This episode won’t give you a 12-step schedule — just real strategies, honest validation, and permission to drop the guilt.

If school holidays leave you feeling overstimulated, under-supported, and one snack request away from snapping — you’re not alone.

Need extra support this break? The School Holidays Sanity Kit has printables, reset plans, transcript and flexible tools to help things feel a little more doable. DOWNLOAD HERE.

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In this episode, Jane breaks down why school holidays can completely fry ADHD mums: the emotional labour, the pressure to make it special, the chaos of no routine, and the guilt (whether you’re working or not).

This isn’t just a vent session — it’s packed with practical, neuro-affirming tools to help you reduce the overwhelm, create a rhythm that works for your brain, and survive the sibling meltdowns without burning yourself out.

• Why unstructured time hits ADHD mums so hard
• The pressure to create “core memories” (and how to opt out)
• Jane’s personal rhythm strategy that keeps things doable
• The emotional load creep (and how to call it out)
• How to support PDA and sensory-sensitive kids without rigid routines
• What to say when you’re about to lose it — or already have

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook

Polyvagal Theory - Dr Mona Delahooke

The Brown Model of Executive Function

Ari Takmin

PMDD episode with Dr Miranda Robison

ADHD Mums Facebook Group Community

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EP

ADHD mums, school holidays, ADHD parenting, executive dysfunction, emotional overload, sensory overload, school break stress, managing ADHD kids, burnout in mums, school holiday routine, ADHD family rhythm, PDA parenting, sibling fights, ADHD overwhelm, dopamine regulation, ADHD and unstructured time, mental load, emotional labour, holiday survival tips, neurodivergent families, ADHD mum strategies, parenting with ADHD, ADHD mum burnout, decision fatigue, holiday reset, co-regulation, ADHD and PDA, supporting ADHD kids, ADHD school break routines, ADHD toolkit for mums

Mentioned in this episode:

ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD Mums

Simplify your chaotic ADHD mum life with the ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook. Designed to help you brain dump the chaos, prioritise what truly matters, and stop the guilt spiral, these tools are 100% fluff-free and built for real-life use. Start anytime, pick up and put down as needed, and create a system that works with your ADHD, not against it.

ADHD Planner

If you’re constantly guessing what your child might eat today...

If even your “safe foods” aren’t safe anymore…

And if every mealtime feels like a silent panic attack - this episode is for you.

ARFID (Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder) isn’t about being picky or manipulative - it’s about safety. And when food feels like a threat, pressure just makes things worse.

In this raw and practical chat, Jane sits down with nutritionist and mum-of-two Margo White to talk about what’s really going on when food causes meltdowns, refusal, and shame. You’ll get a clearer picture of ARFID, understand how it connects to autism and ADHD, and walk away with real strategies you can try today - no guilt required.

We talk about:

• The signs of ARFID (and why it’s often missed)
• Why “just try one bite” doesn’t work - and what to do instead
• What to do when safe foods suddenly disappear
• How trauma, burnout, and food refusal are all connected
• Ways to support your child (and yourself) when it all feels too hard

Whether you’re living this daily, or just starting to wonder if it’s more than fussy eating - this episode will help you feel less alone, more confident, and more in control.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Margo White

Claire Britton's ARFID episode

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

ARFID, Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder, picky eating, neurodivergent eating, food refusal, sensory food aversions, food anxiety, mealtime meltdowns, feeding challenges, safe foods, food jags, ADHD and eating, autism and food, fussy eater, trauma-informed feeding, neuroaffirming nutrition, ADHD child won’t eat, ARFID strategies, lunchbox stress, school food anxiety, burnout and feeding, food rituals, feeding therapy alternatives, child gagging at food, ARFID vs picky eating, ARFID support for parents, neurodivergent mealtime strategies, feeding trauma, food and nervous system, eating struggles autism ADHD

Mentioned in this episode:

A Mum’s Guide to Supporting Your Child’s Diagnosis and Helping Others ‘Get It’

A Child’s Diagnosis: A Mum’s Guide to Support and Helping Others ‘Get It’

🎙️ NEW EMERGENCY EPISODE: Concerta’s Gone. Vyvanse is Broken. What Now?

