This podcast gives you truly deep dives into attachment and helpful tools to build comfort with intimacy.  Is it possible to have unresolved trauma and still be operating securely in various relationships? Absolutely!!

You don’t have to be totally healed from years of therapy under your belt or a history of secure attachment to develop skills for increased intimacy and secure relating. This is something that anybody, no matter their history, can begin to learn. Channeling your inner awareness to recognize a heightened state of arousal or using visualizations to help stay in a regulated place helps tap into your right brain to connect with yourself and your humanity. Ann and Sue navigate their personal examples, self-regulating tips, breaking out of their defensive “competitive head”, and many more useful strategies to explore the ways we can move in the direction of secure connections.

3:06 – Introduction to attachment patterns

8:53 – Acknowledging the fluctuation of the attachment spectrum

11:56 – The definition of secure relating

27:09 – Using visualizations as a regulation tactic

29:01 – Abandoning your “competitive head”

34:13 – Utilizing the word “bookmark”

37:36 – The importance of preparing yourself for tough conversations

40:45 –  Implementing Gottman’s “soft starts”

42:45 – Navigating the coexistence of complex feelings

“How to Fight Smarter: Soften Your Starts” – Gottman Institute Article

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