I picked up the kids in my husband's car the other day. The youngest said something. The next one waited until they finished, then said something back. There was a pause. I turned around and looked at three kids not even fighting and thought, is this how pickup goes? In my car, it's on the second they get in. Someone's interrupting, someone's yelling, I'm turning the music up to drown them out, ready to throw myself onto the driveway while it's moving. Same kids. Same school. Different mum.

What We Cover

• The hubby-car pickup vs my-car pickup — same kids, same school, completely different ride
• What happens to your nervous system when you're already at a rolling boil before the kids even get in the car
• Interoception — why the signals your body's been sending all afternoon don't land in real time for an ADHD brain
• Alexithymia — the clinical inability to name a feeling in the moment, and the 42–51% of ADHD adults living inside it
• Why mum rage feels like it came out of nowhere when it didn't, and why 'try harder, breathe more, be more like other mums at pickup' was never the answer
• The dinner-time cheese moment — the fan, the dog, the kid in the shower, the TV, the iPad — and why it was never about the cheese
• Who actually benefits when the rage gets called your temperament instead of your load — and why the lavender oil keeps not working
• Part 1 of 2 — what's happening underneath. Part 2 is what to do about it.

Related Episodes

• S2 EP84: Mum Rage Part 1 (Jacinta Thomson) — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-84-i-love-my-family-but-im-so-fking-angry-mum-rage-part-1/
• S2 EP85: Mum Rage Part 2 — Real Tools for Real Rage — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-85-real-tools-for-real-rage-mum-rage-part-2real-tools-for-real-rage-mum-rage-part-2/
• EP52 HORMONES: When HRT Isn't Enough — Mum Rage & Perimenopause Explained (Dr Sunita Chelva) — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-52-hormones-when-hrt-isnt-enough-mum-rage-perimenopause-explained/
• EP82: Overstimulated Before 7am (Rachel Few) — https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-podcast-episodes/rachel-few/
• EP12 QUICK RESET: I Can't Stop Snapping When My Child Does This — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-12-quick-reset-i-cant-stop-snapping-when-my-child-does-this-one-thing/
• S3: I'm Gentle With My Daughter for Ten Minutes, Then I Tell Myself to Stop Being Such a F*cking Embarrassment — https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-podcast-episodes/im-gentle-with-my-daughter-for-ten-minutes-then-i-tell-myself-to-stop-being-such-a-fcking-embarrassment/

References:

Bruton, M., Hall, S. S., & Pollock, M. (2025). Diminished interoceptive accuracy in attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder: A systematic review. Psychophysiology, 62(2), e14750. https://doi.org/10.1111/psyp.14750

Edel, M.-A., Rudel, A., Hubert, C., Scheele, D., Brüne, M., Juckel, G., & Assion, H.-J. (2010). Alexithymia, emotion processing and social anxiety in adults with ADHD. European Journal of Medical Research, 15(9), 403–409. — Found 22% of ADHD adults met TAS-20 cutoff (≥61).

Donfrancesco, R., Di Trani, M., Gregori, P., Auguanno, G., Melegari, M. G., Zaninotto, S., & Luby, J. (2013). Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder and alexithymia: A pilot study. ADHD Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorders, 5(4), 361–367.

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You're at the dinner table you fought to make happen. Your phone lights up — school app, swimming's been moved, the bag has to be packed tonight. You know in your bones that if you don't write it down right now, it's gone by morning. You pick up your phone. Your kid says, you said no phones at dinner, I'm getting my iPad then. The parenting advice has told you you've just damaged everyone. The research says you've just used the exact tool your brain needs.

What We Cover

• The dinner table, the school app, the swimming change, the kid line — and the impossible decision in the middle of it
• Why 'phones down at dinner' advice was written for a woman who doesn't need the advice
• Cognitive offloading — the research-backed reason your phone is your external hard drive, not your hobby
• The 11:40pm password reset window — the unpaid admin job nobody sees, and the morning question from your kid (why were you up so late?) you can't answer
• The co-regulation gap — what happens when the advice assumes a regulated parent and a regulated child, and neither one is in your house at 5pm
• The flip — your daughter isn't watching you on a phone. She's watching you teach her how to externalise her working memory before her brain needs to do it too.
• Why the most important thing she sees you do is recover from being overwhelmed, not put down a device

