Ready or Not

Welcome back to Ask Ready or Not! It’s Ready or Not’s tip-based episode, landing in your ears every Friday. Today, Loz is calling out a habit that so many mums fall into: the “I’ll just do it myself” mindset. Whether it’s at work, home, or in relationships, taking everything on alone might feel easier in the moment—but in the long run, it’s exhausting and holding you back. In this episode, Loz unpacks why we struggle to delegate, how to get comfortable asking for help (without feeling guilty), and why letting go of control is the key to actually having more time, energy, and mental space. If you’re drowning in responsibilities, this one’s a must-listen.

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In part 2 of our conversation with Sarah Garby, she jumps on the mic solo to answer your listener questions:

1. How do I cope with my two and a half year old? The emotions are intense.

2. How do I overcome mum rage and better communicate with my partner?

3. Tips for how to cope with mess, loud noises, and minimal alone time to regulate.

4. Tips for mums with adhd -- how can I regulate with no spare time? (Similar to the above so feel free to call that out and maybe there's something more adhd specific to add here?)

5. How do you suggest feeling paralysed by loneliness?

6. How do I deal with the anxiety side of feeling bad and stressed out about people looking after my baby?

7. What's the line between PND & just being tired and frazzled? How do I tell the difference?

8. It's obviously so important for us mums to do the work and I think we are really good at being proactive about getting help so we don't pass our stuff onto our children. But how do we get dads to do the same? So many of our partners are passing their shit down to their kids but are so much more reluctant to look within as the source. Please help!

9. How do we better support each other without projecting our own motherhood stories on each other?

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Thanks for listening to Ready or Not! If you liked the show, please tell your friends, subscribe or write a review. You can also find us on Instagram at readyornot.pod

This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Boon Wurong people of the Kulin Nation. The land on which we're lucky enough to raise our sons and daughters always was and always will be Aboriginal land.

We Pay The Rent and you can too.

This month, Ready or Not is proudly brought to you by Yoto. Use our discount Code: READYORNOT15 for 15% off your Yoto device [not to be used with any other offer, valid from 1st May - 5th June.]

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Sarah Garby is one of those people that just feels good to be around, and I think after listening to this conversation, you'll agree that it comes as no surprise that she found her passion in psychology. She's a mother of two. She's navigated very different births and like me, she found the transition from one to two far more challenging than zero to one. I was interested to know then, as someone who's found her niche in perinatal mental health, how does a psychologist move through and make sense of her own motherhood journey?

What comes up for her? Does she analyse herself the way she does her clients? And what does she see as the most common challenges that mothers are facing today? Here we talk about the importance of mental maintenance, why a psychologist will often have their own psychologist, and in part two, Sarah also answers your questions around mental health and motherhood. I think I put that little question box up a little bit too late on Instagram because so many of you added questions after this recording, so immediately after this episode, jump into part two where Sarah answers another seven listener questions solo.

Part two is absolutely brilliant. It's so interesting when you hear a friend of yours in their sort of smart work mode, and it's already helped my mindset immeasurably, so I know it will do the same for you. But first...part one.

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We particularly love the eight week postnatal program. Designed and instructed by Han, a physiotherapist and mother of two with over 15 years of experience, this program is the perfect way to gain strength in a way that is safe, can be done within the comfort of your home, And guess what? They're giving Ready or Not listeners a month of free classes.

To redeem your complimentary month of Our Pilates and access a huge library of Pilates classes, simply head to their website in our show notes (https://ourpilates.com.au) and enter the code READYORNOT when creating an account and select their monthly membership option.

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Thanks for listening to Ready or Not! If you liked the show, please tell your friends, subscribe or write a review. You can also find us on Instagram at readyornot.pod

This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Boon Wurong people of the Kulin Nation. The land on which we're lucky enough to raise our sons and daughters always was and always will be Aboriginal land.

We Pay The Rent and you can too.

This month, Ready or Not is proudly brought to you by Yoto. Use our discount Code: READYORNOT15 for 15% off your Yoto device [not to be used with any other offer, valid from 1st May - 5th June.]

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Welcome back to another episode of Witching Hour, the show where two cousins and mums of two banter all things making work, work alongside motherhood. Today on the show:

• “I’m not ready”: Mum’s heartbreaking video on returning to work after maternity leave hits home.
• And, your job is not that important. A stark reminder from a Katie Williams that I want to unpack for you.
• And here is the Substack that Lu mentions in the episode.

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This episode of Witching Hour is brought to you by Our Pilates - physio led, on-demand pilates classes designed for new mums of all fitness levels and at any stage of their postpartum journey.

We particularly love the eight week postnatal program. Designed and instructed by Han, a physiotherapist and mother of two with over 15 years of experience, this program is the perfect way to gain strength in a way that is safe, can be done within the comfort of your home, And guess what? They're giving Ready or Not listeners a month of free classes.

