We can’t change what happened—but we can change how our minds hold it. In this powerful episode, Heather McKean sits down with Air Force veteran Matt Jefson, who carried the memory of losing 13 friends in combat for nearly two decades. Through Mind Change, Matt learned how to rewire it—transforming trauma into peace, triggers into awareness, and loss into meaning. Together, Heather and Matt reveal how rewiring the past frees us from reliving it, restores connection, and opens the door to genuine healing. Whether you’ve faced trauma, loss, or emotional overwhelm, this conversation offers hope and a new way to come home to yourself.

What we explore in this episode:

🧠 Rewiring the brain – You can’t change the event, but you can change how your mind holds it.

🎖️ Redefining trauma – Matt didn’t erase the memory; he transformed his relationship to it.

💬 From loss to meaning – He shifted from sufferer to storyteller, honoring his friends through healing.

⚡ Triggers as teachers – What once caused panic now brings awareness and calm.

🏠 Finding your inner home – Reframing helped Matt feel safe and present again.

👥 The hidden cost of service – Many veterans carry emotional armor long after leaving duty.

🪞 Awareness creates change – Seeing the pattern is the first step to rewiring it.

💔 Healing ripples outward – As Matt changed, his wife began her own healing too.

🧩 Beyond talking – True freedom comes from reprogramming the brain, not just retelling the story.

🌅 There’s always hope – No matter your past, you can reframe it and find peace.

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