If your child’s Vvyance suddenly stopped working, you’re not losing your mind. If Vyvanse has started turning you into a Tasmanian devil with insomnia—you’re not alone. And if you're wondering why no one in charge seems remotely concerned... well, Jane’s here to say what everyone else is thinking, what no one will say, and what absolutely no one is doing anything about.

Welcome to the ADHD medication crisis. It’s messy, it’s real, and Jane—who literally called this a year ago—has receipts.

🧠 In 2024 when the government decided to recommend everyone prescribed Vyvanse move over to Concerta during the first shortage, Jane said openly in multiple media stories, 'This is a terrible strategy and will cause a national Concerta shortage.'

Surprise: it did. And now we’re here—with no Concerta until late 2025, broken Vyvanse batches, and a TGA statement that basically says, 'Oops....not sure if Vvyance is a bit broken....'

🩺 And yes, the Vyvanse packaging had a few typos—because nothing says 'confidence in pharmaceutical quality control' like misspelling ‘Pharmaceutivals.’ It’s somehow funny and horrifying at once.

🔗 TGA Product Alert: Vyvanse capsules product alert

📢 Report your symptoms: TGA reporting portal

📖 Blog: It’s Not Just a Bad Week

💥 In this episode:

• Why Jane is furious (again) and how the system keeps gaslighting families
• The Vyvanse side effects no one wants to document: rage, sleep chaos, full regression
• What’s going on with the supply chain and why it’s crumbling
• The hidden cost: parents homeschooling, reducing work, and holding the whole thing together with duct tape
• What to tell your doctor, paediatrician, school, and local MP
• Low-demand parenting tips when meds are out, and your sanity is circling the drain

🔑 Key Point: This isn’t your child. It’s not you. It’s a national systems failure dressed in PR spin.

📣 Share this episode before another family gets gaslit into thinking they’re imagining things. Demand better. We’ve had enough.

#JaneWasRight #ADHDMedsCrisis #VyvanseGate #ConcertaShortage #TGA #ADHDMums #ThisIsNotFine #NeurodivergentFamilies #ADHDParenting #LowDemandParenting

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Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

If you’ve ever looked at your partner relaxing on the couch while you’re drowning in mental load and thought, “how are you not stressed right now?” - this episode is for you.

We’re digging into resentment, why ADHD mums feel so responsible for everything, and what happens when we keep putting ourselves last. This isn’t just about snapping - it’s about the emotional and neurological cost of being the one who always “holds it all together.”

It’s time to stop waiting for permission to rest, and start naming what you need.

💡 In This Episode: 

• Why resentment isn’t about drama - it’s about unmet needs
• What “self-sacrifice” actually looks like when no one notices
• The guilt loop that keeps you from taking time for yourself
• Why ADHD makes it feel impossible to step away
• How to create space (and fairness) in your relationship - without blowing up

If you’re tired of walking on eggshells, running on empty, and waiting for your partner to just get it - this is the episode to listen to (and maybe even send their way).

Press play and let this be the moment you stop carrying it all alone.

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

ADHD mum burnout, resentment in relationships, self-sacrifice ADHD, ADHD and relationships, mental load ADHD, ADHD mum guilt, emotional overload, partner doesn’t understand ADHD, ADHD and mum rage, burnout in motherhood, ADHD relationship struggles, feeling unsupported ADHD, neurodivergent relationships, ADHD mental load, guilt and self-care, ADHD mum boundaries, emotional regulation ADHD, ADHD mums snapping, ADHD and unmet needs, how to talk to partner ADHD, overwhelmed mum ADHD

Mentioned in this episode:

ADHD Pre Diagnosis Workbook for Women and Mothers

If you’ve ever wondered whether your ADHD traits are changing - or if you’ve been questioning whether you have ADHD at all - understanding how it actually shows up for you is the first step. That’s exactly why I created the ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook, a tool designed to help women and mums navigate this journey before even stepping into a psychiatrist’s office.

ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Worbook

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, we welcome back one of our most popular guests: Claire Britton – occupational therapist, neurodivergent mum, founder of NeuroInclusion, and one of our favourite humans to talk to.

Claire opens up about her lived experience with Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID)—what it was like growing up with sensory sensitivities, food rigidity, and mealtime stress long before ARFID had a name. She takes us through her personal journey from rigid childhood meals to navigating adult food challenges, relationships, and even discovering new foods through dating (yes, Tinder was involved).

This is the episode for any parent who has thought, "My child is eating five foods and refusing everything else—what now?" or any adult who’s starting to realise, "Hang on, maybe this was me too."

💡 What We Cover:

• Claire’s lived experience growing up with ARFID in a neurodivergent family
• The sensory, social, and emotional dynamics of food avoidance
• How ARFID differs from “fussy eating”
• Cultural expectations around food and how they affect ND families
• The role of autonomy, safety, and environment in expanding food acceptance
• A breakdown of the SOS Feeding Approach (Sequential Oral Sensory)

🎧 Referenced Resources:

• Claire’s previous episodes on Executive Function and Evidence-Based OT Strategies
• Learn more about Claire and her services at neuroinclusion.com.au
• Info on the SOS Approach to Feeding

🔑 Key Takeaway: ARFID isn’t a behaviour problem—it’s a sensory, emotional, and often traumatic relationship with food that requires compassion, patience, and support. Pressure won’t fix it. Understanding will.

💬 If this episode resonated with you, let us know! And don’t forget to check out next week’s clinical follow-up with Margot White.

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

ARFID, Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder, ADHD and ARFID, Autism and ARFID, sensory food challenges, picky eating vs. ARFID, feeding therapy, food anxiety, neurodivergent eating challenges, eating disorders and neurodivergence, adult ARFID experience, childhood ARFID, sensory sensitivities and food, autism and eating struggles, executive function and eating, food aversions, meal-time anxiety, ADHD food struggles, autism-friendly food strategies, supporting kids with ARFID, ARFID treatment, OT perspective on ARFID, neurodivergent food therapy, eating challenges in autism and ADHD, sensory-friendly eating tips, navigating ARFID as a parent, managing food anxiety in children, ARFID signs and symptoms, Claire Britton ARFID, ADHD Mums podcast ARFID, neurodivergent feeding strategies.

Mentioned in this episode:

ADHD Pre Diagnosis Workbook for Women and Mothers

If you’ve ever wondered whether your ADHD traits are changing - or if you’ve been questioning whether you have ADHD at all - understanding how it actually shows up for you is the first step. That’s exactly why I created the ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Workbook, a tool designed to help women and mums navigate this journey before even stepping into a psychiatrist’s office.

ADHD Pre-Diagnosis Worbook

Having the mental load conversation is about as fun as stepping on LEGO barefoot. You want to explain how much you're carrying, but suddenly you’re “nagging.” You try to share how exhausted you are, and now you’re “overreacting.” Meanwhile, your partner is confused, defensive, and wondering why the conversation about the car getting booked in for a service turned into an existential crisis.

Yeah. This episode is for you.

PLUS get your episode companion guide for $10 – packed with scripts, validation strategies, and advanced tools to turn resentment into real partnership and shift from "helping" to truly sharing the load. It includes the full episode transcript. Your support keeps this podcast going! Download here. 💛

What We’re Covering:

• How to talk about the mental load without it ending in a full-blown argument
• The difference between helping and sharing responsibility 
• What NOT to say unless you enjoy stony silence and tears.
• How to validate your partner (because “just make a list” is not the answer)
• Why one of you is focused on surviving today, while the other is planning a retirement in 2047

Resentment doesn’t mean your relationship is broken - it just means something needs to shift before you completely lose your mind.

