When a marriage is struggle, stuck, and painful, you are likely stuck in an unconscious relationship.  Unconscious dynamics continue to push and pull at both of you, leading to disagreement, dissent, and disdain.

But it does not have to get stuck there.  It is possible to make a powerful shift from an unconscious relationship to a conscious partnership.

There has to be a starting point, right?

Guess what? Just knowing that you are stuck in unconscious relating IS the first step.  Really, step zero.  Because until you are there, you can't take any further steps.  As with most things, once we recognize that something is the problem, we have taken a huge step in getting ready to take a step to resolve.

Strange, right?  Nothing has changed.  But everything has changed.  It is a paradigm shift.  And until you make that shift, you can't build into the new paradigm.

A full conscious partnership is your goal, whether you knew it or not.  You want to be powerfully shifting into a new level of partnership where the unconscious crap does not continue to sabotage your relating.  You want, instead, to be relating from a point of connection and consciousness.

Most people, at this point, tell me the "just don't have time or energy to devote to that."  Until I point out how much time and energy they are already devoting to the hurt, pain, and discomfort of where things are.  Might as well make sure the time and energy are more constructive than destructive.

In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, I interview Alexandra Stockwell about how you can begin to build a conscious partnership.  We discuss steps you can take to make a shift from the unconscious to the conscious.  (For the full interview, join Relationship Rewrite for access.)

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