It is easy to get attached to your victim story and blame your ex for the fact that your marriage went up in flames. But there is a better way to approach divorce: It is possible to see it as a new beginning, an opportunity to learn about yourself and reinvent your life. So, how exactly do you learn to shift your thinking and rewrite your post-divorce storyline?

Deb Purdy is a transformational coach, speaker, author and workshop leader. She is also the creator of My Divorce Recovery Kit and the author of Something Gained: 7 Shifts to Be Stronger, Smarter & Happier After Divorce. In the book, Deb shares the process she employed to successfully transition out of her own 10-year marriage and eventually create a collaborative co-parenting relationship with her ex-husband.

Today, Deb sits down with Katherine to share the 7 shifts that helped her see divorce as a new beginning and thrive in its aftermath. She walks us through her transformation from feeling like a victim to taking ownership of her life and explains how she used the experience as an opportunity for personal growth. Listen in for Deb’s insight around rewriting your destructive post-divorce storyline and learn how to choose gratitude—and revisit it every day!

Topics Covered

Deb’s realization that her divorce could signal a new beginning

Deb’s transformation from feeling victimized to taking ownership

The 7 shifts Deb leveraged to gain strength from her divorce

1. Foundational shift

2. Shift intentions

3. Shift your story

4. Shift view of ex

5. Shift conversation

6. Kids are shifters too

7. Shift on

How to use divorce to identify how you show up in relationships

The value in rewriting your destructive post-divorce storyline

The challenge of teaching your friends and family how to support you

Deb’s vision of what she wanted her relationship with her ex to look like

Deb’s insight around setting the intention to learn about yourself

Connect with Deb Purdy

Deb’s Website: debpurdy.com

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/

Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/

Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246

Email: [email protected]

Call (914) 738-7765

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller

Email [email protected]

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

Something Gained: 7 Shifts to Be Stronger, Smarter & Happier After Divorce by Deb Purdy: https://www.amazon.com/Something-Gained-Stronger-Smarter-Happier-ebook/dp/B06XJTLCJ3