Your ADHD Besties

Hi beautiful ADHD babes!

On today's show:

- Grace tries relaxed parenting but gets piggy-bocked in the face, and Tara is forced to admit her STEM job from when she was 14 years old.  

• Divergent Dilemma - A gorgeous listener called Ashara asks whether late night productivity and sleep issues are linked to ADHD. 

Ooooofff, this is a biiig question!
We asked our audience whether they were night owls or early birds (worms?) and the results were (not very) surprising.

We talk about why the late night hours are so appealing for ADHDers and why decompressing at night is so important for our dysregulated nervous systems. Tara talks about the link between diet and sleep cycles for ADHDers and gives some helpful tips (more on eating in episodes 4, 8, 19 & 20) AND we hear from our listeners what sort of tasks are keeping you up late at night 👀. 

• This week's Ireggy Seggy is a round of 'Who is more likely to...?' 

We learn a lot about each other (eg. who is most likely to yell at bugs and who is most likely to send a snarky text) but mostly that Grace is mummy’s little ferret. 


RECS: 

• Grace recommends 'First we make the beast beautiful' by Sarah Wilson: the best book on anxiety she's ever read!

• Tara recommends non-photosynthesising plants (a.k.a good quality fake plants 🪴)  💜

Happy Thursday babes,

We’ll be back in your ears the same time next week!

Until then.

You KNOW what you can’t do (RSD)

Tara and Grace 

xxx

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Music by Vocalista



You’ll love this podcast if you’re a woman, non-binary person or man with ADHD, AuDHD, or someone that you love is neurospicy. We are ADHD brains that LOVE ADHD brains.

Keywords: Women with ADHD, ADHD podcast, mental health, late-diagnosis, neurodiversity, self-care, empowerment, ADHD support, ADHD tips, ADHD strategies, ADHD motherhood, ADHD personal stories

BONJOUR cutest babes tuning in from what is now 126 countries! 🤯😘

On today's show:

- Tara makes a quick note about ADHD and hyper-empathy and then two seconds later laughs at Grace for getting rejected from the Reject Shop.

- We talk about the amazing PMDD discussion we had on our Instagram last week, with some really helpful examples of what PMDD might feel like, check out instagram for info about PMDD management and personal stories!


This week's DIVERGENT DILEMM:

• Are birthdays just an ADHD nightmare that are bound to end in RSD? We discuss love languages, how we feel about gifts and Tara gives a step-by-step for how to embrace your inner birthday diva 🕺

IREGGY SEGGY:

• This week's Ireggy Seggy is another who’s who of notes app crap and this time it’s YOUR notes. We're happy to report our listener-submitted notes are as delightfully unhinged and divine as we expected.

REC LINKS:

• Tara recommends the Clue app, track your period babes! There is an important link between dopamine and oestrogen and tracking can help us to feel more in control, especially if we have PMDD too 💜

• Grace recommends Popstar Academy: Katseye on Netflix. Docuseries ✅ Drama ✅ living out your Britney dreams ✅ what more do we have to say? 

We’ll be back in your cute ears next THURSDAY (the third day)

Until then love love love always your ADHD besties,
👱🏻‍♀️ Grace & 👩🏻‍🦱 Tara xx

(Don't RSD bby)

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Music by Vocalista



You’ll love this podcast if you’re a woman, non-binary person or man with ADHD, AuDHD, or someone that you love is neurospicy. We are ADHD brains that LOVE ADHD brains.

Keywords: Women with ADHD, ADHD podcast, mental health, late-diagnosis, neurodiversity, self-care, empowerment, ADHD support, ADHD tips, ADHD strategies, ADHD motherhood, ADHD personal stories

BABESSSS! YOU DID IT! We just reached A HUNDRED THOUSAND downloads in 4 months for this podcast!!! Whaaat 🤯🤯😭😭 We're in disbelief and so so grateful to all of you.

Thank you so so much to everyone who has listened and sent us messages and love! It means more to us than you know ❤️🥹

We are going to do an 💃🏼 INSTAGRAM LIVE 💃🏼 livestream this weekend (6/7th September 2024) to celebrate. And we’d LOVE you to come hang with us 😍 Click here to convert to your timezone, or see our list below.

