my child does this one thing: Spotify | Apple Podcast 
• S3E14 I Cancel Plans Because I Don’t Have the Energy to Fake My Personality: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E15 He wants the Maldives but we can't even manage the park: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E16 No meds, No plan, and no help..... but yet they're still calling us undiagnosed: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E17 How we survive the 3- 6:00 PM shit show when kids are coming down off meds: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E18 Why you are bad at asking for help and what to do instead: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S2E22 Why self-care feels like another fucking task: Spotify | Apple Podcast

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

TOPICS COVERED:
ADHD executive dysfunction, task initiation, parenting with ADHD, emotional regulation, ADHD shame spiral, performance parenting, burnout, trauma-informed self-support, neuroaffirming strategies, inner critic, motivation myths, hyperfocus, late diagnosis, ADHD overwhelm, doing things differently, permission to rest.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

With special guest: Jayde Couldewell from Beyond the Bump

If you thought finally getting a diagnosis and trying meds would be the end of your chaos — but you’re still overwhelmed, melting down, or yelling into the void — this one’s for you.

In this raw, funny, and emotionally honest episode, Jane is joined by Jayde Couldewell to talk about what really happens after diagnosis. Spoiler: the meds help, but they’re not the whole story. Together, they unpack what comes next — from executive function and exercise, to morning meltdowns and postnatal rage, to finally being able to hear your own thoughts.

Jayde shares the real-life before-and-after: what it took to make consistent change after starting meds, why boundaries mattered more than bubble baths, and how she learned to parent herself while parenting three kids.

✨ IN THIS RESET:

• Why ADHD meds are a powerful tool — but not a magic fix
• The grief and clarity that comes with late diagnosis
• How self-understanding created space for real change
• Building habits with ADHD (without making it a full-time job)
• Why it’s normal to need more than just one script
• The difference between the ‘old you’ and your real self underneath the chaos
• How to start small — and stay kind to yourself when it feels hard

💭 This episode is for you if:
– You’re newly diagnosed and wondering what now?
– You’re still waiting for the mythical “life-changing moment” after meds
– You want to see how someone made it work — without toxic positivity or 5am bootcamps

Follow Beyond the Bump Podcast on IG.

📥 Related Resources:
• Free ADHD Medication Advocacy Guide

• TGA Medication Shortage Portal

🎧 Related Episodes:

• S2E38 How ADHD medication revealed my Autistic traits | Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S2E39 Misdiagnosis in ADHD and Bipolar Disorder with Georgia Poletti-Moulds | Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S2E61 Unhealthy Habits & ADHD: Why We Get Stuck & How to Shift | Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S2E82 ADHD or PTSD? Why So Many Women Are Misdiagnosed with Amanda Moses | Spotify | Apple Podcast
• Beyond the Bump Episode 208: ADHD - is it mum overwhelm or could it be something more? Talking ADHD in women | Spotify | Apple Podcast

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:
ADHD diagnosis, stimulant medication, late-diagnosed women, executive dysfunction, self-care with ADHD, postnatal rage, parenting burnout, creating new routines, morning overwhelm, neurodivergent mums, co-regulation, antidepressants, sensory processing, shame recovery, trauma-informed support, adult ADHD, performance burnout, self-trust, ADHD and exercise, nervous system healing.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If someone tells you to take a bubble bath one more time, you might scream.

This Quick Reset is a no-filter, nervous-system-level rant for every ADHD mum who’s been told that a massage will fix her burnout. Jane unpacks why the whole self-care industry is fundamentally mismatched to neurodivergent mums — and how pretending we feel better after one ‘treat’ just leads to more shame, not recovery.

From sensory overload and executive dysfunction to the rage of being handed a “Mother’s Day spa voucher” after 364 days of unpaid emotional labour, this episode calls out the delusion of performance rest — and offers honest alternatives that might actually increase your capacity to survive.

✨ IN THIS RESET:

• Why typical self-care advice feels like a slap in the face
• How ADHD brains struggle to “relax on command”
• The truth behind fake rest, survival mode, and executive dysfunction
• What to do when even the bath feels too hard
• How to find five-minute moments that actually help (without a full routine)
• A very real story about walking 50 metres to put the bins out — slowly

💭 This episode is for you if:
– You’re drowning in responsibility and someone suggests yoga
– You’ve tried rest but felt more resentful than rested
– You want to stop surviving a system that breaks you, blames you, and offers a bubble bath as compensation

References

• 📚Brown, T. E. (2013). A New Understanding of ADHD in Children and Adults: Executive Function Impairments. Routledge.
• 📚 *Price, D. (2021). Laziness Does Not Exist. Atria Books.
• 📚 Barkley, R. A. (2012). Executive Functions: What They Are, How They Work, and Why They Evolved. Guilford Press.

