This episode is part of The Anatomy of Divorce segment, I unpack one of the most overlooked skills in separation - perspective.

When life turns upside down after divorce, your brain goes into survival mode. You loop old arguments, replay stories, and grip tightly to being understood. But sometimes the shift you need most isn't fixing them - it's seeing them differently.

I share how understanding your biology, practising perspective-taking, and embracing Mel Robbins' Let Them Theory can help you calm your nervous system, make clearer decisions, and protect your peace.

You'll also learn my six-step Perspective Check, a simple, science-backed tool to help you step out of reactivity and back into clarity.

This is an episode for anyone who's ready to stop explaining, start exhaling, and find real freedom after divorce.

• Why your brain goes into survival mode after separation;

• How looping thoughts keep you trapped in pain;

• The psychology of perspective taking and how it helps regulate emotions;

• A six-step framework to widen your lens without losing your boundaries;

• The 90-second de-flare technique for calmer communication;

• What the Let Them Theory can teach us about emotional release and self-preservation;

• The difference between letting go and giving up;

• Why peace comes from perception, not permission.

Resources:

Mel Robbins

1800 RESPECT

Beyond Blue

Blue Knot Foundation

Lifeline

Headspace

Friendline

Relationships Australia

Kids Helpline

Mens Line Australia

Lysn

Mindspot

QLife

Panda

Sane

Suicide Call Back Service

Open Arms

White Ribbon Australia

Amica

Reach Out

Gidget Foundation

Black Dog Institute

Link 2 Home Homelessness

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Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

Separation and divorce cost the Australian economy $101 billion every year but behind that figure are real people quietly trying to hold their lives, families, and jobs together.

In this episode, I'm joined by Andrew Tomich, Director at A&Co Recruitment Partners, to explore how divorce impacts the workplace from leadership and productivity to culture and wellbeing.

Andrew shares what happened when a senior colleague went through a complex separation and how empathy, flexibility, and communication became the foundation for getting through it together. We talk about the ripple effect personal crises have inside organisations, why traditional leave policies fall short, and how initiatives like "Life Leave" are changing the way businesses support their teams.

It's a conversation about leadership that sees the person behind the role and why humanising the workplace isn't just good for people, it's good for business.

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Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Andrew Tomich, Founder & Director A&Co Recruuitment Partners

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This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict.

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I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

This episode is part of The Anatomy of Divorce segment, where we explore the emotional, physical and psychological layers of separation through the whole person body, mind and heart.

Today, we move into The Heart the space where pain lives first.

If you're in that place where everything feels raw, where your chest feels tight and your thoughts loop endlessly, this one's for you. In this episode, I'm speaking directly to that tender part of you that's trying to make sense of the ending the part that wants to heal but still feels stuck in the ache.

I share my own experience of heartbreak when my marriage ended and I couldn't see beyond the grief and how I began to shift from surviving to slowly rebuilding.

We'll talk about:

• Why emotional pain narrows your world and how to gently widen your view again;

• How the brain protects us in the middle of heartbreak (and when it's time to move from protection to possibility);

• The moment I realised my pain had changed shape from breaking to becoming;

• What it means to truly "let go" without losing yourself;

• How to use gentle curiosity and journaling to reconnect with your heart and your future.

This isn't about pushing past the pain it's about understanding it, honouring it, and learning what it's trying to show you.

Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this.

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Parenting after separation doesn't come with a manual but it does come with options.

In this episode, I sit down with Eliza O'Sullivan, Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner at Simple Separation, to unpack one of the most confusing and emotional parts of separation: how to make parenting work when the relationship ends.

Eliza brings calm, clarity, and deep understanding to a topic that so often overwhelms parents. We explore what a Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner (FDRP) actually does, when to use mediation, and how to create a child-focused parenting plan that protects your kids and supports both parents.

Together we discuss:

• The real difference between a Parenting Plan and a Parenting Order

• Why the best time to create a plan is before you think you need it

• The must-have clauses every parenting plan should include

• How to keep communication child-focused when emotions run high

• What a child's voice really means (and how to be their advocate, not their messenger)

• When to formalise your arrangements through the court system and when not to

This episode is your practical guide to making co-parenting simpler, calmer, and truly centred on your child's needs.

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Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Eliza O'Sullivan, FDRP, Simple Separation

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This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict.

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I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

Have you ever felt your gut warning you about someone but your head talked you out of listening?

In this episode I sit down with clinical psychologist and author Phoebe Rogers to explore the psychology of safe love and why rebuilding self-trust after separation starts in your body, not your brain.

We dive deep into what happens when you begin healing after separation, why so many of us keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, and how schema therapy can help you break free from the old relationship patterns that hold you back.