Bring your Ireggy Seggy 'would you rather' questions, divergent dilemmas and any other questions you have for us!

Join us for the 'IG live' on our Instagram @adhdbestiespodcast

Friday Sept 6th 2024
6pm PDT
7pm MDT
8pm CDT
9pm EDT

Sat Sept 7th 2024
2am BST (sorry guys 😴)
9am AWST
11am AEST
1pm NZST


See you soooon! (we can't wait!) 

Love you with the fire of a thousand suns ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

Grace & Tara xxx

(and if you're reading this later and missed this IG live, remember... don't RSD!) 😘

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Cute supportive stuff: Thanks to our episode sponsor Future ADHD; finally a planner that doesn't hurt your ADHD brain. 😇

Music by Vocalista



You’ll love this podcast if you’re a woman, non-binary person or man with ADHD, AuDHD, or someone that you love is neurospicy. We are ADHD brains that LOVE ADHD brains.

Keywords: Women with ADHD, ADHD podcast, mental health, late-diagnosis, neurodiversity, self-care, empowerment, ADHD support, ADHD tips, ADHD strategies, ADHD motherhood, ADHD personal stories

Hi hiii ADHD loves!

In today's episode we have another bestie guestie on the podcast, Jenna Free - ADHD coach and therapist (who you may know as @adhdwithjennafree on Instagram or TikTok). 

We chat through two dilemmas with Jenna:

• Dilemma #1 - A cute listener called Em asks: "I told my partner that I have ADHD and struggle a lot with 'time blindness'. While he acknowledged I may have ADHD and wanted to support me, he said this trait was simply “poor time management skills” and encouraged me to learn to do better. How do I explain to people what I believe to be certain before I receive the medical certainty of a diagnosis?" 

• Dilemma #2 - A gorgeous name twin listener called 'Tara from Texas' asks: "My son just turned 4 and I find myself exploding with anger seemingly out of nowhere almost daily. He brings me so much joy, so it kills me when I go from 0 to 1000. The most frequent advice I get is to take care of myself first because unmet needs can manifest as anger. BUT having ADHD makes self care so HARD! What is that?!"

• Ireggy Seggy - we play a fun new game that Jenna suggested called 'stick and twist', where we admit to hobbies we started and the others have to guess whether we stuck with them or jumped ship. 🏃‍♀️🛳️

RECS:

• Jenna recommends Love Island USA, which she's been bingeing this season!
• Grace recommends a stick vacuum cleaner dupe that's changed her life by gameifying vacuuming in a way that is ✨magic✨ for ADHD brains
• Tara recommends a Netflix show called Valeria which she's obsessed with (those fuchsia couches and floor to ceiling maximalist wallpapers 😍)

Remember to head over to @adhdwithjennafree and @adhdbusiness on socials and give Jenna some love!

SEE YOU NEXT THURSDAY LOVES... 

Your ADHD Besties,
Tara & Grace xx

(Don't RSD)

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Cute supportive stuff: Thanks to our episode sponsor Future ADHD; finally a planner that doesn't hurt your ADHD brain. 😇

Music by Vocalista



You’ll love this podcast if you’re a woman, non-binary person or man with ADHD, AuDHD, or someone that you love is neurospicy. We are ADHD brains that LOVE ADHD brains.

Keywords: Women with ADHD, ADHD podcast, mental health, late-diagnosis, neurodiversity, self-care, empowerment, ADHD support, ADHD tips, ADHD strategies, ADHD motherhood, ADHD personal stories

Hi cutest babes, 

In this week's episode, Tara has been stealthily avoiding sleep by hyperfixating on iPhone automations and she is now Elon Musk 😎. Or is she just in denial that she's Siri's bitch now? 🤖 Grace is ripping clocks off the wall in rage as per uge. So a fairly stock standard week here at ‘Your ADHD besties’ HQ (the garage). 