Other Quick Reset Episodes:

• S3E8 Advocating for Your Child Shouldn’t Break You — But It Often Does: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E10 Why am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong?: Spotify  | Apple Podcast
• S3E12 I can’t stop snapping when my child does this one thing: Spotify | Apple Podcast 
• S3E14 I Cancel Plans Because I Don’t Have the Energy to Fake My Personality: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E15 He wants the Maldives but we can't even manage the park: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E16 No meds, No plan, and no help..... but yet they're still calling us undiagnosed: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E17 How we survive the 3- 6:00 PM shit show when kids are coming down off meds: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E18 Why you are bad at asking for help and what to do instead: Spotify | Apple Podcast

🔁 SHARE THIS RESET:
If this one hit hard, send it to a mum friend who’s also stuck in survival mode. Let her know: she’s not broken, she’s bracing.

Read the blog version of this episode: https://adhdmums.com.au/quick-reset-why-self-care-feels-like-another-fcking-task/ 

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

ADHD mums, performance parenting, fake rest, executive dysfunction, parenting burnout, self-care shame, chronic dysregulation, ADHD and motherhood, cortisol overload, trauma-informed parenting, invisible load, overfunctioning, resentment cycle, Mother's Day rage, self-care myths, rest as survival, emotional labour, ADHD sensory processing, real recovery, neurodivergent rest.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you've ever walked out of a school meeting wondering how it could all feel so wrong — this episode is for you.

In the powerful final instalment of the ADHD Mums School Series, Jane is joined by neurodivergent educator Millie Carr to reimagine what school could be — if we stopped prioritising performance over people. Together, they unpack how traditional education models are burning out not only our kids, but also the parents, teachers, and professionals trying to hold it all together.

From sensory trauma to compliance-driven behaviour plans, this episode explores the uncomfortable truth: our current system isn’t broken — it was built this way. But that doesn’t mean we can’t shift it.

You’ll hear stories, systems critique, and practical frameworks for creating school environments that don’t just tolerate neurodivergence — but truly honour it.

✨ IN THIS EPISODE:

• Why behaviour plans and positive reinforcement often fail neurodivergent kids
• The myth of “readiness” and why regulation must come before learning
• Trauma-aware, neuro-affirming practice — what it actually looks like
• Why ‘calm’ doesn’t mean regulated, and how masking is rewarded in school
• What schools misunderstand about sensory needs, social withdrawal, and shutdown
• How parents, teachers, and allied professionals can challenge the system together
• The role of leadership, training, and funding in making lasting change
• Why fixing school is about collective regulation, not individual resilience

💭 This episode is for you if:
– You’ve had to choose between education and emotional safety
– You’re tired of being told “they’re fine here” when your child is unraveling at home
– You want to understand how schools could work — and what has to shift for that to happen

Related Episodes with Millie Carr

• How to Tell Your Child About Their Diagnosis: Essential Do's and Don'ts. | Spotify | Apple Podcast
• Camouflaging ADHD and Autistic Traits in Girls | Spotify | Apple Podcast
• The Neurodiverse Classroom | Spotify | Apple Podcast
• SCHOOL SERIES: When School Becomes the Trauma — What No One Tells ADHD Parents | Spotify | Apple Podcast
• SCHOOL SERIES: Burnout Starts in the Classroom — And Follows Them Home | Spotify | Apple Podcast
• SCHOOL SERIES: The Great Gaslighting: When Schools Say We Don’t See It | Spotify | Apple Podcast
• SCHOOL SERIES -IEP Meetings Are Broken — Here’s What to Say Instead | Spotify | Apple Podcast
• SCHOOL SERIES: When School Stops Feeling Safe | Spotify | Apple Podcast
• SCHOOL SERIES:  How to Choose a School That Won’t Break Your Kid (or You) | Spotify | Apple Podcast

📥 Related Resources:
– The School Choice Kit: A neuro-affirming guide to help you choose a school that works for your child — not against them. Includes school tour scripts, red flag/green flag checklists, and practical planning tools.
– Read the blog version of this episode HERE.