To redeem your complimentary month of Our Pilates and access a huge library of Pilates classes, simply head to their website in our show notes (https://ourpilates.com.au) and enter the code READYORNOT when creating an account and select their monthly membership option.

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Thanks for listening to Witching Hour! If you liked the show, please tell your friends, subscribe or write a review. You can also find us on Instagram at readyornot.pod

This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Boon Wurong people of the Kulin Nation. The land on which we're lucky enough to raise our sons and daughters always was and always will be Aboriginal land.

We Pay The Rent and you can too here.

This month, Ready or Not is proudly brought to you by Yoto. Use our discount Code: READYORNOT15 for 15% off your Yoto device [not to be used with any other offer, valid from 1st May - 5th June.]

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Ready or Not! It’s Ready or Not’s tip-based episode, landing in your ears every Friday. Today, Loz chats about what do you do when you’re clearly overqualified for a role but need the flexibility it offers. Do you downplay your experience? Will employers take you seriously? And how do you make sure you’re still growing in your career while prioritising your family? Loz has the answers. From crafting the perfect job application to negotiating for better terms, this episode is full of practical, confidence-boosting advice to help you land the right role without feeling stuck.

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Thanks for listening to Ask Ready or Not! If you liked the show, please tell your friends, subscribe or write a review. You can also find us on Instagram at readyornot.pod

This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Boon Wurong people of the Kulin Nation. The land on which we're lucky enough to raise our sons and daughters always was and always will be Aboriginal land.

We Pay The Rent and you can too here.

This month, Ready or Not is proudly brought to you by Yoto. Use our discount Code: READYORNOT15 for 15% off your Yoto device [not to be used with any other offer, valid from 1st May - 5th June.]

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Renee White is the first to admit that she had zero awareness when it came to what to expect in motherhood. In fact, on reflection, she wasn’t prepared for it at all. And so, her journey would take many plot twists. She went from biochemist to attorney to creating Australia’s first doula village, she went from expecting to have more than one baby to eventually making the decision to be one and done.

It wasn’t an easy call to make, especially when her first motherhood experience left her feeling anxious, as though she’d messed up, and desperately wishing she could have a re-do.

The trouble is, unfortunately, we don’t get a test drive before taking on the biggest role of our lives, and that re-do would never come. So instead of pouring the love and the lessons she’d learned into a new child, she combined her love of support and science and put into caring for other postpartum families, instead.

Here, we talk about how postpartum anxiety — still today — doesn’t get enough airtime, how we can forgive ourselves for finding periods of parenting challenging, and how being an academic who worked in the field of science collided with the polar opposite experience of motherhood.

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This episode is brought to you by Our Pilates - physio led, on-demand pilates classes designed for new mums of all fitness levels and at any stage of their postpartum journey.

I particularly love the eight week postnatal program. Designed and instructed by Han, a physiotherapist and mother of two with over 15 years of experience, this program is the perfect way to gain strength in a way that is safe, can be done within the comfort of your home, And guess what? They're giving Ready or Not listeners a month of free classes.

To redeem your complimentary month of Our Pilates and access a huge library of Pilates classes, simply head to their website in our show notes (https://ourpilates.com.au) and enter the code READYORNOT when creating an account and select their monthly membership option.

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Thanks for listening to Witching Hour! If you liked the show, please tell your friends, subscribe or write a review. You can also find us on Instagram at readyornot.pod

This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Boon Wurong people of the Kulin Nation. The land on which we're lucky enough to raise our sons and daughters always was and always will be Aboriginal land.

We Pay The Rent and you can too here.

This month, Ready or Not is proudly brought to you by Yoto. Use our discount Code: READYORNOT15 for 15% off your Yoto device [not to be used with any other offer, valid from 1st May - 5th June.]

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to another episode of Witching Hour, the show where two cousins and mums of two banter all things making work, work alongside motherhood.

Today on the show:

•  Why do some people get sympathy and engagement for financial struggles while actual working mums are told they should have planned better? The reality behind ‘mumfluencer’ money & working motherhood
• And how entitled could you be? A Tik Tok video on stay at home motherhood, by by UPS Driver J.R. Minton has gone viral, but it's not what you think.

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This episode of Witching Hour is brought to you by Our Pilates - physio led, on-demand pilates classes designed for new mums of all fitness levels and at any stage of their postpartum journey.

I particularly love the eight week postnatal program. Designed and instructed by Han, a physiotherapist and mother of two with over 15 years of experience, this program is the perfect way to gain strength in a way that is safe, can be done within the comfort of your home, And guess what? They're giving Ready or Not listeners a month of free classes.

