Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

What To Do About Sex After an Affair? (Healing After Infidelity)


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As we continue our Healing After Infidelity series, a commonly asked yet sensitive topic is how to re-engage in sex after an affair. If you’ve experienced infidelity in your marriage, you’ve likely wondered this too. 

I'm offering grounded, compassionate wisdom on when and how couples should consider re-engaging sexually after infidelity. With a blend of personal stories, biblical guidance, real-life coaching experiences, and practical steps, this episode aims to support couples in making informed, healthy decisions with restoration at the center.

What You’ll Learn

  • Should you have sex after an affair? I address why immediately resuming sexual intimacy may not be healthy or helpful.

  • The importance of time and boundaries: Why jumping back into sex too soon can lead to more harm, and why it’s not “sinful” to abstain while healing. 

  • Trust, safety & STI checks: The crucial steps every couple should take for health and peace of mind.

  • Deconstructing sexual idols: How sex can become an unhealthy replacement for deeper intimacy following infidelity—and why this “idol” must be torn down before true restoration.

  • Practical tips for re-engaging: When you’re ready, how to reintroduce sex in a safe, pressure-free way.

  • Safety, boundaries, and autonomy: Advice for betrayed spouses if they feel pressured to resume sex, and the importance of reclaiming agency and setting healthy boundaries.

Resources & Next Steps

  • FREE Masterclass: Register for “Beyond Betrayal: Three Keys to Healing After Infidelity”—available at danache.com/masterclass

  • Upcoming Infidelity Course: Details and registration at danache.com/infidelityintensive

  • Show notes & links: Find this episode’s resources at rebuildinguspodcast.com

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