🔗 References & Resources from Millie Carr

Frameworks & Programs:

• Berry Street Education Model
  Berry Street Education Model – Learning and Resources
• Social Stencil (Neurodiversity-affirming social and emotional program)
  Social Stencil Website
• Mental Health Fund and Menu – VIC Department of Education
  (Schools can access mental health programs tailored to student needs; menu attached where available)
  Mental Health Menu Overview – VIC DET
• Universal Design for Learning (UDL) Guidelines
  CAST UDL Guidelines

📚 Recommended Books:

• The Neurodiverse Classroom: A Teacher's Guide to Individual Learning Needs and How to Meet Them
  by Victoria Honeybourne
  Available on Amazon
• Creating Trauma-Informed, Strengths-Based Classrooms
  by Tom Brunzell
  Available on Booktopia
• Neurodiversity-Affirming Schools: Transforming Practices So All Students Feel Accepted and Supported
  by Emily Kircher-Morris
  Available on Booktopia
• The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind
  by Dr Daniel J. Siegel and Dr Tina Payne Bryson
  Available on Amazon

Need support navigating school chaos?
Making School Work is your go-to advocacy guide for when your neurodivergent child isn’t coping — and the school says they’re fine. Packed with scripts, templates, and clarity for IEPs, school refusal, and shutdowns, it helps you hold your ground in the rooms that matter.
Get it here: https://adhdmums.com.au/product/making-school-work-parent-guide/ 

Resources Mentioned:

🔗 To find out more about Millie Carr or purchase her books please click on her website or check out her IG

🔗 Sign our Change Petition here

🔗 Submit your experience with schooling here

🎧 Listener Questions please send here

🔗 Free Guides and Resources: https://adhdmums.com.au/resources/

Disability & Education Laws Referenced (Qld Human Rights Act, DSE 2005, UN CRPD)

👩‍⚖️ Human Rights Commission: humanrights.gov.au

📚 References & Further Reading

• Disability Standards for Education 2005
  Read via the Department of Education – Australian Government
• Disability Discrimination Act 1992
  View the full legislation on the Federal Register

OIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

neurodivergent education, trauma-aware classrooms, ADHD school burnout, behaviour plans, masking at school, shutdown, school refusal, inclusive education, co-regulation, collective regulation, neuroaffirming schools, sensory trauma, educational reform, school trauma, emotional safety, invisible disability, parenting ADHD kids, advocating for change, leadership in education, teacher training.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you're a neurodivergent parent staring down the impossible decision of where to send your child to school — this episode is for you.

Forget the glossy brochures and test score spreadsheets. In this raw, strategic conversation, Jane and Millie Carr walk you through the real questions to ask, the red flags to watch for, and how to trust your gut when it comes to choosing a school that won't retraumatise your kid — or you.

We unpack the hidden barriers ADHD and autistic families face during school enrolment, what buzzwords to interrogate (hello “inclusive” and “resilient”), and how to decode a school’s culture beneath the surface. Because being told “we’ve got neurodivergent kids here too” isn’t the same as knowing how to support them.

You’ll walk away with scripts, insight, and the confidence to stop people-pleasing your way into another educational crisis.

✨ IN THIS EPISODE:

• Why “inclusive” doesn’t always mean safe
• The buzzwords that signal masking, not belonging
• Questions to ask on a school tour that don’t flag your child as “the hard one
• What to look for beyond classrooms: playgrounds, posters, and teacher training
• The role of trauma-informed, neuroaffirming values in everyday school lif
• When to walk away (even if it’s inconvenient)
• How to weigh up private vs public when the real issue is leadership
• Real-life stories of switching schools — and what finally worked

💭 This episode is for you if:
– You’ve been burned by schools that promised support and delivered shame
– You’re overwhelmed by the decision and scared to get it wrong
– You want your child to feel safe, regulated, and seen — not just compliant

📥 Download the free School Choice Kit — includes a walk-through guide, green/red flag checklist, school tour scripts, and more:
👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/product/the-school-choice-kit/

📝 Want to go deeper? Read the blog version of this episode:
👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/how-to-choose-a-school-that-wont-break-your-kid-or-you/ 