Related Episodes

• EP49 QUICK RESET: I'm Not Lazy — My House Doesn't Have a Memory — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-49-quick-reset-im-not-lazy-my-house-just-doesnt-have-a-memory/
• S3: When a Neuroscientist Says iPads Cause ADHD — https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-podcast-episodes/when-a-neuroscientist-says-ipads-cause-adhd-and-you-wonder-if-youve-damaged-your-kids/
• EP80: The Invisible Coordination Load — https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-podcast-episodes/the-invisible-coordination-load-why-adhd-mums-carry-the-work-systems-wont/
• S3: I'm Gentle With My Daughter for Ten Minutes, Then I Tell Myself to Stop Being Such a F*cking Embarrassment — https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-podcast-episodes/im-gentle-with-my-daughter-for-ten-minutes-then-i-tell-myself-to-stop-being-such-a-fcking-embarrassment/
• EP71: When You Can't Relax Even When It's Quiet — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/why-adhd-mums-cant-relax/

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References

Risko, E. F., & Gilbert, S. J. (2016). Cognitive offloading. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 20(9), 676–688. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tics.2016.07.002

Alderson, R. M., Kasper, L. J., Hudec, K. L., & Patros, C. H. G. (2013). Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and working memory in adults: A meta-analytic review. Neuropsychology, 27(3), 287–302. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0032371

Feldman, R. (2007). Parent–infant synchrony and the construction of shared timing; physiological precursors, developmental outcomes, and risk conditions. Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, 48(3–4), 329–354. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1469-7610.2006.01701.x

Listener Question Episode: Bec drops the kids at school, the kitchen's a mess, and she can't let herself eat breakfast until it's clean. Loads the washing on too — wouldn't want to waste time. She finally sits down at 11am. She's wondering if it's an ADHD thing or if she's just weird. She's not weird. She's been trying the wrong strategy on the wrong problem for years.

What We Cover

• Bec's voicemail, the kitchen, the load of washing on while she eats, 11am breakfast
• Why "you deserve rest, mama" advice slides right off — and why feeling worse after reading it isn't a personal failure
• The four different drivers underneath one behaviour — same cry on the surface, completely different things going on inside
• A four-question audio quiz to figure out which one is the loudest in you
• Why every behaviour you're stuck in is meeting a need — and you can't change it until you know which one
• Why my dad and my 80-year-old grandma chainsawing down a tree while telling each other to sit down haunts me — and why I'm watching my daughter start to do it too
• The advice isn't wrong. It's just for the wrong problem.

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Related Episodes

• S3 EP35: You Were the Good Girl. That's Why You're Falling Apart Now — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-35-you-were-the-good-girl-thats-why-youre-falling-apart-now/
• EP49 QUICK RESET: I'm Not Lazy, My House Doesn't Have a Memory — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-49-quick-reset-im-not-lazy-my-house-just-doesnt-have-a-memory/
• EP71: When You Can't Relax Even When It's Quiet — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/why-adhd-mums-cant-relax/
• S3 EP59: The Red Pen Christmas — Stop Editing Yourself for Everyone Else — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-59-stop-editing-yourself-red-pen-christmas/
• EP72: You're Not Behind — You Learned to Carry Responsibility Too Early — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/youre-not-behind-you-learned-to-carry-responsibility-too-early
• EP81: The Hidden Cost of Being the 'Good Girl' — https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-podcast-episodes/the-hidden-cost-of-being-the-good-girl-how-the-mental-load-became-ours/
• EP80: The Invisible Coordination Load — https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-podcast-episodes/the-invisible-coordination-load-why-adhd-mums-carry-the-work-systems-wont/
• EP93: When You Remove the Stress and Start Wondering What's Wrong With You — https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-podcast-episodes/when-you-remove-the-stress-and-start-wondering-whats-wrong-with-you/
• EP53 QUICK RESET: Self-Care Feels Nice. Self-Regulation Keeps You Alive — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-53-quick-reset-self-care-feels-nice-self-regulation-keeps-you-alive/

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References

Volkow et al. — Deficits in the brain's reward system in ADHD. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/09/090908193432.htm

Furukawa et al. — Abnormal striatal BOLD responses to reward anticipation and reward delivery in ADHD. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3935853/

Aarts et al. — Reward modulation of cognitive function in adult ADHD: the role of striatal dopamine. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25485641/

Panagiotidi et al. — Altered somatosensory processing in adult ADHD. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC11323665/

Neurodivergent Insights — Sensory Overload in ADHD (cites Miller et al. 2017). https://neurodivergentinsights.com/sensory-overload-in-adhd/

Attachment Project — Unrelenting Standards / Hypercriticalness Schema. https://www.attachmentproject.com/early-maladaptive-schemas/unrealiting-standards/

Bay Area CBT Center — Unpacking the Unrelenting Standards Schema. https://bayareacbtcenter.com/unpacking-the-unrelenting-standards-schema/

IFS Institute — Internal Family Systems Model Outline. https://ifs-institute.com/resources/articles/internal-family-systems-model-outline

Positive Psychology — Internal Family Systems Therapy: 8 Worksheets and Exercises. https://positivepsychology.com/internal-family-systems-therapy/

The cafe moment. A waiter. Six seconds of blank silence. I've ordered for everyone in my life for 40 years and when someone asked what I wanted, there was nobody home. Season 4 starts here. This isn't a self-help season. It's not a divorce season. It's the work nobody warned us about — what happens after the diagnosis, when the operating system fails and you don't know who you are without it.

