Have you ever tried to explain yourself in a conflict — and the more you explained, the worse it got?

In this insightful and deeply practical episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores one of the most frustrating patterns in relationships: why explaining, defending, and justifying yourself rarely leads to understanding. She explains that when someone is operating from their wounded self, they are not in their logical upper brain. They are not available to hear you. And no amount of explaining will change that.

Dr. Paul walks through what is actually happening beneath the surface of relational conflict, what the other person is really asking for when they come at you with anger or blame, and how to shift from the urge to explain and control into the loving adult who can respond with presence, curiosity, and care. She shares practical examples of what this looks like in real moments including how to comment on intent rather than content, how to actively listen, and how to take a sacred pause when your wounded self is ready to defend.

Come explore a more loving and effective way of navigating conflict in the Inner Bonding podcast. 

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About Dr. Margaret Paul

Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God?

Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program.

Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or email her at [email protected].

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