Divorce and Separation

In this weeks episode we welcome back Clinical Pyschologist Ben Schiller to talk about schemas and how they impact the way individuals cope with divorce and separation. Ben explains what schemas are and practical strategies for recognising and managing these schemas to improve emotional regulation and decision-making. 

There are so many takeaways in this episode. 

Nikki and Ben talk about -

1. What Are Schemas?
2. Common Schemas in Divorce.
3. Coping Strategies for Managing Schemas.
4. Self-Soothing Techniques. Oh these are good - what is your Toolkit?
5. How to identify Your Triggers.

Plus so much more.

Divorce and Separation Podcast offers valuable insights and practical tips for individuals navigating the challenges of separation, making it a resourceful guide for those seeking support during this emotional journey.

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Ben Schiller, Clinical Psychologist

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

This week we are kicking off Season 3 with Bella from A Kid With Two Homes. 

Nikki sits down with Bella Duncan, who shares her experiences growing up as a child of divorced parents. Together, they explore a topic that many parents struggle with: how to handle talking about your ex when your kids are around. Bella opens up about how overhearing her parents’ negative comments impacted her as a kid and how she eventually found ways to communicate her feelings. This is a must-listen for any parent wanting to protect their children’s emotional well-being during and after separation!

Divorce and Separation Podcast offers valuable insights and practical tips for individuals navigating the challenges of separation, making it a resourceful guide for those seeking support during this emotional journey.

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Sign up to "How to Tell Your Kids you are Separating Program" Waitlist HERE.

Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE.

Guest: Bella Duncan, A Kid With Two Homes

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation. You can find our more about Simple Separation HERE.

In this episode Nikki Parkinson is joined by Mel Wilson, Journalist, co-host of The Juggling Act and author of Parenting in Progress, to discuss the complexities and personal transformations associated with co-parenting after divorce. Mel opens up about her personal post-separation experiences and shares her emotional journey of parenting post-divorce

Nikki and Mel chat - 

• Navigating the new norms of parenting post-separation and the immediate challenges of transitioning from a coupled life to single parenthood. 
• Lessons learned from children amidst the divorce.
• Redefining the concept of family and personal identity during such transformative periods.
• Strategies for managing emotional challenges in the early stages of separation.
• How to change the perceptions and stigmas around divorce.
• The impact of new relationships on co-parenting dynamics and personal recovery.

This episode offers an exploration of the trials and transformations associated with co-parenting after divorce. It underscores the importance of self-care, embracing change, and the positive growth that can arise from navigating through these challenging transitions.

Divorce and Separation Podcast offers valuable insights and practical tips for individuals navigating the challenges of separation, making it a resourceful guide for those seeking support during this emotional journey.

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Mel Wilson

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

In this episode Nikki Parkinson is joined by Lawrence (Larry) and Joni Jones. Larry is a former amily Court Judge of the Superior Court in New Jersey and Joni a Mental Health Professional and together they have created Point C, an incredible educational resource for anyone navigating divorce and separtion with children.This episode delves into the complexities of divorce, particularly focusing on its impact on children. 

Nikki, Larry and Joni discuss - 

• The Origin of Point C and the inspiration behind creating Point C.
• Why all parents need this educational reource.
• The impact of Divorce on Children.
• How children are affected by parental conflict during divorce.
• Signs of distress in children and the importance of positive role modeling.
• Larry offers his judicial experience, discussing how the legal system handles divorce and the potential benefits of early intervention and educational programs.
• Co-parenting challenges and effective strategies for effective co-parenting.
• Tips for managing family dynamics during holidays and significant events in the aftermath of a divorce or separation.

The Divorce and Separation Podcast offers valuable insights and practical tips for individuals navigating the challenges of separation, making it a resourceful guide for those seeking support during this emotional journey.

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guests: Lawrence and Joni Jones

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

In this episode Nikki Parkinson engages in a insightful conversation with family law expert Siobhan Mullins, author of "The Guy's Guide to Separation and Divorce." Siobhan shares her journey as a family lawyer and her shift to supporting couples in preparing separation agreements. The focus of her book, The Guy's Guide to Separation and Divorce, is on aiding men through the emotional and practical challenges of separation.

Nikki and Siobhan discuss - 

• Debunking the 50/50 myth.
• Understanding "Best Interests of the Child".
• Practical Parenting Arrangements.
• Communication and Co-Parenting.
• The most common questions asked my men going through separation. 
• Siobhan's to three tips for men going thorugh separation. 

The Divorce and Separation Podcast offers valuable insights and practical tips for individuals navigating the challenges of separation, making it a resourceful guide for those seeking support during this emotional journey.

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Siobhan Mullins

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

In this episode Nikki Parkinson, discusses the importance of effective communication during divorce or separation with her guest, Leah Mether. Leah is a communication and soft skills specialist with over 15 years of experience and the author of two books. 

Do you ever find yourself having to communicate under pressure? Leah walks you through how to steer yourself through the challenge of conflict, personality clashes, and difficult conversations. Both Nikki and Leah emphasise that communication is key to maintaining positive relationships, especially when you are under pressure, like during a separation or a divorce.

Leah and Nikki dive into - 

• The importance of Communication.
• Leah shares her professional background in communication and how her personal experience with divorce has shaped her views.
• Leah's Five C's of Effective Communication.
• The Biff Method and it's framework.
• Managing Emotions and Expectations and the importance of self-regulation and setting realistic expectations for communication with an ex-partner.
• Advice for Challenging Conversations (because we will at some stage all have them!).

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Leah Mether, Communication and Soft Skills Specialist.