What We Cover

• The cafe, the menu, the bacon and eggs my husband always orders — and the six seconds I'll never forget
• Why I can connect every menu item to what my kids or husband would eat, but not to what I want
• The dopamine system that drives preference — and what happens after 30, 40 years of overriding it
• What I'm doing for my 40th: nothing, because I don't know
• Who you become when you're at service to everyone — partners, kids, in-laws, WhatsApp groups, work, the can-you-just emails
• Why "operating system" is the only word that fits — and why my daughter is starting to run it too
• Why the diagnosis doesn't just add a chapter. It rewrites the whole book.
• The pushback — the first quiet no, the partners who pretend not to notice, the friends who stop calling, the "you've changed"
• Why the mask isn't a costume anymore — for some of us, it's the whole identity, and everyone we love is calibrated to it
• The five-stage renovation — the cost, the recognition, the pushback, the collision, the repair
• Why I'm stuck in stage three and don't pretend otherwise
• What's coming in Season 4: Dr Sunita Chelva returning, a miniseries on the pushback, what happens in the body when the operating system can't run anymore
• Why I'm done waiting — for the politicians, the clinicians, the right medication, the right specialist, the right strategy
• The shredding (not the gym kind — the bearded dragon kind)
• I'm not your guide. I'm the woman next to you at school pickup going, this is fucked, how do you feel?

Related Episodes

• S3 EP50: HORMONES — When Hormones Hijack the Mind: ADHD, Perimenopause & Emotional Burnout (Dr Sunita Chelva) — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-50-hormones-when-hormones-hijack-the-mind-adhd-perimenopause-emotional-burnout/
• S3 EP52: HORMONES — When HRT Isn't Enough: Mum Rage & Perimenopause Explained — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-52-hormones-when-hrt-isnt-enough-mum-rage-perimenopause-explained/

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The birthday of ADHD Mums came and went and I didn't celebrate. I'd spent a whole season demanding a seat at the table. By the end of it I was in bed, couldn't walk, getting diagnosed with perimenopause mid-record, and a friend asked me one question that broke the whole thing open. Supportive of what?

What We Cover

• The launch episode promise — "no more explaining, just strategy" — and why I delivered it and still feel like I lied
• Two lipedema operations, four months unable to walk, demanding a seat at the table from a hospital bed
• The cooked roast chicken after the C-section, and what I now call that "badge of honour"
• Crying mid-record with Dr Sunita Chelva and getting diagnosed with perimenopause to my face
• Reading the DSM at 15, walking into my parents' room, and being told to sweep it under the rug
• Why I gave up on the NDIS politicians — Mark Butler, the budget line, the room with no lived experience
• The premiers and health ministers messaging me now to re-announce nothing
• The friend who said 'Supportive of what?' and broke the whole season open
• What it costs to be the high-functioning ADHD woman who could do it all
• Why the strategy episodes were never the ones that landed — the identity episodes were
• The scheduled five-minute breakdown in the car, the wipe, the smile
• A million downloads, and what you've been doing for me without knowing it
• I'm not your guide. I'm the woman next to you in the car park.

Related Episodes

• S3 EP50: HORMONES — When Hormones Hijack the Mind: ADHD, Perimenopause & Emotional Burnout — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-50-hormones-when-hormones-hijack-the-mind-adhd-perimenopause-emotional-burnout/
• S3 EP52: HORMONES — When HRT Isn't Enough: Mum Rage & Perimenopause Explained — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-52-hormones-when-hrt-isnt-enough-mum-rage-perimenopause-explained/
• S3 EP35: You Were the Good Girl. That's Why You're Falling Apart Now — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-35-you-were-the-good-girl-thats-why-youre-falling-apart-now/
• S3: Overstimulated Before 7am (Rachel Few) — https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-podcast-episodes/rachel-few/
• S3 EP4: The Advanced ADHD + Neurodivergence Myths.. Busted — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-4-the-advanced-adhd-neurodivergence-myths-busted/

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Sorry I'm late. I have ADHD. So does my friend. She's sitting at the coffee shop halfway through her first one, watching me sweat through the door twenty minutes late. Same diagnosis. Different morning. Different brain doing the work behind it.