Together, we unpack:

• The link between your nervous system and emotional safety in relationships;
• Why learning to trust yourself again after divorce is the foundation for love after divorce;
• What to look for when you're dating after divorce and how to know when you're ready;
• How your body often senses red flags before your mind catches up;
• Why healthy, safe love begins with reconnecting to yourself

Because true healing after divorce doesn't make you harder to love it makes you better at it.

Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this.

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Phoebe Rogers, Clinical Psychologist and Author of When Will It Happen For Me?

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This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict.

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Feeling stuck or second-guessing every decision during your divorce? You're not alone.

In the The Anatomy of Divorce segment of the podcast, I share the B.R.A.I.N.S method a calm, psychology backed decision making framework designed to help you find clarity when emotions run high.

You'll learn how to:

• Overcome divorce decision fatigue and emotional overwhelm.

• Shift out of survival mode and make grounded, values-based choices.

• Avoid the 3 biggest decision making mistakes people make during separation.

• Use the B.R.A.I.N.S method (Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Intuition, Nothing, Support) to create calm and confidence through chaos.

Whether you're navigating separation, co-parenting, or your next chapter this episode will help you reclaim your clarity, confidence, and power.

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Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au.

Have you ever felt your brain working overtime desperately trying to project-manage every conversation, decision, and outcome of your divorce only to end up completely exhausted?

In this first episode of The Anatomy of Divorce, I break down why separation sends your mind into overdrive and how the fear of uncertainty can trick you into false control. I share why your brain spirals into anxiety loops during divorce, and how knowing this can help you reclaim your calm.

I'm introducing you to the Anchor-a-Day Method a simple but powerful practice to steady yourself when emotions run high. Think micro-moments of intention that bring you back to your body, your breath, and your sense of self.

Download my free Daily Anchor Plan and start creating your personal anchor today.

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Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Do you really need to get under someone to get over someone? It's a question that often comes up after separation or divorce, and in this episode, I talk with Clinical Psychology Registrar – Psychologist Ben Schiller to explore if there is any truth behind it.

We discuss the emotional pull of rebound sex and new relationships, why it's so tempting to dive straight into something (or someone) new, and whether that really helps ease the loneliness and grief that can follow a breakup. Is it a distraction or does it help you heal? And how understanding our own emotional patterns can make all the difference. It's a BIG conversation with great insights.

Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this.

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Can happiness and divorce exist in the same sentence?

If you've ever felt like your life was supposed to follow a certain script, find the one, live happily ever after, then this episode is for you. But what happens when that story falls apart? Are we destined to be unhappy, or is there another way?

I'm joined by Stephanie Harrison, author of New Happy: Getting Happiness Right in a World That's Got It Wrong. Stephanie offers a fresh perspective on happiness, breaking down the outdated myths we've been sold, what she calls Old Happy and showing us how to create a New Happy, even in the wake of divorce.

This episode will challenge the way you think about happiness, success, and starting over. If you're navigating the grief, guilt, or loneliness that often comes with separation, Stephanie's insights will help you reframe your experience and find hope in the possibility of a more authentic and fulfilling life.

Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this.

Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Stephanie Harrison, Expert in the science of happiness and the creator of the New Happy philosophy, Author

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Divorce is one of the hardest things you'll ever go through. The loss, the uncertainty, the fear of what's next, it can feel overwhelming. But what if this was also an opportunity to rediscover yourself?

In this episode, I'm joined by Jillian Turecki, Certified Relationship Coach, Teacher, Author, and Host of the Podcast, Jillian On Love. We have a raw and honest conversation about what it really takes to heal after a breakup, why self-acceptance is more important than self-love, and how to rebuild trust, both in yourself and in future relationships.

Jillian also shares insights from her new book, It Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life, and we dive into the lessons we've learned from our own breakups, the moments that made us question everything, and the unexpected freedom that comes when you finally let go.

If you're struggling to make sense of your divorce or separation, feeling stuck in the heartbreak, or wondering how you'll ever move forward, this episode is for you.

• The first thing you need to do after a breakup;
• How to stop second-guessing yourself and start trusting your decisions;
• Why choosing yourself doesn't mean disregarding others;
• The truth about financial independence and why it matters in relationships;
• How to embrace freedom after divorce instead of fearing it;
• What a healthy relationship actually looks like;
• Why heartbreak makes us feel crazy and how to manage those emotions.

This is one of those conversations that will stay with you.

This episode is brought to you by Simple Separation. For a stress-free, transparent approach to navigating separation, book a free consultation with their team today.

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Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub.

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Guest: Jillian Turecki, Certified Relationship Coach, Teacher, Author, and Host of the Podcast, Jillian On Love

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