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

In this episode, host Nikki Parkinson engages in a candid conversation with Christina Salvo, the CEO and founder of Simple Separation, about de facto relationships. They delve into what constitutes a de facto relationship in the eyes of the family law system.

Christina clarifies how, legally, de facto relationships are treated and whether they are similar to marriages when it comes to financial settlements, children's arrangements, and child support. They discuss how asset division in de facto relationships is determined based on factors such as relationship duration, contributions, career sacrifices, income disparities, and age differences.

The importance of protecting assets in de facto relationships is a focal point, and they explain how financial agreements or prenuptial agreements can safeguard individuals. 

This conversation highlights the importance of initiating the conversation about a financial agreement early in the relationship. Tune in to hear Nikki and Christina'a strategies for approaching this potentially sensitive topic.

If this episode resonated with you, Nikki invites you to subscribe, leave a five-star review, and share the podcast with others who may benefit from the discussions. 

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Christina Salvo, CEO and Founder of Simple Separation

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

In this week's episode, Nikki chats with Johanna Lynn from the Family Imprint Institute. Johanna and Nikki explore the captivating concepts of epigenetics and neuroplasticity and their profound impact on our relationships and parenting. Together, they uncover valuable insights on breaking toxic cycles, recognising patterns, and creating positive change for ourselves and future generations.

Nikki and Johanna dive into:

• Epigenetics and Neuroplasticity; Understanding Family Patterns:

  • The role of epigenetics in shaping our inherited traits.
  • Exploring neuroplasticity and its potential for transformation.
  • Uncovering the influence of family patterns on our relationships.

• The Three-Generation Geneagram:

  • Using the genealogical tool to detect patterns within families.
  • Gaining insights into our own history and pain.
  • Understanding how inherited traits can impact our relationships.

• Personal Healing and Breaking Toxic Cycles:

  • Embracing personal growth to break toxic patterns.
  • Recognising our own contributions to separation and divorce.
  • Healing emotional wounds to rebuild trust in ourselves.

• Understanding Each Other's History and Pain:

  • The power of empathy and compassion in relationships.
  • Exploring the profound impact of understanding our partner's experiences.
  • Creating space for healing and transformation.

• Learning and Unlearning: Embracing Valuable Lessons:

  • The opportunity for growth and self-discovery during separation and divorce.
  • Unlearning harmful behaviors and embracing healthier alternatives.
  • Nurturing personal and relationship development.

• Taking Care of Ourselves: Navigating Difficult Times:

  • The importance of self-care and self-compassion.
  • Strategies for navigating the challenges of separation and divorce.
  • Building resilience and embracing personal well-being.

It's an enlighting episode where we explore the healing journey from separation and divorce, through understanding family patterns, addressing emotional wounds, and embracing change, we can create lasting transformations in ourselves and our relationships.

Remember, by taking care of ourselves, we pave the way for healthier connections and nurture future generations. 

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Johanna Lynn

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

In this episode, Nikki and her guest Kemi Nekvapil engage in an insightful conversation that explores the profound connection between power and divorce and separation.

Kemi introduces you to her Power acronym - P for presence, O for ownership, W for wisdom, E for equality, and R for responsibility. Nikki and Kemi delve into the common experience of women feeling like they've lost their power during divorce and separation, often due to a lack of self-identity or being influenced by external narratives.

Topics Discussed:

• Discover the first step towards reclaiming power - awareness of your unhappiness in the current situation.
• Emphasise the importance of being present and actively identifying what's working and what's not, enabling you to take back your power.
• Uncover the transformative potential of micro moments of power, where even small actions can bring about significant change.
• Learn how The Power of the Pause can help you carve out time to reflect, reevaluate relationships, and navigate challenging circumstances.
• Explore the role of self-reflection as a crucial tool for identifying what nourishes your life and what doesn't.
• Discover how coaching can provide valuable feedback and support during divorce and separation, empowering you on your journey to reclaim power.
• Examine the complex and deeply personal journey of forgiveness and its role in moving forward.
• Understand the transformative power of forgiveness and how it enables individuals to craft a new chapter in their lives, beginning with self-forgiveness.
• Gain insights into the emotional complexities of separation through personal experiences of shame and embarrassment.
• Emphasise the significance of presence, the role of a support system, and the practices of empathy and self-compassion during tough times.
• Explore the vital importance of surrounding yourself with friends who provide unwavering support through challenges and struggles.
• Gain empowering insights on taking ownership of your power across all areas of your life.

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Kemi Nekvapil

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

Are you struggling with how to handle a separation or divorce in the most respectful and fair way possible? Look no further than this episode of our podcast, where Nikki sits down with guest Christina Salvo, CEO and founder of Simple Separation. Together, Nikki and Christina explore common mistakes to avoid during separation and how to ensure both parties are on equal financial footing. They also discuss the importance of being open and transparent during the separation process, and how mediation, counseling, and coaching can help with communication and emotional support. Plus, Nikki and Christina offer tips for getting organised with documents, seeking early legal advice, and understanding full financial disclosure.

This episode is for you if you want to handle your separation with respect, dignity, and fairness.

Nikki and Christina discuss:

• Common mistakes to avoid during separation
• The importance of equal financial footing
• When lawyering up is necessary
• The benefits of mediation and counseling
• Tips for getting organized and understanding full financial disclosure
• Different pathways for separation, based on goals and level of conflict
• Simple Separation's collaborative and cost-effective model for separation

Download the Pre-Separation Checklist HERE.

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE.

Guest: Christina Salvo, CEO and Founder of Simple Separation

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.