REWILD + FREE

In this episode I'm joined by Robin (@wild.child.sleep) who gives us the truth about infant sleep.
 Consider this conversation *almost* everything you need to know about your baby's sleep. Robin unpacks sleep myths, defines sleep training, and discusses common societal pressures that are impacting a mother's self confidence and self trust. 
Robin is NOT a sleep trainer! Instead this is a discussion about looking at sleep from a holistic lens, normalizing normal and trusting your instincts. 

We get a little nerdy about the nervous system and hormones but Robin does a fantastic job at explaining the nuance around infant sleep in an easy to digest way  and shares helpful insights and tangible strategies to support your baby or toddler to sleep.

Click here to access Robin's free guide on Infant + Toddler Temperament

More about Robin:
Robin is a doula and infant sleep specialist bringing back the lost art of Mothering the Mother. Robin works with you to understand your choices and find simple, effective, and evidence based solutions to meet your sleep goals. She leaves you with all the tools you need to feel confident in your parenting journey.  Find out more here

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Another solo episode sharing what's alive on my heart 💃
This week I continue to talk nerdy to you about the nervous system! I get into my own self shaming tendencies and share my personal experience currently thawing from a freeze response.  I explain why we need to stop looking at our nervous system with a binary lens and also discuss: 

• the importance of finding space for rest
• integrating slowness in your life to create space for joy
• understanding pleasure beyond sexuality 

The conversation highlights the importance of holding space for circumstances instead of trying to control, fix or micromanage.  This is an invitation to you to slow the f down and get curious about the symptoms in your body without judgment.
 
Questions to ponder: 

• How have societal pressures to perform or achieve impacted your self worth? 
• Have you ever found yourself believing that you have to work hard and endure suffering in order to experience pleasure and joy?
• How do you practice slowing down and creating space for rest in your own life? Are there any specific activities or rituals that you find helpful? Do you wait till it's too late 
• How do you personally experience the concept of intensity in your own life? Do you see it as a positive or negative?   

 
Books mentioned in this episode that I HIGHLY RECOMMEND 

1. The Healing Power of Pleasure: Seven Medicines for Rediscovering the Innate Joy of Being by Julia Paulette Hollenbery 
2. Call of the Wild by Kimberly Ann Johnson 

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Long overdue solo episode! It's just me this week, giving you a little life update and sharing my own musings related to prioritizing rest, understanding my menstrual cycle and navigating my own nervous system health. 
In this episode , I share the humbling lesson I'm currently learning about saying no, setting boundaries, and not feeling like a failure for not meeting expectations. I also dive into my experience since restarting my menstrual cycle postpartum and how it's been a game changer for understanding my energy shifts throughout the month. And I discuss the concept of healing as an upward spiral and how revisiting triggers and moments of resistance indicate growth and progress!  I reflect on the discomforts in finding calm and ease in my life as a stay-at-home mom, podcaster, and business owner, and how it's positively impacted my nervous system. 

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Do you have a hard time trusting your intuition and end up following other people’s strategies in order to find success?  What if I told you that leaning into your intuition and simplifying what you can handle is the secret behind sustainable growth and success? 
This week, I'm joined by Gina DiSalvo and we dissect what it means to follow your intuition and focus on what you can actually manage in this season of your life. Gina is a backyard veggie gardener, wife and mom of 3 on a journey to self sufficiency. She doesn’t have much time to spend in the garden but loves growing food for her family that is nutrient dense and free of chemicals. We talked about the importance of simplicity and trusting the natural processes of growth, whether that's in the garden or in our own lives. Just like seeds and plants naturally want to grow, our babies and businesses have their own journeys and growth timeline.   
We also chatted about:

• Overcoming good girl conditioning
• Recognizing people-pleasing tendencies when you consider yourself a "rebel"
• Standing in your truth ,even around authority figures 
• Taking radical responsibility in your household 
• The simplest definition of trusting your intuition 
• Intuitive gardening and connecting to nature without adding to your to do list 
• ...and so much more! 

If you're a mom or a business owner looking for tips on finding balance and owning your authentic self, you don't want to miss this episode!

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You aren't failing mama, but society might be failing you.
In this episode, I'm joined by Nikki Matthews who shares her experience preparing for pregnancy/birth and navigating postnatal depression and anxiety after becoming a mom. She discusses the societal taboo surrounding maternal mental health and the struggle to seek support.  This is part 3 of a 3 part series on Matrescence (tune into episodes 12 and 13 to hear other matrescence stories) 

In this episode, Nikki and I also discuss: 

• The differences in healthcare, parental leave, and childcare in the UK, Canada, and the US 
• How society is failing in preparing mothers for the emotional changes and identity shift that come with motherhood
• The importance of exploring personal values and why self-discovery should be prioritized instead of fitting into traditional metrics
• The pressure to bounce back and return to pre-baby life and how this adds to the struggle of understanding one's new identity as a mother
• Navigating feelings of isolation and inadequacy in new motherhood

Nikki shares the importance of understanding matrescence and normalizes some of the hardships so many of us face in early motherhood.  Tune in and join the conversation as we dissect the need for societal change to better support mothers.