Share with your partner or just casually leave this episode playing at full volume while they’re in the room. 😏

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Ep 58 - Here’s What Your Partner Needs You to Know About ADHD

Ep 69 - Why Mums Are Always the Backup Plan

Ep 71 - 7 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load

Ep 73 - Making the Invisible Mental Load Visible

The Gottman Institute

Family Meeting Template

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EP:

ADHD mums, mental load, invisible workload, ADHD and relationships, partner validation, ADHD burnout, overwhelm in relationships, emotional labor, household responsibilities, ADHD communication, relationship resentment, sharing the mental load, ADHD and marriage, neurodivergent parenting, supporting an ADHD partner, ADHD executive dysfunction, ADHD overwhelm, mental load frustration, ADHD and emotional regulation, ADHD masking, ADHD partner struggles, parenting with ADHD, ADHD and conflict resolution, how to explain the mental load, ADHD and invisible work, feeling unappreciated in relationships, ADHD mum exhaustion, ADHD mum mental load, ADHD and relationship dynamics, how to get your partner to understand ADHD, ADHD mum struggles, how to talk about the mental load, ADHD household management, ADHD mum stress, partner not understanding ADHD, ADHD and emotional overwhelm, ADHD mum advocacy, why the mental load is exhausting, ADHD mum frustration, ADHD and daily life, how to divide responsibilities with ADHD, ADHD mum resentment, ADHD relationship advice, ADHD and gender roles, neurodivergent relationships, ADHD relationship struggles.

Mentioned in this episode:

A Guide to ADHD Medication

A Guide to ADHD Medication

⚠️ Content Warning: This post discusses child sexual abuse, grooming, and child safety. If this is a difficult topic for you, please take care while listening. But if you're a parent, I encourage you to stick with it - because avoiding it won't make it go away.

Most parents assume they’ll know if their child is unsafe. But here’s the reality: neurodivergent kids are more vulnerable - not because they’re unaware, but because they see the world differently.

• They assume people mean what they say.
• They trust familiar adults - even when they shouldn’t.
• They think being ‘polite’ means saying yes.
• They struggle to spot manipulation, pressure, or coercion.
• They keep quiet when they feel uncomfortable - because they’re not sure if it ‘counts.’

If you’ve never thought about it this way, this episode is a must-listen.

PLUS we've put together a free kit on How to Have Safety Conversations Without Scaring Your Child. Download HERE.

What You’ll Get From This Episode:

• How to teach body safety without making it scary
• The ‘What If?’ method – Simple ways to help kids recognise & react to unsafe situations
• The biggest safety mistake parents don’t realise they’re making
• How to help your child set boundaries & say no - even when it’s hard
• Red flags your child might be missing (and how to help them notice)
• The right way to talk about online safety - without isolating them from social life

🔗 Missed Part 1? Understanding the Risks – Neurodivergent Children, Social Safety & Grooming dives into why neurodivergent kids are more vulnerable & what parents often overlook. Listen to that first, or jump straight into this episode for practical, real-world strategies.

👉 Because keeping kids safe isn’t just about protecting them - it’s about making sure they can protect themselves.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Kristi's website

Kristi's Instagram

Kristi's Conversations with Kids

Kristi's book - Operation KidSafe

My Tricky Eye Spy

START HERE:

https://adhdmums.com.au/start-here/

Sometimes, the hardest part is knowing where to start – especially when your brain already feels like it’s juggling a hundred tabs at once. That’s why this space was built to make things easier, not harder. No fluff, no wasted time – just resources designed to meet you exactly where you are.