Need support navigating school chaos?
Making School Work is your go-to advocacy guide for when your neurodivergent child isn’t coping — and the school says they’re fine. Packed with scripts, templates, and clarity for IEPs, school refusal, and shutdowns, it helps you hold your ground in the rooms that matter.
Get it here: https://adhdmums.com.au/product/making-school-work-parent-guide/ 

Other Quick Reset Episodes:

• S3E8 Advocating for Your Child Shouldn’t Break You — But It Often Does: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E10 Why am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong?: Spotify  | Apple Podcast
• S3E12 I can’t stop snapping when my child does this one thing: Spotify | Apple Podcast 
• S3E14 I Cancel Plans Because I Don’t Have the Energy to Fake My Personality: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E15 He wants the Maldives but we can't even manage the park: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E16 No meds, No plan, and no help..... but yet they're still calling us undiagnosed: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E17 How we survive the 3- 6:00 PM shit show when kids are coming down off meds: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E18 Why you are bad at asking for help and what to do instead: Spotify | Apple Podcast

Resources Mentioned:

🔗 To find out more about Millie Carr or purchase her books please click on her website or check out her IG

🔗 Sign our Change Petition here

🔗 Submit your experience with schooling here

🎧 Listener Questions please send here

🔗 Free Guides and Resources: https://adhdmums.com.au/resources/

Disability & Education Laws Referenced (Qld Human Rights Act, DSE 2005, UN CRPD)

👩‍⚖️ Human Rights Commission: humanrights.gov.au

📚 References & Further Reading

• Disability Standards for Education 2005
  Read via the Department of Education – Australian Government
• Disability Discrimination Act 1992
  View the full legislation on the Federal Register

🎧 Listen Now

If you’ve ever sat through a 15-minute IEP meeting where nothing changed, or wondered how much louder you have to get before someone listens—this episode is your script, your validation, and your reminder:

You’re not too much. The system is too underprepared.

Hit play. Forward it to your child’s support coordinator. Save it for your next meeting.

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

Topics Covered  In This Episode:

asking for help, ADHD mums, good girl conditioning, emotional labour, burnout, pathological self-reliance, support scripts, parenting shutdown, masking, trauma-informed parenting, help refusal, co-regulation, overfunctioning, performance parenting, ADHD and motherhood, emotional suppression, boundaries, unmet needs, meltdown cycle, maternal overload, neuroaffirming support.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If your child holds it together at school but falls apart at home — this episode is for you.

In this raw and deeply validating conversation, Jane is joined again by educator Millie Carr to unpack what happens when school is no longer emotionally or psychologically safe for neurodivergent kids. From missed warning signs to outright shutdown, we explore how subtle distress gets overlooked — and how easily parents are made to feel like they’re overreacting.

You’ll learn what to watch for, what to say to schools without getting dismissed, and how to hold your ground when your gut says something’s not right. Whether your child is masking, refusing, or silently burning out, this episode gives you tools to recognise what’s happening — and advocate without losing yourself in the process.

🧠 What We Cover in This Episode:

• What it looks like when school stops feeling safe for your child
• How stomach aches, fatigue, and ‘bad behaviour’ are often nervous system distress
• Why behaviour plans focused on compliance miss the point
• The invisible trauma of forced attendance
• How to approach schools without being labelled the ‘difficult parent’
• Repairing a broken relationship with school staff — and when not to bother
• Why sitting on the floor too long can be the final straw
• The difference between refusing school and not coping
• What to do when your child can’t tell you what’s wrong — and no one at school is listening

💭 This episode is for you if:
– You’ve ever sat in the car after drop-off wondering if you’re doing the right thing
– You’ve been told your child is ‘fine’ at school while you’re watching them unravel at home
– You want to stop walking on eggshells with the school and start backing yourself

📥 Related Resource:
➡️ The School Choice Kit — A neuro-affirming guide to help you choose the right school for your child. Includes questions to ask, red flags to watch for, and planning tools to support your decision-making. Download the Kit

📖 Read the blog version of this episode:

👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/when-school-stops-being-safe/ 

Need support navigating school chaos?
Making School Work is your go-to advocacy guide for when your neurodivergent child isn’t coping — and the school says they’re fine. Packed with scripts, templates, and clarity for IEPs, school refusal, and shutdowns, it helps you hold your ground in the rooms that matter.
Get it here: https://adhdmums.com.au/product/making-school-work-parent-guide/ 