To redeem your complimentary month of Our Pilates and access a huge library of Pilates classes, simply head to their website in our show notes (https://ourpilates.com.au) and enter the code READYORNOT when creating an account and select their monthly membership option.

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• Breastfeeding and Returning to Work
• Childcare 101
• Postpartum and Return to Work Planning

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Thanks for listening to Witching Hour! If you liked the show, please tell your friends, subscribe or write a review. You can also find us on Instagram at readyornot.pod

This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Boon Wurong people of the Kulin Nation. The land on which we're lucky enough to raise our sons and daughters always was and always will be Aboriginal land.

We Pay The Rent and you can too here.

This month, Ready or Not is proudly brought to you by Yoto. Use our discount Code: READYORNOT15 for 15% off your Yoto device [not to be used with any other offer, valid from 1st May - 5th June.]

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Ready or Not! It’s Ready or Not’s tip-based episode, landing in your ears every Friday. Today, Loz is tackling a question that so many mums returning to work face: how do you ask for a pay rise after maternity leave—and actually get it? If you’ve been doing more for less, stepping back into the workforce with new skills (hello, time management queen!), or simply feel it’s time to be properly valued, this episode is for you. Loz will break down exactly when to ask, how to present your case, and the common mistakes to avoid. If you’ve been hesitating to negotiate, consider this your pep talk and action plan rolled into one.

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Thanks for listening to Ask Ready or Not! If you liked the show, please tell your friends, subscribe or write a review. You can also find us on Instagram at readyornot.pod

This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Boon Wurong people of the Kulin Nation. The land on which we're lucky enough to raise our sons and daughters always was and always will be Aboriginal land.

We Pay The Rent and you can too here.

This month, Ready or Not is proudly brought to you by Yoto. Use our discount Code: READYORNOT15 for 15% off your Yoto device [not to be used with any other offer, valid from 1st May - 5th June.]

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sarah Blatchford has had to do a lot of hard things. She navigated a terrifying infection that had her daughter in hospital for a week just as she was returning to paid work, which set her on a path of postpartum anxiety. She and her family to moved to the tiny UK island of Guernsey to care for and spend time with her father in law who was dying from motor neurone disease, and during what would be a complex journey trying to conceive her second baby, she navigated the unique challenge and experience of terminating for medical reasons.

In amongst it, a colleague innocently congratulated her for the pregnancy she no longer held. She had to pick out a tiny urn for the baby she'd never get to know. And, she had to leave a workplace she could no longer face.

But, as always, there's been beauty among the pain. There's been joy and love and creativity and welcoming another living baby, too. There's been delighting in the newborn phase and creating art and all the good stuff.

And some tales don't deserve my over explaining. Instead, they're better told from the person who's lived to tell them. So I'll let Sarah do that.

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Thanks for listening to Witching Hour! If you liked the show, please tell your friends, subscribe or write a review. You can also find us on Instagram at readyornot.pod

This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Boon Wurong people of the Kulin Nation. The land on which we're lucky enough to raise our sons and daughters always was and always will be Aboriginal land.

We Pay The Rent and you can too here.

This month, Ready or Not is proudly brought to you by Yoto. Use our discount Code: READYORNOT15 for 15% off your Yoto device [not to be used with any other offer, valid from 1st May - 5th June.]

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to another episode of Witching Hour, the show where two cousins and mums of two banter all things making work, work alongside motherhood.

Today on the show:

• International Women’s Day is fast approaching, so we’re looking at the “good news” headlines vs. the reality of working as a mum in 2025
• And, Lu realised the other day that she's officially interviewed over 100 working mums. and she shared 10 key reflections, quotes, and takeaways over on the Ready or Not podcast Instagram that's gone somewhat viral. So, we thought we could discuss it further here with Loz's wise input. (Read the post here).

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This episode of Witching Hour is brought to you by ergoPouch. Wake up with the new Breakfast Club Collection at ergopouch.com.au. And here’s something to sweeten the deal—right now, you can get 20% off sitewide* with the code RON20! But hurry—this offer is only available until March 10th. (Excludes sale items, Lyra Convertible Cot, Deluxe Mattress, Gift Vouchers, Multibuys & Giftpacks.)

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Thanks for listening to Witching Hour! If you liked the show, please tell your friends, subscribe or write a review. You can also find us on Instagram at readyornot.pod

This podcast was recorded on the lands of the Boon Wurong people of the Kulin Nation. The land on which we're lucky enough to raise our sons and daughters always was and always will be Aboriginal land.

We Pay The Rent and you can too here.

This month, Ready or Not is proudly brought to you by Yoto. Use our discount Code: READYORNOT15 for 15% off your Yoto device [not to be used with any other offer, valid from 1st May - 5th June.]

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.