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE

neurodivergent child safety, ADHD child safety, PDA child boundaries, body safety for kids, teaching consent to kids, tricky people awareness, social safety for neurodivergent kids, helping kids say no, red flags for kids, grooming prevention for parents, online safety for ADHD kids, digital safety for tweens, social boundaries for neurodivergent kids, child advocacy skills, how to teach kids about consent, helping neurodivergent kids recognise manipulation, self-advocacy for kids, stranger danger alternatives, protecting kids from unsafe situations, parenting neurodivergent tweens, safety conversations for kids, child safety skills, teaching kids about red flags, neurodivergent kids and social cues, ADHD kids and boundaries, empowering kids to speak up, personal safety for neurodivergent children, recognizing unsafe adults, parenting PDA kids, practical safety strategies for kids, helping kids trust their instincts

Mentioned in this episode:

ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook

 Grab your copy now at www.adhdmums.com.au

ADHD Planner

You’re juggling everything, but no one seems to notice.

• You’re the one keeping track of school emails, therapy appointments, meal plans, and a million invisible tasks.
• Your brain never stops. The mental gymnastics of managing everything is exhausting.
• And when something doesn’t get done? That’s the only thing anyone notices.

🔥 This is the invisible mental load. And if it feels like it’s breaking you, you’re not alone.

PLUS we've put together A Kit for Making the Mental Load Visible (and Finally Sharing it). Download HERE.

In this episode, we’re breaking it all down:

• Why ADHD mums feel the weight of the mental load harder than anyone else
• The unseen tasks that no one else even thinks about
• Why your partner isn’t stepping in - and how to finally shift the balance
• Practical ways to make the invisible load visible - without it turning into another argument
• Small, realistic changes that actually help

This isn’t about doing more - it’s about making sure you don’t have to carry it all alone.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Why Mums Are Always the Backup Plan - Part 1

7 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load - Part 2

Family Meeting Template

Mental Load Cards

START HERE:

https://adhdmums.com.au/start-here/

Sometimes, the hardest part is knowing where to start – especially when your brain already feels like it’s juggling a hundred tabs at once. That’s why this space was built to make things easier, not harder. No fluff, no wasted time – just resources designed to meet you exactly where you are.

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

ADHD mental load, invisible mental load, sharing the mental load, ADHD mums, burnout, overwhelm, emotional labour, neurodivergent relationships, partner support, ADHD and parenting, mental load resentment, executive function challenges, ADHD household balance, relationship struggles, ADHD and marriage, division of labour, cognitive hyperactivity, unseen tasks, ADHD family dynamics, mental load exhaustion, practical strategies for ADHD mums, ADHD mum burnout, balancing responsibilities, neurodivergent parenting, ADHD-friendly household management, supporting an ADHD partner, communication in ADHD relationships, household workload, ADHD decision fatigue, ADHD overwhelm solutions.

Mentioned in this episode:

ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD Mums

Simplify your chaotic ADHD mum life with the ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook. Designed to help you brain dump the chaos, prioritise what truly matters, and stop the guilt spiral, these tools are 100% fluff-free and built for real-life use. Start anytime, pick up and put down as needed, and create a system that works with your ADHD, not against it.

ADHD Planner

⚠️ Content Warning: This post discusses child sexual abuse, grooming, and child safety. If this is a difficult topic for you, please take care while listening. But if you're a parent, I encourage you to stick with it - because avoiding it won't make it go away.

Most of us assume we’d see the signs. We believe we’d know if someone was grooming our child. But the truth? Grooming is subtle, calculated, and often happens right under our noses.

In this crucial episode, former detective and child safety advocate Kristi McVee discusses the unique risks neurodivergent children face in social situations, online spaces, and within their communities.

Many parents worry about keeping their kids safe, but for parents of neurodivergent children, the challenges can be even greater - especially when it comes to understanding social cues, setting boundaries, and recognising unsafe situations.

PLUS we've put together a free Kit on Body Safety & Child Protection. Download HERE.