Other Quick Reset Episodes:

• S3E8 Advocating for Your Child Shouldn’t Break You — But It Often Does: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E10 Why am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong?: Spotify  | Apple Podcast
• S3E12 I can’t stop snapping when my child does this one thing: Spotify | Apple Podcast 
• S3E14 I Cancel Plans Because I Don’t Have the Energy to Fake My Personality: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E15 He wants the Maldives but we can't even manage the park: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E16 No meds, No plan, and no help..... but yet they're still calling us undiagnosed: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E17 How we survive the 3- 6:00 PM shit show when kids are coming down off meds: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E18 Why you are bad at asking for help and what to do instead: Spotify | Apple Podcast

Resources Mentioned:

🔗 To find out more about Millie Carr or purchase her books please click on her website or check out her IG

🔗 Sign our Change Petition here

🔗 Submit your experience with schooling here

🎧 Listener Questions please send here

🔗 Free Guides and Resources: https://adhdmums.com.au/resources/

Disability & Education Laws Referenced (Qld Human Rights Act, DSE 2005, UN CRPD)

👩‍⚖️ Human Rights Commission: humanrights.gov.au

📚 References & Further Reading

• Disability Standards for Education 2005
  Read via the Department of Education – Australian Government
• Disability Discrimination Act 1992
  View the full legislation on the Federal Register

🎧 Listen Now

If you’ve ever sat through a 15-minute IEP meeting where nothing changed, or wondered how much louder you have to get before someone listens—this episode is your script, your validation, and your reminder:

You’re not too much. The system is too underprepared.

Hit play. Forward it to your child’s support coordinator. Save it for your next meeting.

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

Topics Covered  In This Episode:

school trauma, masking, school refusal, neurodivergent burnout, ADHD parenting, shutdown, emotional safety, school gaslighting, dysregulation, behaviour plans, invisible load, sensory overwhelm, difficult parent myth, school advocacy, trauma-informed education, IEPs, school transitions, nervous system overload, emotional regulation, parenting instincts, neuroaffirming support.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If the words ‘let me know if you need anything’ make you panic instead of feel supported — this one’s for you.

This Quick Reset is a nervous system-level sigh of relief for the mums who feel safest surviving in silence. If you’ve ever shut down instead of speaking up, snapped when someone finally offered to help, or felt like asking for support meant erasing your worth — this episode will hit home. Hard.

We unpack the trauma behind “I’ve got it,” the invisible legacy of pathological self-reliance, and how masking your needs became part of your personality. But it’s not who you are — it’s what you learned.

It’s time to stop waiting until burnout to be visible. This episode offers small scripts, mindset shifts, and reframes that make asking for help feel less like failure — and more like a form of love.

✨ IN THIS RESET:

• Why asking for help feels like failure (especially for high-functioning women)
• How ‘good girl conditioning’ trained you to suppress needs
• Why no one notices you're struggling — and why that’s not your fault
• The trauma loop of independence, silence, and resentment
• Scripts to ask for support without shame
• When your meltdown isn’t about dinner — it’s about years of invisible labour
• Rewiring your worth away from being useful
• Real-life strategies to pre-negotiate support (before the spiral)
• Giving yourself the grace to stop performing strength

💭 This episode is for you if:
– You say “I’m fine” when you’re not — and no one calls your bluff
– You wait for a breakdown to finally say “I need help”
– You want to rest before you collapse, but don't know how to start

🔬 References 

• Dr. Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself (2011) – particularly chapters on caregiving and gendered expectations.
• Neff, K. D., & Germer, C. K. (2018). The Mindful Self‐Compassion Workbook. Guilford Press.

📚 RELATED RESOURCES:

• Free ADHD Medication Advocacy Guide

🔁 SHARE THIS RESET:
If this one hit hard, send it to a mum friend who’s also stuck in survival mode. Let her know: she’s not broken, she’s bracing.