A note from Nikki:
"I'm a Brit, currently living in the USA away from friends and family. I'm married to my wonderful husband James, I have a rambunctious 2 year old little boy, and I also have a non-stop 4 year old pup called Dora. Our house is loud, high energy and messy (just to keep things in perspective!) I used to work in the corporate HR space for 14+ years, but recently took a career break to spend time with my son & explore some of my creative passions... Which brings me on to the.maternally .... an idea that I had when in the throes of postnatal depression and anxiety, and realised so much more needed to be done to support mums as they transition into and throughout motherhood. When I first stepped into the role of mum, I really needed an ally in my corner ... hence the.maternally was born!  I'm a motherhood ally, a matrescence educator, a fierce supporter of maternal mental health, a recovering people pleaser and perfectionist and a HUGE croissant lover! I'm just getting the.maternally off the ground and very much learning as I go, but I'd love for you to join my community!"
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Is it your intuition or society's "to-do" list?
Have you ever stopped to check in with yourself and actually notice if that thing your doing (planning a wedding, preparing for a baby, or moving up in your career, etc) is guided by your intuition or just the next thing to cross off the (never ending) list of things society expects from you? 
I'm certainly guilty of living by default and getting wrapped up in the 'checklist',  striving to meet my next career goal and chasing society's definition of success... but this episode isn't about me! It's about Ashley! 
This week, I'm joined by Ashley Beatty who is a self development coach and fellow student in the Seasons of Matrescence® training I'm part of right now. She's also a mom and teacher from Ontario, Canada. Ashley shares her journey through motherhood and how she trusted her intuition while balancing her professional goals with the turbulence of new motherhood.  Listen in to uncover the wisdom she's gained along the way.  
We also explore:

• how to find alignment between professional goals, career and motherhood
• navigating expectations versus reality within new motherhood 
• the significance of investing in ourselves, avoiding the comparison game, and recognizing our own strengths and weaknesses
• how motherhood can be an opportunity to unearth new passions and find your true path in life 
• embracing and embodying the full spectrum of being a mom

Don't miss this uplifting and empowering episode as we continue to celebrate the resilience, strength, and wisdom of mothers everywhere.  And be sure to tune into Episode 12 and 14 to continue hearing vulnerable and inspirational stories from other moms in this (sort of unintentional) three part series on Matrescence! 

When not momming or teaching 8th grade, Ashley is self development coach who empowers women to discover who they are at their core through genuine and authentic connection. She supports working moms to live with greater alignment. To learn more about her 1:1 coaching offerings, check out her website here
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How do you navigate the complex world of relationships, parenting, and identity while embracing your true self?   

This week, I'm joined by Dana Struthers from New Zealand, who answers this million dollar question for us through the lens of her own matrescence journey.
 
Matrescence has been no straight road for Dana. The journey into and through Motherhood saw Dana experiencing pregnancy loss, severe postnatal depression & anxiety, a changing career, a break up in her marriage, and having her own sexual realization and Queer awakening.

In this episode, Dana opens up about her decision to end her marriage,  her journey into dating women, and her vastly different birth experiences, while exploring the importance of being mindful of our biases and the opinions of our ego in the birth space. With her now-partner, Rebecca, we discussed their experiences during lockdown, navigating relationships and parenting, as well as Dana's experience with postnatal depression and the significant changes she went through during this period.

Finally, join us as we delve into the balancing of divine masculine and feminine energy within a woman-loving-woman relationship and how it shows up within the partnership and household. Dana's valuable insights on the importance of standing in your own truth and being aware of your own biases serve as a powerful reminder for all of us to live life unapologetically and intentionally.

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Dana is a Transition to Parenting Educator & Seasons of Matrescence Guide.  With BirthCraft, Dana creates and delivers evidence based  info with a holistic approach to expectant parents as well as a project in a high school with students (who are not pregnant!).   Based in Aotearoa (New Zealand), Dana does face to face as well as zoom sessions with clients in NZ as well as the world for Antenatal Education, Birth Planning & Support as well as Matrescence connections.
Dana's free resources can be found online at www.BirthCraft.co.Nz
 
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Ridin' solo to share my reflections and insights from the presale I just completed for my upcoming group mastermind called Recalibrate. I discuss some of the parallels I've noticed between launching a new offer and preparing for birth.

In the second half of the episode, I introduce you to the topic of matrescence. WTF is it? And why should you care?   

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Are you just a character in someone else’s book or are you holding the pen and writing your own story?  

In this episode,  I'm joined by Alexis (@intentionally.alexis) and we chat about all things healing in motherhood,  including self-worth, spiritual bypassing, and radical responsibility to finally get out of that victim mindset. 

Alexis Stearns is a healing mentor for moms who are ready to heal their birth trauma, break generational cycles, and enjoy motherhood. 

 This episode is a juicy one, we touch on sooo many themes including: 

• Creating and cultivating rhythm and ritual in your life 
• Unsubscribing from the patriarchal and masculine expectation to find balance 
• Looking at balance as a myth, instead striving for presence as our goal 
• Falling victim to this idea of destination  addiction  
• Who you are before the world got to you 
• Recognizing when your 'shoulding' on yourself 
• The ripple effect our healing has on future generations 
• How fitting in and belonging might lead to self abandonment 
• Taking radical responsibility in healing, looking at where you’re being the victim in your life 
• Importance of self worth in motherhood 

Want to work with Alexis?
Her signature course, Healing Birth Within is available here
Her FREE course to get started with healing can be found here
And on Wednesday May 24/23, Alexis is hosting a Inner Child Healing Workshop, details can be found here

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Motherhood is a unique experience but also a universal one. This episode is a special tribute to celebrate Mother's Day and honour the nuance within the identity shift that women experience when becoming a mom.  I've complied recordings from 4 different women sharing their story about how motherhood changed them.
 
You will hear from:
Amanda  @buildyourbirth
Hannah @ebbandflowbirthco
Jaden @jadeenb_
and Rachel @theintuitiveco_

Hope you enjoy & Happy Mother's Day ♡

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