Steven Butala: Steve and Jill here.

Jill DeWit:   Happy day.

Steven Butala:  Welcome to the Land Academy Show, entertaining land investment talk. I'm Steven Jack Butala.

Jill DeWit:     And I'm Jill DeWit, broadcasting from sunny, southern California.

Steven Butala:  Today, Jill and I talk about seeing something in a property that's not really there. Yesterday, we ended the show on talking about Jill's friend seeing something on a first date in a guy that's not really there.

Jill DeWit: Oh, my God. Whether it's a property or a man, it's kind of the same thing. Seriously. It's really kind of the same thing. Oh, my gosh. I had this job a couple of years ago, right when I met you, and I don't know how it happened, but I became the love counselor. You know why I think why? Because I was having a very good beginning of a solid relationship with you, Steven. So, it started with two girls and then it was four girls, and then it was like every Monday morning these girls would be gathered around my desk, sitting on my desk, gathered around in my office with their coffee, pouring over the details of what went on with you and I over the weekend.

Jill DeWit:  And I'm like, these poor women were starving for a good, solid relationship. So I would try to coach and talk to them about this. And all the things they were doing wrong was staggering. I mean, girls that would let guys move in after a month and then they wonder and then there's money missing. I'm like, are you flipping kidding me? And they're still trying to make it work. How does that make sense? And what happened... Well, usually how it was is that they would have one good date and they would say, this is it. I met the man of my dreams. I know it, I can feel it. I sense it. This is it, it's the guy. And so then date two, things that would normally should set up a little bit of a red flag, didn't even see it. And the date three, date four, they started ignoring all the red flags.

Steven Butala:  This is a show about real estate by the way. And we will get... Because that's what happens with these deals.

Jill DeWit:   It's true. That's what I'm saying. It's the same thing. It's all tied together. And then they're in too deep, and this happens in real estate too.

Steven Butala:  It's too late.

Jill DeWit:   Then it's too late. You made all the mistakes.

Steven Butala: It's real easy to get them to move in.

Jill DeWit: Yeah.

Steven Butala:  It's real hard to get them to move out.

Jill DeWit:   That's right.

Steven Butala:  I don't know that from experience. I read it in a book one time.

Jill DeWit: Yeah. Oh my goodness. That's funny.

Steven Butala:  Before we get into it though, let's take a question posted by one of our members on the landinvestors.com online community. It's free.

Jill DeWit:    That's good, it's like call it.

Steven Butala:   No, I do want to... We'll get into it.

Jill DeWit: Okay.

Steven Butala:    We'll just make it a real estate thing too.

Jill DeWit:   Okay, good.

Steven Butala:  Everybody can identify with what you're talking about on both sides.

Jill DeWit:    Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yep. Do men do that? Men don't... You don't go into it going-

Steven Butala:    It's funny listening to you say this stuff because what men, it cracks me up to hear women talk about men, because men walk around this planet constantly getting rejected by women.

Jill DeWit:  Interesting.

Steven Butala: Whether you're in a 22 years in a marriage, or whether you're two weeks into it, there's this constant sense of... And it's generally... It's never happened with you actually, but this is the real world out there. They're just like, "Well, she's upset again today. I didn't do that right. A restaurant I chose was not... Even though she told me to choose the restaurant.

Jill DeWit:   How am I going to let her down tomorrow?

Steven Butala:  Even though she told me to choose the restaurant,