Have you been around someone or do you struggle with having a critical spirit? We all need to be challenged sometimes, but criticism is rarely ever helpful. What is the difference between criticism and feedback and how can you cultivate an honest, authentic relationship that isn’t conflict-avoidant but one that values kindness even in the “critique?” This conversation will help you to reframe and readdress conflict in a more healthy, helpful way.

Key Points:

1. Intention Matters
2. Tone and Specificity
3. Tips for the Criticizing Individual
4. Coping with Criticism

Links Mentioned in this Episode: 

Ep. 88 - Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse  in Relationships

Ep. 86: It’s Not You; It’s Me (I Statements) 

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Being misunderstood can be a frustrating reality of a disconnected relationship. When someone hears something you didn't say or doesn't properly understand what you mean, it can wreak havoc on your communication. Today's listener question comes from a woman whose boyfriend consistently misunderstands what she means, especially when in disagreement. He even thinks that to disagree is to disrespect. 👀 Listen in as I share how she can ask better questions to get to the heart of the matter. And remember, Proverbs 18:13 says, "Those who answer before they listen are foolish and disgraceful." Ouch but true. 

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In this episode, we are uncovering gaslighting, a form of psychological manipulation that distorts reality and causes people to question their perceptions and memories. It’s intense, pervasive, and can wreak havoc in relationships. But fear not, because we explored the roots, manifestation, and impact of gaslighting to help you combat this toxic behavior head-on. 

We also debunked the common misconception that gaslighting is just a form of disagreement. It’s not. It’s a manipulative, intentional distortion of reality leading to doubt and confusion in the victim's mind. This is the essence of gaslighting, and recognizing it is the first step to overcoming it. Listen as I share four key tips to avoid or correct gaslighting in a relationship. 

Links Mentioned in this Episode:

Ep. 266: Triangulation: Are You the Victim, Villain, or Hero in Your Relationship?

Ep. 260: Love, Respect, and the Fallacy of Biblical Submission

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Do you ever wonder why you seem to make the same mistakes in relationships or attract the same type of people, especially when those people aren't good for you? Today's question comes from a listener who wants to ensure she doesn't make the same mistakes in her new relationship that she did in her old ones. Listen as I share five keys with her about relinquishing the past and moving forward with a clean slate. If you've struggled with the same cycles of behaviors in relationship after relationship, this episode will remind you that you can truly begin again, unscathed, unashamed, and unhindered. 

Links Mentioned in this Episode:

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Ep. 224: Baggage Claim - Releasing the Weight of Relationship Baggage

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Have you ever been told you're passive-aggressive or been in a relationship with someone who was? We're continuing our "toxic truths" series and discussing this often unspoken and confusing communication pattern. Passive-aggressive people have a hard time being direct and opt for more indirect ways of showing their disapproval, leading to misunderstandings and unnecessary conflict in relationships. This episode addresses how to handle and confront passive-aggressive tendencies like nonverbal cues and silent treatments to connect and communicate better in your relationship and offers practical advice for both individuals struggling with passive aggressiveness and those dealing with it in their relationships.

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Ep. 87 - The Silent Treatment vs Silence

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Do you ever wonder if staying in your marriage just to please God is a good enough reason to endure? Today's question from a listener who is wondering this very thing sparked a great conversation about what are the valid reasons to separate or divorce your spouse if you're a Christian. Is staying with your spouse just because the Bible says so or you feel pressure because of your church or religious beliefs enough? Listen as we broach this very timely and important subject that every Christian marriage needs to hear. 

Links Mentioned in this Episode: 

Ep. 135 - How to Know When It's Time to Divorce

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Have you heard of the concept of triangulation in relationships? In essence, triangulation involves three people: a victim, a villain, and a hero. It is a method of relating that can involve manipulation and power plays that often ensnare individuals in various types of relationships. Whether it's romantic entanglements, friendships, or a parent-child relationship, triangulation creates a triangular communication pattern between three people, leading to misunderstandings, conflicts, and a deep sense of disconnection.

If you've ever found yourself caught in the web of triangulation, you'll resonate with the roles we explore in this episode: the victim, the hero, and the villain, and, more importantly, learn how to break free from the triangulation trap and develop. healthier relationships.

Links Mentioned in this Episode:

Episode 140: Overcoming Unrealistic Expectations in Marriage 

Episode 48: Setting Realistic Expectations in Marriage

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Sexless marriages are on the rise, leaving both husband and wife frustrated, lonely, and hurt. Today's question comes from a listener who's been married for 30 years and sexless for one year. He describes in painful detail how his wife's rejection has him leaning toward divorce and how he is tempted consistently. This episode is not for the faint at heart. Listen in as I encourage this husband and anyone else who may be experiencing a sexless marriage how to overcome it and become free to enjoy the physical pleasure your marriage needs. 

Links Mentioned in this Episode: 

76: 8 Reasons Why Women Won’t Initiate Sex (Shameless Sex Series)

27: Lopsided Libido – How to Deal with Different Sex Drives (All About Sex Series)

Are You in a Sexless Marriage (YouTube)

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Most Christian couples would never think of their spouse or their marriage as an idol. But chances are good that that is exactly what happens in many relationships. On this episode we define what idolatry is in our modern world and how we easily fall into it. What is idolatry in the context of marriage? What are the dangers of making marriage an idol and how do you destroy the idol without destroying the relationship?

Throughout the episode, I discuss the dangers of making marriage or a spouse an idol and the potential pitfalls when God is not in the rightful place. The discussion also warns against maintaining a "transactional" relationship with God, seeking him just for needs instead of an ongoing relationship just because. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own relationships and seek God's presence to address any idols in their lives.

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To listen to a sermon I preached on “Idols in Disguise,” click here.

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Have you ever been told you don't speak up enough or you're not "assertive" enough in a relationship? Today's listener question comes from a woman whose husband wants her to not be so submissive but to stand up for what she wants in their marriage. He puts a different spin on submission, which leads her to want to know how she can start asserting herself more in her marriage. It's a great question, and I hope she finds encouragement in my answer.

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