THIS WEEK'S DILEMMA:
We take a deep dive into the biiiig topic of justice sensitivity: why some of us can have full body reactions to inequity. We explain:

• WTAF justice sensitivity is, and why ADHDers are often passionate about standing up for the marginalized
• We then share some personal stories from times we've advocated and got it right (and when we got it wrong too).
• We talk about the importance of seeking consent, awareness when we may be projecting our feelings onto others, and making sure we don't burn out
• The best part: we hear some listener stories about their experience with this common ADHD trait! 🕺 

IREGGY SEGGY:
Today we're reading out weird notes from our notes app - and we want you to send us yours! YOU BETTER DM us on IG @adhdbestiespodcast or email us [email protected] with screenshots of the weirdest notes in your phone so we can read them out on an ep soon 🤣

RECS:

• Grace recommends two binge-worthy Instagram accounts that soothe her need for visually gorgeous ASMR... The mesmerising @_shetiesflies_ and addictive @ez.bookdesign
• Tara recommends a sunscreen called 'Queen Screen' by Ultra Violette that won't make you feel like you're wearing Ross Geller's paste pants on your face 👙☀️😎

We'll be back next THURSDAY babes, and you know what NOT to do... (RSD) 😘

Grace & Ta Ta xx

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Cute supportive stuff: Thanks to our episode sponsor Future ADHD; finally a planner that doesn't hurt your ADHD brain. 😇

Music by Vocalista



You’ll love this podcast if you’re a woman, non-binary person or man with ADHD, AuDHD, or someone that you love is neurospicy. We are ADHD brains that LOVE ADHD brains.

Keywords: Women with ADHD, ADHD podcast, mental health, late-diagnosis, neurodiversity, self-care, empowerment, ADHD support, ADHD tips, ADHD strategies, ADHD motherhood, ADHD personal stories

Hi our fave ADHD dream boats! We finally got this bad boy uploaded 8 hours late 💅

In today’s chunkyyy episode: 

Grace says "broccol-eye" 🥦, and "dingle dangle" in the space of 5 minutes (we're so sorry guys) aaaand Tara tells us a story from her bridezilla days. 🧟‍♀️

For our divergent dilemms, we are continuing on from last week, and talking all things ADHD weight and food 🥑🍔🍰 Tara answers ALL your questions about eating & ADHD, including:

• how to simplify veggie preparation and reduce the executive functioning overwhelm with Tara's simple 'whole veggie' rule

• how to make sure you get a variety of veggies across a week without ending up with lots of rotten produce in the fridge

• why balancing macronutrients is important (and why your gut bacteria is like a football team 🏈) 

• how picky eating and eating perfectionism can derail us

• binge-eating... we need to think about the what how, when, where and why and STOP being mean to ourselves about the reasons that we might binge

• sick of making 4 different meals to cater to everyone in your family? Do this instead...

IREGGY SEGGY:
• We answer some SAVAGE listener-submitted 'Choose your torture' scenarios 🫠

RECOMMENDATIONS:

• Tara recommends the Good Bad Billionaire podcast which combines sharp business insights with a dose of spilled tea ☕️

• Grace recommends a Google maps hack that will help our little ND brains to leave on time 👀

We hope you enjoyyyy and we will be back in your ears next THURSDAY!👂🎧

“Sayonara" babes, Tara & Grace xx

(don’t you ever RSD or we will be mad)

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Cute supportive stuff: Thanks to our episode sponsor Future ADHD; finally a planner that doesn't hurt your ADHD brain. 😇

Music by Vocalista



You’ll love this podcast if you’re a woman, non-binary person or man with ADHD, AuDHD, or someone that you love is neurospicy. We are ADHD brains that LOVE ADHD brains.

Keywords: Women with ADHD, ADHD podcast, mental health, late-diagnosis, neurodiversity, self-care, empowerment, ADHD support, ADHD tips, ADHD strategies, ADHD motherhood, ADHD personal stories

Hi bestie babessss! In today's episode:

• Grace can’t buy steak, we talk about  we need to take a break from acrylics, and how this is hard for our dermatillomania (skin picking).

