In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Mika Ross, therapist, relationship coach, and all-around relatable expert on navigating the messiness of relationships, especially when ADHD dynamics come into play. Mika shares her journey from aspiring child therapist to becoming a relationship expert, all while unpacking her own family experiences. We unravel the nuances of communication, understanding, and empathy, especially in relationships affected by ADHD and rejection sensitivity. Mika offers unique tools like her trusty "scales" for gauging feelings, strategies for paraphrasing to enhance active listening, and tips for avoiding the dreaded resentment that can creep into any relationship. Mika’s wisdom will inspire you to embrace those "big feelings," communicate effectively, and find those win-win solutions that make relationships thrive.

 

Episode Highlights:
[1:29] - Meet Mika Ross, the relatable therapist who’s real about the ups and downs of relationship dynamics.
[2:42] - Mika shares her journey from child therapy to relationship coaching, driven by personal experiences and a late-in-life ADHD connection.
[5:33] - The "ADHD detector" moments: how Mika notices the signs and patterns of ADHD within couples.
[12:08] - Unpacking non-verbal communication and why assumptions often lead to misinterpretations.
[15:44] - Mika’s go-to strategy: using "scales" to bring clarity and eliminate guesswork in emotional exchanges.
[20:21] - Tools for the highly sensitive: using scales and structured communication to reduce misunderstandings.
[25:19] - The power of paraphrasing: How Mika learned to listen actively and avoid surface-level conversations.
[34:31] - Postpone persuasion! Mika’s "five P’s" strategy for truly understanding your partner before jumping to conclusions.
[35:38] - Win-win solutions vs. compromise: finding what feels good for both sides without resentment.

 

Connect with Mika: 

• Connect with Mika on Instagram: @mikaross.therapist
• Visit Mika’s website for free relationship resources and trainings: mikaross.com
• Listen to Mika’s podcast: How to Talk About It

 

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