What We Cover

• The vein surgery saga — three appointments, three completely different outcomes, same brain
• The receptionist who handed me the appointment card like a library card and the one who didn't
• Why "set more alarms, leave earlier" is the equivalent of telling someone with low blood sugar to just have more energy
• The four types of ADHD time blindness — petrol gauge stuck on full, the car that won't start, the GPS that lies, the seatbelt warning that's late
• Why your strategies haven't worked — because they were built for someone else's type
• What actually works for each one — visual time, body doubling, departure rituals, calibration with a stopwatch, manufactured deadlines
• Why "I left heaps of time" keeps being true and untrue at the same time
• The 40-50% rule — adults with ADHD underestimate task time by half. Double it. Then add buffer.
• Why the friend at the coffee shop at five to nine isn't more disciplined — she's borrowing structure from her environment
• What collapses on school holidays, sick days, working from home, and what that tells you about which strategies are actually holding you up
• The estrogen/dopamine link — why the same brain at 32 isn't the same brain at 42

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• S3 EP24: QUICK RESET — The ADHD Myth of 'Just Try Harder' — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-24-quick-reset-the-adhd-myth-of-just-try-harder/
• S3 EP50: HORMONES — When Hormones Hijack the Mind: ADHD, Perimenopause & Emotional Burnout — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-50-hormones-when-hormones-hijack-the-mind-adhd-perimenopause-emotional-burnout/
• S2 EP67: Why Routines Always Seem to Fail for ADHD Families — and How to Fix Them — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-67-why-routines-always-seem-to-fail-for-adhd-families-and-how-to-fix-them/
• S3 EP49: QUICK RESET — "I'm Not Lazy — My House Just Doesn't Have a Memory" — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-49-quick-reset-im-not-lazy-my-house-just-doesnt-have-a-memory/

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Barkley, R.A. (1997). ADHD and the nature of self-control. Guilford Press.

Noreika, V., Falter, C.M., & Rubia, K. (2013). Timing deficits in ADHD. Neuropsychologia, 51(2), 235–266.

Willcutt, E.G., et al. (2005). Validity of the executive function theory of ADHD. Biological Psychiatry, 57(11), 1336–1346.

Graybiel, A.M. (2008). Habits, rituals, and the evaluative brain. Annual Review of Neuroscience, 31, 359–387.

Toplak, M.E., Dockstader, C., & Tannock, R. (2006). Temporal information processing in ADHD. Journal of Neuroscience Methods, 151(1), 15–29.

Ptacek, R., et al. (2019). Clinical implications of the perception of time in ADHD. Medical Science Monitor, 25, 3918–3924.

Sonuga-Barke, E.J.S. (2002). Psychological heterogeneity in AD/HD — a dual pathway model. Behavioural Brain Research, 130(1–2), 29–36.

Jacobs, E., & D'Esposito, M. (2011). Estrogen shapes dopamine-dependent cognitive processes. Journal of Neuroscience, 31(14), 5286–5293.

You take your child to the doctor. You tell them this isn't fussy, this isn't a phase. They tell you he'll grow out of it. Maybe it's his tonsils. Maybe you're anxious. Maybe your boundaries aren't strong enough. You leave the appointment knowing something isn't right, and starting to wonder if the something is you.

What We Cover

• Why ARFID gets missed for years while professionals chase tonsils, grommets, and dental work
• What happens when every silver bullet surgery makes zero difference and the grief that follows
• The cruise ship that didn't work, the buffet that didn't work, the Woolworths smuggling run that came too late
• Refeeding syndrome — when your malnourished child's body goes into shock from being fed
• The PEG surgery, the six-week wait that should've been six months, and a five-year-old dancing in the lounge room for the first time
• The cognitive impact of three years of malnutrition and the guilt of not pushing harder, sooner
• Why mum's intuition keeps being right while siloed specialists keep passing the buck
• The mental load of cooking the same crepe, the same rice mound, the washed meatballs — every single day
• What it costs to keep advocating when no one believes you

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Episodes on ARFID & Tracy's last episode

• S3 EP58: Things That Look Like Bad Parenting But Are Actually Neurodivergence (Tracy) — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-58-neurodivergence-and-parenting
• S2 EP81: You've Tried Everything… They Still Won't Eat: Real Strategies for ARFID at Home — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-81-youve-tried-everything-they-still-wont-eat-real-strategies-for-arfid-at-home/
• S3 EP46: ARFID, Eating Disorders & the Neurodivergent Body: What We Got Wrong (Marie Camin) — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-46-arfid-eating-disorders-the-neurodivergent-body-what-we-got-wrong/

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You can talk your daughter down in two minutes. Then you turn around and tell yourself to stop being such a f*cking embarrassment.