• Divergent Dilemma #1 - we answer Jemima's question about ADHD and eating, she struggles with binge eating and feeling self-conscious about her weight. We discuss weight stigma, separating self worth and weight, weight-science -using more clear measures of health. We also touch on restriction mentality and how this can so easily lead to binge eating in women with ADHD.

IREGGY SEGGY:

• We are still riding the high of reading ADHD reddit threads.

We have dogs laughing at us, accidental DIY/accents, arms in bins and most importantly we ask the question: how many days is too many days to eat an errant hand bag donut?

RECOMMENDATIONS:

• Tara recommends hair skin and nail gummies to keep those nails strong and less likely to be picked at 
• Grace recommends a supermarket shopping hack for ADHD brains that even the most inattentive brains won’t ‘rump’. 

We will be back in those stunning👂's next THURSDAY

LOVE LOVE LOVEEEEE
Tara & Grace xx
(don't RSD)

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Cute supportive stuff: Thanks to our episode sponsor Future ADHD; finally a planner that doesn't hurt your ADHD brain. 😇

Music by Vocalista



You’ll love this podcast if you’re a woman, non-binary person or man with ADHD, AuDHD, or someone that you love is neurospicy. We are ADHD brains that LOVE ADHD brains.

Keywords: Women with ADHD, ADHD podcast, mental health, late-diagnosis, neurodiversity, self-care, empowerment, ADHD support, ADHD tips, ADHD strategies, ADHD motherhood, ADHD personal stories

Hi bestiesss! 

In today's episode:

• Grace has ADHD amnesia, and we're normalising second takes at things because we aren’t always prepared for what our mouths are going to say in social interactions. 

• Divergent Dilemma #1 - we answer a gorgeous listener question about motivating yourself for exercise when you have ADHD. We talk about the negative stigmas around the word exercise, why exercise often induces demand avoidance and how to find joyful movement, and immediate, non-appearance-based motivators for movement.

• Divergent Dilemma #2 - We discuss time management with ADHD, how people with ADHD usually won’t see time in a linear way, that we see it differently in our minds. How to be kind to ourselves around our inconsistency with time and some tips that sometimes help us to manage our time, like counting down from the LEAVE time not ARRIVAL times. 

IREGGY SEGGY:

• A listener sent us the idea for our IREGGY SEGGY this week, it’s called ‘Reddit Rants’  and we’re obsessed 🙌

We snoop ADHD Reddit threads that ask ‘what have you misplaced or lost’ as an ADHDer and the threads did not disappoint. 😂

We have toast left in drawers, bikes unnecessarily reported to the police and very disorientating naps.  

RECOMMENDATIONS:

• Tara recommends using the public library (we promise this is more exciting than it sounds, babes)
• Grace recommends a Waterpik to floss those pearly whites without the sensory overwhelm of rogue water splatters and flimsy floss situations.

We will be back in those divine👂's next THURSDAY

LOVE YOU 
Tara & Grace xx
(don't RSD)

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Cute supportive stuff: Thanks to our episode sponsor Future ADHD; finally a planner that doesn't hurt your ADHD brain. 😇

Music by Vocalista



You’ll love this podcast if you’re a woman, non-binary person or man with ADHD, AuDHD, or someone that you love is neurospicy. We are ADHD brains that LOVE ADHD brains.

Keywords: Women with ADHD, ADHD podcast, mental health, late-diagnosis, neurodiversity, self-care, empowerment, ADHD support, ADHD tips, ADHD strategies, ADHD motherhood, ADHD personal stories

Aaaaloha faves!

Today we're delighted to bring you another episode of our miniseries 'Your ADHD Island' ✨

Your ADHD Island is a NEW series where our guests are asked to dream up their perfect, ADHD-friendly island paradise free from the burdens of this neuro-normative world. 🏝️

We ask guests a series of very scientific and important questions like:
-‘what food magically grows on trees all over your island?'
-’what accent does everyone have?’
-and ‘what comfort show do the cinemas play on repeat 24/7?'