Other Quick Reset Episodes:

• S3E8 Advocating for Your Child Shouldn’t Break You — But It Often Does: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E10 Why am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong?: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E12 I can’t stop snapping when my child does this one thing: Spotify | Apple Podcast 
• S3E14 I Cancel Plans Because I Don’t Have the Energy to Fake My Personality: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E15 He wants the Maldives but we can't even manage the park: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E16 No meds, No plan, and no help..... but yet they're still calling us undiagnosed: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E17 QUICK RESET: How we survive the 3- 6:00 PM shit show when kids are coming down off meds. Spotify | Apple Podcast

🧠 TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:
asking for help, ADHD mums, good girl conditioning, emotional labour, burnout, pathological self-reliance, support scripts, parenting shutdown, masking, trauma-informed parenting, help refusal, co-regulation, overfunctioning, performance parenting, ADHD and motherhood, emotional suppression, boundaries, unmet needs, meltdown cycle, maternal overload, neuroaffirming support.

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If your afternoons feel like a slow-motion train wreck — tears, yelling, slammed doors, and you hiding in the pantry with a chocolate bar — this episode is for you.

This Quick Reset speaks directly to the ADHD mums stuck in the brutal 3–6PM rebound window (or 3–9PM if your house is really on fire). When the stimulant meds wear off, the chaos ramps up — and suddenly the smallest request can launch a meltdown. Whether your child is screaming in the backseat or your teenager is giving you the silent treatment, this episode validates the unspoken truth: it’s not you, it’s the neurochemical whiplash.

Jane breaks down the reality of post-school dysregulation, explains why your child falls apart as soon as they get home, and shares real-life survival tools (not Pinterest-perfect routines) that actually help.

✨ IN THIS RESET, WE COVER:

• What’s really happening when ADHD meds wear off (spoiler: it’s not “bad behaviour”)
• Why the smallest requests trigger epic meltdowns
• The connection between sensory build-up, emotional suppression, and after-school explosions
• Why your child’s brain crashes when yours does too
• The invisible rebound window: how to recognise it and adapt
• School masking and why ‘safe’ doesn’t always look calm
• The only two things that changed Jane’s afternoons (music + snacks, no eye contact)
• Low-demand parenting that actually protects connection
• Why the “put your lunchbox on the bench” battle isn’t worth it — and what to do instead
  
  

💭 This episode is for you if:
– You dread the school pickup more than the morning rush
– You spiral into shame after yelling — again
– You feel like the only mum hiding in her laundry at 5PM questioning everything

🎧 Listen now on your favourite platform and hit follow so you never miss a Reset.

🔗 Resources & Links:

• Join the Facebook community: ADHD Mums FB Group
• More resources & tools: www.adhdmums.com.au/shop

🔁 SHARE THIS RESET:
If this one hit hard, send it to a mum friend who’s also stuck in survival mode. Let her know: she’s not broken, she’s bracing.

Other Quick Reset Episodes:

• S3E8 Advocating for Your Child Shouldn’t Break You — But It Often Does: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E10 Why am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong?: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E12 I can’t stop snapping when my child does this one thing: Spotify | Apple Podcast 
• S3E14 I Cancel Plans Because I Don’t Have the Energy to Fake My Personality: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E15 He wants the Maldives but we can't even manage the park: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E16 No meds, No plan, and no help..... but yet they're still calling us undiagnosed: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E18 Why you are bad at asking for help and what to do instead: Spotify | Apple Podcast

🧠 TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:
ADHD rebound, parenting rage, stimulant medication, after school meltdowns, low-demand parenting, sensory overload, emotional dysregulation, school masking, post-med crash, parenting with ADHD, after school routine, co-regulation, ADHD parenting tips, medication wear-off, shutdown, parenting burnout, survival strategies, neurodivergent kids, rethinking routines, school trauma, ADHD mums.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you’ve spent hours calling pharmacies, chasing down scripts, or fighting tears in front of your child’s school — this episode is for you.

This week’s Quick Reset is a brutally honest look at the ADHD medication shortage and what it’s actually costing families. It’s not just about pills. It’s about access, function, and survival. If you’ve been told to 'just hang in there' while rationing doses, burning out, and trying to stay regulated — this episode will meet you where you are.

We unpack why the shortage isn’t just a supply chain hiccup — but a structural failure — and what you can do right now. You’ll hear the real-life chaos behind one bottle of meds, the truth about demand vs infrastructure, and the emotional cost of parenting without the support you fought hard to access.