🚨 This is the conversation we all wish we didn’t have to have. But we can’t afford not to.

💥 Coming next week: The practical strategies every parent needs to protect their child - what to say, what to teach, and how to build safety skills that actually work.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Kristi's website

Kristi's Instagram

Kristi's Conversations with Kids

Krist's book - Operation KidSafe

Australian Child Maltreatment Study

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE

neurodivergent children, child safety, grooming awareness, social safety, online safety for kids, protecting neurodivergent kids, ADHD parenting, autism parenting, child abuse prevention, grooming red flags, child exploitation prevention, consent and boundaries, parenting neurodivergent kids, internet safety for children, child predators, neurodivergent vulnerability, child grooming signs, ADHD and social awareness, body safety for kids, preventing child abuse, Kristi McVee, ADHD Mums podcast

Mentioned in this episode:

A Mum’s Guide to Supporting Your Child’s Diagnosis and Helping Others ‘Get It’

A Child’s Diagnosis: A Mum’s Guide to Support and Helping Others ‘Get It’

If you’ve ever felt like you’re juggling every detail while everyone else just lives their life, you’re not alone. The mental load is real, and so is the frustration of carrying it all.

In Part Two, we’re unpacking why so many ADHD mums stop speaking up about the mental load - even when it’s pushing us to burnout. Maybe you’ve tried before and been met with defensiveness, guilt, or the feeling that it’s just easier to do it yourself. But what if the way you bring it up could actually lead to change?

Want to go deeper? This episode’s companion kit gives you practical strategies, conversation guides, and small shifts to help you redistribute the mental load - without burnout, conflict, or micromanaging. Also includes full transcript of this episode. Click here to get the kit.

In This Episode: 

• Why it feels impossible to shift the mental load (and how to stop getting stuck in that cycle)
• How societal expectations make us feel like it’s “just part of being a mum”
• Why resentment builds and how to prevent burnout before it happens
• The role of gender norms, guilt, and internalised pressure in keeping us silent
• Simple, low-energy conversation shifts that can help you get the support you need

Relatable? Overwhelming? Exhausting? You’re not alone. This episode is your reminder that carrying the mental load doesn’t mean you should carry it alone.

Resources & Links:

Listen to Part 1 Episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website

ADHD Planner & Values Workbook

Miniseries Ep 5 on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website

58. What Your Partner Needs You to Know on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website

PDA episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website

PMDD episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website

People Pleasing episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website

Perimenopause & PMDD episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or the ADHD Mums website

Connect on Instagram: @adhd_mums 

Join our FB Community 

If this episode helps, send it to another mum who needs to hear it! And if you’ve got a second, leaving a review helps us keep these conversations going. 💛

JOIN THE COMMUNITY:

Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel supported. Let’s spread the word and make a difference together.

COLLABS:

For collaborations or speaking engagements, email me at [email protected].

MORE RESOURCES:

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TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EP:

ADHD mums, mental load, invisible labour, gendered mental load, emotional burnout, overwhelm, ADHD and relationships, communication struggles, advocacy fatigue, resentment in parenting, asking for help, sharing responsibilities, household balance, partnership struggles, why mums do everything, feeling unheard, defensiveness in relationships, avoiding conflict, burnout prevention, guilt of asking for help, internalised pressure, emotional labour, why ADHD mums are exhausted, breaking the cycle, shifting the mental load, reducing resentment, practical strategies for ADHD mums, low-effort solutions, ADHD and motherhood, neurodivergent partnerships, unspoken expectations, small changes for big impact.

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ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook: A System for ADHD Mums

Simplify your chaotic ADHD mum life with the ADHD Planner & Personal Values Workbook. Designed to help you brain dump the chaos, prioritise what truly matters, and stop the guilt spiral, these tools are 100% fluff-free and built for real-life use. Start anytime, pick up and put down as needed, and create a system that works with your ADHD, not against it.

ADHD Planner