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In this episode I chat with business owner and coach Vanessa Medling about

• Leaving a relationship with little or no money & rebuilding financially after divorce
• Coercive control and financial abuse after separation
• Building friendships and creating a team to support you through separation, divorce and beyond
• Divorce parties - celebrating and honouring the end of a marriage or relationship in healthy ways

It's a powerful episode of Ness's lived experience and choice to not only survive divorce, but thrive afterwards.

Connect with Ness HERE

Other resources Ness mentioned

• Mel Browne's Financial Adulting Course
• Julie Crockett - www.apisolutions.com.au

Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you. 

• Decide whether to stay or go.
• Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself. 
• Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
• Divorce with less drama
• Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Divorce Truth Bombs You Need To Hear

Regardless of where you're at in term of your relationship or divorce -  whether you're asking the hard questions about your marriage or relationship, wondering weather to stay or leave, navigating the decision-making process, in the messy middle of separation or divorce, or emerging on the other side and wondering what’s next for you - in this episode I share with you some essential divorce truth bombs you need to hear

Book your FREE INTRO CALL call directly in my calendar if you’re ready to explore next steps.

My coaching program is a deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experience for you to explore your next steps. I can support and guide you to 

• Decide whether to stay or go.
• Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself. 
• Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
• Divorce with less drama
• Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

BOOK A CALL to work out what's best for you

Go gently,
Sallyanne

All relationships are equal, welcomed and supported at Reflect 🌈

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Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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In this last episode of the year I share a little bit of the back story of Reflect Coaching as well as a process I use with my 1:1 clients - Reflecting to Create Change.

Be that in general life, your relationship, as you navigate divorce, consciously uncouple or heal and recover after divorce.

I step you through a process to support you to consciously create the change you most want for yourself.

For all the details on a one-off deep dive REFRESH SESSION click HERE

Sallyanne

Ready to go even deeper and explore working 1:1 with me?

Book your FREE INTRO CALL call directly in my calendar.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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A reflective episode on lessons, learnings and reminders from 2023

Lessons and learnings from my personal life as well as my clients.

Reminders that life, my coaching clients and work gifted me this year.

Explore my COACHING PROGRAM - a deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experience for you to explore your next steps.

I support and guide you to: 

• Decide whether to stay or go.
• Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself. 
• Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
• Divorce with less drama
• Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

Book your FREE INTRO CALL call directly in my calendar if you’re ready to explore next steps.

If you love this episode, please share, rate and leave a review so others can find it more easily 🙏🏽  Share it with someone who needs to hear it.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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The first Christmas or the holiday season after divorce can be hard.

This episode is all about how to support and scaffold yourself and your children as you navigate the first Christmas or Holiday Season after your divorce.

Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you. 

• Decide whether to stay or go.
• Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself. 
• Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
• Divorce with less drama
• Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

If you love this episode, please share, rate and leave a review so others can find it more easily 🙏🏽

Share it with someone who needs to hear it

For access to the Reflect Playlist send me a message ⬆️

Other episodes to listen to about Christmas & the holidays after divorce

All The "Shoulds" of Christmas After Divorce

The Grief of Going Solo At Christmas After Divorce

12 Days of Christmas Giving To Yourself After Divorce

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Tips, strategies and support for anyone separating or divorcing a high-conflict, toxic or narcissistic ex.

Please share this with anyone you know is navigating a high-conflict divorce with someone demonstrating narcissistic traits and behaviours.

Book a free intro call to discuss coaching options HERE

General information and advice only. If you need deeper support, please connect with your GP / mental health professsional.

Other helpful resources:

https://www.police.vic.gov.au/family-violence

https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/helplines/

https://psychcentral.com/health/grey-rock-method

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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There's no denying that divorce is challenging.

And when you're divorcing someone who is high-conflict or narcissistic, the challenges are next level and can feel relentless.

In this first of a two part series, I offer you some tips and strategies for dealing with a toxic, high-conflict or narcissistic ex during your divorce and beyond.

Part 2 to follow

Book a free intro call to discuss coaching options HERE

Other helpful resources:

https://www.police.vic.gov.au/family-violence

https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/helplines/

https://psychcentral.com/health/grey-rock-method

General information and advice only. If you need deeper support, please connect with your GP / mental health professsional

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Dating After Divorce - How To Know You're Ready... Or Not.

Key signs you're ready (or not) to step out into the world of dating after a breakup, separation or divorce.

Tune in for:

• How you know you're ready to date again.
• Questions to ask yourself before you launch yourself out into the world of dating after divorce.
• My 2 rules for dating after divorce.

Download my free CHOOSE YOU guidebook - for recovering people pleasers and healing from self-abandonment

Please rate, review, share the podcast with anyone who you think might enjoy or be supported by it.

Sallyanne 

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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In this episode, I chat with Danielle Zetzer, founder and principal of specialist family law firm Respect Legal.

Dani has the superpower of helping people feel like anything is possible. A powerhouse collaborative family lawyer, she puts her neck out on a daily basis to change systems through a bold, unconventional and social impact approach to  the law. 

She (not unlike me) isn't one to hold back on the hard topics and in this conversation we covered (among other things):

• De-escalating conflict during and after your divorce
• Divorcing a narcissistic partner
• High conflict separations
• Co-parenting after a high conflict divorce
• The impact of taking personal responsibility in your divorce
• Creative ways of divorcing well

Connect with Dani & the Respect Legal Team:

www.respectlegal.com.au

Of course the song Dani chose for us to add to the REFLECT PLAYLIST  is Aretha Franklin - RESPECT

Message me ⬆️⬆️⬆️ if you'd like access to the playlist

Ready to explore working more deeply with me?

Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you. 

• Decide whether to stay or go.
• Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself. 
• Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
• Divorce with less drama
• Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

BOOK A CALL

If you love this episode, please share, rate and leave a review so others can find it more easily.  Share it with someone who needs to hear it 🙏🏽

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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So, your ex (or soon-to-be-ex) is speaking badly about you to your kids.

Unfortunately it's not uncommon for an ex or co-parent to speak a little more frankly or openly with the kids than is necessary.

What can you do if your ex is badmouthing you or speaking badly about you to your kids?

In this episode I talk through:

• What badmouthing is and what it can look like (it's not always obvious)
• How to respond when your children share that it's happening
• What to do if it happens in person, when you are present, especially when your kids are also present
• How to descalate and stop it from continuing (and accept that ultimately it's beyond your control)

Please, like, save, rate review and SHARE the podcast with anyone you know who would be supported by it.

Ready to explore working more deeply with me?

Explore my COACHING PROGRAMS - deeply nurturing, completely confidential, 1:1 coaching experiences for you to explore your next steps, whether that's reconnecting to your current partner, separating or divorce. I can support and guide you. 

• Decide whether to stay or go.
• Reconnect on a deeper level - with your partner, with yourself. 
• Unravel, uncouple with grace, kindness & respect
• Divorce with less drama
• Choose a life, love and relationship that you truly desire.

If you love this episode, please share, rate and leave a review so others can find it more easily 🙏🏽

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass
• Join the Reflect VIP Mailing List

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.