🧠 What We Cover in This Episode:

• What’s actually causing the ADHD medication shortage in Australia

• Why this isn’t about 'overprescribing' — it’s about systemic neglect

• The real impact on parents who are rationing, relapsing, and burning out

• How executive function vanishes when meds disappear

• What the TGA, the PBS, and DEA limits have to do with your child’s treatment

• Bridging scripts, access barriers, and what GPs still don’t know

• Why this crisis is about disability rights, not convenience

• The stories that politicians need to hear — and how to send them

💥 This episode is for you if:
– You’re sharing meds between siblings or skipping doses to make it through the week
– You’ve been left with no support, no alternatives, and zero help — yet somehow still expected to function
– You want to advocate without being told to 'calm down'

🎧 Listen now and take the first step toward action — even if all you can do today is hit play.

🔁 SHARE THIS RESET:
If this one hit hard, send it to a mum friend who’s also stuck in survival mode. Let her know: she’s not broken, she’s bracing.

Other Quick Reset Episodes:

• S3E8 Advocating for Your Child Shouldn’t Break You — But It Often Does: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E10 Why am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong?: Spotify  | Apple Podcast
• S3E12 I can’t stop snapping when my child does this one thing: Spotify | Apple Podcast 
• S3E14 I Cancel Plans Because I Don’t Have the Energy to Fake My Personality: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E15 He wants the Maldives but we can't even manage the park: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E17 How we survive the 3- 6:00 PM shit show when kids are coming down off meds: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E18 Why you are bad at asking for help and what to do instead: Spotify | Apple Podcast

📚 Related Resources:

– Free ADHD Medication Advocacy Resource
– TGA Medication Shortage Portal
– 📥 Download MP forms, free resources & more on this subject here

🧠 TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:
ADHD medication shortage, ADHD mums, stimulant access, unmedicated parenting, executive dysfunction, advocacy, system failure, rationing medication, Concerta shortage, Ritalin supply, neurodivergent burnout, mental health crisis, parenting unsupported, TGA, PBS medication, real-life ADHD, medication access, writing to MPs, disability rights, school chaos, neuroaffirming advocacy, ADHD parenting.

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If your partner’s dreaming of overseas holidays while you’re barely surviving the playground — this episode is for you.

This Quick Reset is a brutally honest look at what 'holiday' means when you’re the default parent, the nervous system regulator, and the one who never actually gets to rest. If your body flinches at the word “vacation” because it remembers meltdowns, sleepless nights, and judgmental relatives — you’re not alone.

Jane unpacks the invisible trauma of parenting while travelling, why holidays can feel like executive function overload, and how memory, shame, and nervous system trauma shape our future planning.

You’ll laugh, cry, and probably cancel the family road trip — but you’ll feel deeply seen.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• The five-step emotional cycle of ‘family holidays’
• Why past chaos makes your brain reject future hope
• The mental load of pretending you're relaxed
• Photo albums that trigger survival memories
• What to say when your partner doesn’t get it
• How to redefine rest when even leaving the house feels hard
• Naming nervous system trauma without shame
• Why opting out isn’t negative — it’s protective

This episode is for you if:
– You feel guilt for dreading holidays you’re “meant” to enjoy
– You’ve walked into school term more tired than you left
– You want to create memories, but not at the cost of your sanity

Resources & Links:

• Join the Facebook community: ADHD Mums FB Group
• More resources & tools: www.adhdmums.com.au/shop

🔁 SHARE THIS RESET:
If this one hit hard, send it to a mum friend who’s also stuck in survival mode. Let her know: she’s not broken, she’s bracing.

Other Quick Reset Episodes:

• S3E8 Advocating for Your Child Shouldn’t Break You — But It Often Does: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E10 Why am I bracing for impact when nothing is wrong?: Spotify  | Apple Podcast
• S3E12 I can’t stop snapping when my child does this one thing: Spotify | Apple Podcast 
• S3E14 I Cancel Plans Because I Don’t Have the Energy to Fake My Personality: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E16 No meds, No plan, and no help..... but yet they're still calling us undiagnosed: Spotify | Apple Podcast

• S3E17 How we survive the 3- 6:00 PM shit show when kids are coming down off meds: Spotify | Apple Podcast
• S3E18 Why you are bad at asking for help and what to do instead: Spotify | Apple Podcast

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TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:
holiday trauma, ADHD mums, parenting burnout, sensory overload, neurodivergent parenting, executive dysfunction, invisible load, travel shame, mental load, overstimulation, family expectations, gentle parenting realities, meltdown management, trauma-informed parenting, ADHD mum life, redefining rest, survival mode, vacation anxiety, co-regulation, parenting triggers.

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