This week's guest is none other than our very own Rafiki wonder Chloe Wilder who is cooking up her government-less, museum/gallery filled wonderland that is overflowing with muppets and curry in a coconut. 🥥

Chloe lives in Western Australia with her partner Alex and two adorable blonde sons. The four of them are big fans of the kind of baked goods that old people love, vintage Asterix and Obelix comics, and keeping various types of birds (although the geese are flapping on thin ice).

You can follow Chloe and see her incredible art/pottery @chloewilderart

We hope you enjoyed our new series, and we will be BACK in your gorgeous neurodivergent ears this THURSDAY with our usual Your ADHD Besties episode. 

DON'T RSD BABES!

👱🏻‍♀️ Grace & 👩🏻‍🦱 Tara xx

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❗️ SUBMIT your Divergent Dilemma for us to read on the podcast: https://adhdbesties.com/dilemmas/ (you can stay anon if you like!)

Cute supportive stuff: Thanks to our episode sponsor Future ADHD; finally a planner that doesn't hurt your ADHD brain. 😇

Music by Vocalista



You’ll love this podcast if you’re a woman, non-binary person or man with ADHD, AuDHD, or someone that you love is neurospicy. We are ADHD brains that LOVE ADHD brains.

Keywords: Women with ADHD, ADHD podcast, mental health, late-diagnosis, neurodiversity, self-care, empowerment, ADHD support, ADHD tips, ADHD strategies, ADHD motherhood, ADHD personal stories

Hiii cutest ADHD loves!

In today's episode:

• We talk about the highs of kid-free holidays with friends and the lows of losing your 🧳 on the trip home (💌 don't forget to send Tara your triumphant stories of lost things you found months/years later - DM us on IG @adhdbestiespodcast!) 

• Divergent Dilemma #1 - we answer a cute voice message from Holly asking how to advocate for herself after a recent ADHD diagnosis. Our discussion brings up some important questions: When people say ADHD is just laziness, how should we respond? What if advocating feels exhausting? Is it okay to walk away from some conversations without speaking up? Are there different ways to advocate if in-person feels too intense?

• Divergent Dilemma #2 - an anon listener shares a recent moment during a vacation where she felt judged by a passive-aggressive comment by her mother-in-law. We talk about emotional regulation when ADHDers feel misunderstood or judged, and Tara & Grace share how learning to re-parent ourselves has been sooo helpful in moments like this.

• We're putting on our cleats and warming up for this week's Ireggy Seggy... 🥇 The ADHD Olympics 🥇 where we bring you along with us to watch the highly-anticipated event: the room cleaning marathon, where ADHDers compete to see who can get the most distracted while cleaning. Our competitors are fiercer than ever, and pulling out techniques we've never seen before - so tune in for all the on-field (court?) action! 🏃‍♀️🧹🧺✨

RECOMMENDATIONS:

• Tara recommends cast iron frypans/skillets as an easy way to up your iron intake (important since ADHDers are often low in iron).

• Grace recommends actually using the weighted blanket you impulse-purchased back when you got diagnosed - it's doing wonders for regulating her nervous system and helping with deep sleep.

Enjoyyy this episode, and we'll be back in your cute little👂's next MONDAY with our next instalment of our new mini-series, Your ADHD Island! 🏝️

Sending so much love!
Tara & Grace xx

(don't RSD!)

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Please RATE and SUBSCRIBE but DO NOT leave us an eggplant emoji 🍆 as a podcast REVIEW - that would make us too happyyy.

❗️ SUBMIT your Divergent Dilemma for us to read on the podcast: https://adhdbesties.com/dilemmas/ (you can stay anon if you like!)

Cute supportive stuff: Thanks to our episode sponsor Future ADHD; finally a planner that doesn't hurt your ADHD brain. 😇

Music by Vocalista



You’ll love this podcast if you’re a woman, non-binary person or man with ADHD, AuDHD, or someone that you love is neurospicy. We are ADHD brains that LOVE ADHD brains.

Keywords: Women with ADHD, ADHD podcast, mental health, late-diagnosis, neurodiversity, self-care, empowerment, ADHD support, ADHD tips, ADHD strategies, ADHD motherhood, ADHD personal stories