Same brain. Same mum. Two completely different voices within minutes.

🧠 What we cover in this episode:

• Why you can co-regulate a child in two minutes and tear yourself apart for the rest of the day
• The "good girl" reflex and how we absorbed an inward voice between six and twenty-six
• Why co-regulation is a directional skill — and most ADHD mums have only built it pointing outward
• Why the inward channel isn't empty — it's full of RSD running threat assessment on you
• Why "be kinder to yourself" has never worked (and isn't going to)
• Why gratitude journals, affirmations, "filling your cup," and "talk to yourself like your best friend" don't fix this
• Why softness towards yourself can feel like a threat to the structure holding everything together
• The identity layer — being "the regulated one," the calm mum, the one who handles it
• The one thing that actually works — and yes, you'll feel ridiculous doing it

💭 This episode is for you if:

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• S1 EP9: An RSD Story — Taking My Own Advice 👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/an-rsd-story-taking-my-own-advice-s1-ep9/
• S3 EP35: You Were the Good Girl. That's Why You're Falling Apart Now. 👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-35-you-were-the-good-girl-thats-why-youre-falling-apart-now/
• S3 EP53: QUICK RESET: Self-Care Feels Nice. Self-Regulation Keeps You Alive. 👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-53-quick-reset-self-care-feels-nice-self-regulation-keeps-you-alive/

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Sometimes the only thing that got you through the day was the iPad.

And then you scrolled past a clip telling you screens are rewiring your kid's brain. Causing ADHD. Making them socially broken. And your stomach dropped.

You weren't being lazy. You were trying to regulate yourself before you said something you'd regret.

But the guilt arrived anyway. Right on cue.

This week, Amanda Moses — senior psychologist, ADHD and autism assessor, the woman who actually trains other psychologists in this space — sits down to go through the Osher Günsberg clip line by line. The one with the neuroscientist claiming 'digital ADHD' is now the majority of cases. The one your mother-in-law sent you. The one that made you feel sick.

Amanda brings the receipts. None of them say what he said they said.

• The 'digital ADHD' claim — and what the actual heritability research says (74-80%, by the way)
• Why your phone notification is not going to give you a heart attack, no matter how many amygdala fight-or-flight diagrams someone draws
• The 'still face' babies story — what the research actually shows about distraction
• Why online connection counts — especially for autistic women, regional mums, and anyone who can't just 'turn up to playgroup'
• Why this kind of content hurts the women who can't afford a psych session and are already running on guilt

Amanda's References from this episode:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11472914/

https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0306910

https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychiatry/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2024.1441191/full

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00787-022-02130-3#Sec25

Check out Related Episodes

• S2 EP82: ADHD or PTSD? Why So Many Women Are Misdiagnosed (Amanda Moses) https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-82-adhd-or-ptsd-why-so-many-women-are-misdiagnosed-with-amanda-moses/
• S3 EP34: Is It Social Anxiety — or Is It Autism (Amanda Moses) — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-34-is-it-social-anxiety-or-is-it-autism-with-amanda-moses/
• S3 EP4: The advanced ADHD + Neurodivergence Myths.. Busted — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-4-the-advanced-adhd-neurodivergence-myths-busted/

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There's a script around Mother's Day that doesn't account for any of us.

You're meant to want a candle, a coffee, a sleep-in, and to look visibly grateful at the end of it. If you can't name what you want, you're ungrateful. If you do name it, you have to manage it. If you stay quiet, you spend Sunday night cleaning up the wrapping paper from your own gifts.

This episode is the one underneath that script. The maths nobody's saying out loud. The reason your brain blanks. And one small thing to try this Sunday — not to fix the year, just to notice what the silence is actually doing.

• He asks what you want and your brain just stops
• You always say I don't mind, whatever's easy and then feel a bit hollow when Sunday's over
• You've spent Mother's Days managing other people's mothers and have nothing left for your own
• You're a single mum and Sunday is just another Sunday, except this one's worse
• You're grieving — your own mum, the version of motherhood you wanted, or both
• You've been telling yourself for years that you're just too sensitive

S2 EP88: I Made the Lunches, Booked the Table, and Still Felt Invisible (Mother's Day)

S3 EP35: You Were the Good Girl. That's Why You're Falling Apart Now.

S3 EP18 Quick Reset: Why You're Bad at Asking for Help and What to Do Instead

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