Crime against women is on the rise, and it's something we all need to be aware of so we can protect ourselves. That's where today's guest, Joy Hoover, comes in.

With 13 years of experience as a safety activist, she and her husband, Phil, are leading a movement of humans who give a shit. From helping victims of human trafficking and domestic and sexual violence all the way to giving women tools to protect themselves while they are out.

Her biggest project is a new product that is coming out in Spring of 2023 - Liquid Lipstick. The lipstick features an airtight container with test strips to detect common date-rape drugs in drinks. It also has a button that connects through Bluetooth to the company's smartphone app, which will send alerts to trusted contacts and/or authorities.

Tune in to hear about Joy's background and what led her to this work, the work she has done to advocate for women's safety, and what to expect from Esoes Cosmetics.

Topics Discussed In This Episode:

1. Joy's back story of who is and what she's up to today

2. The stats regarding women's safety in the US

3. Why Joy and her husband decided to venture into safety work together

4. How Joy created Esoes Cosmetics

5. Highlighting the crime epidemic and changing it through Esoes Mission

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In today's episode, I am just super excited to welcome the truly remarkable Erin Keller to the podcast. Erin is a woman of many, many accomplishments in her life who has spent 20 plus years raising funds for worthy causes throughout her time in higher education, and is currently the Vice President of the Division of Advancement for Nevada State College. In this position, she leads a dynamic team that handles a vast number of responsibilities including development, alumni and community relations, marketing and communications, and event and creative services. I am also so pleased to note that Erin and I have enjoyed the opportunity to work together during her stellar career.

Throughout our conversation here today, we discuss the importance of support and strategy in achieving personal and professional goals, and Erin shares information about both her career and future plans. She also goes on to discuss her current role at the college, and her aspirations to teach full-time and eventually retire. Erin then recounts her experiences with her mental health, of getting divorced and how it led her to focus on finding joy in her life, and, together, we delve into the subject of raising children and the challenges that come with it. Join us today for this inspiring examination of career aspirations, self-discovery, and the importance of self-care and joy in our lives.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• Details about the She Doesn't Settle Group program
• Erin Keller and her journey to self-discovery and putting herself first
• Breaking out of the mold of the "good mom, good wife, good worker"
• The role that gratitude plays for her
• Not settling for the life you think you're supposed to live
• The journey of working through mental health challenges
• Her aspirations to teach full-time and eventually retire
• Erin's experience of getting divorced
• The episode touches on the subject of raising children and the challenges that come with it
• The importance of self-care and joy in one's life
• Erin's plans fo the future
• Saying 'Yes' to yourself and what will make you happy

Quotes:

"I want you to have support and a strategy and an understanding of who you are and what you want so that this year, 2023, can be the year that you get shit done, that you make a major change, that you stop settling."

"I was no longer just one of many, I was leading many. And that changed the dynamic of my world too"

"I ground myself every morning in gratitude and that's something that I've never done before."

"I am grateful that I took the step to put myself first."

"So it's not a short term look. This college has so much potential to grow, and it's so much fun to be a part of it."

"I got divorced a year ago, and I think there was a year for me to really focus on myself, focus on what makes me happy"

"I made the decision to say 'Yes' to myself and what was going to feed my soul."

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It's the first month of 2023, which means it's time to not only reflect on the absolute blur of time over the past couple years, but also dive into the important topic of acknowledging what to leave behind and take forward into this new year. It's also a good time to remind you all about the open enrollment for my She Doesn't Settle program, which helps you identify areas in your life where you may be settling and guides you in taking steps towards personal and professional growth. It's so important for all of us to reflect on our own experiences and you are cordially invited to access the link in the show notes and complete the assessment so that I can personally reach out to you and understand what kind of shift you may want to make in your life.

Throughout the episode I also discuss the importance of setting a theme for the year, which serves as a guide for personal and professional growth while tracking and measuring progress. I'll provide examples of possible themes like wellness, adventure, managing mindset, growth etc., and emphasize that the theme should support the goals you want to achieve and should be something that can cover all areas of your life. It is an intentional word or phrase that is set to guide one's decision making and progress which ultimately helps you grow. So listen in today and let's embrace this new year of not settling together!

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• The blur of time since 2020
• Looking back at the past years
• Acknowledging what to leave behind and take with you in the new year
• Enrollment for The She Doesn't Settle program
• The assessment that helps individuals identify what they want to change and move forward.
• Kelly's new Instagram handle
• The importance of reflection and goal setting in the new year
• Setting a theme for the year
• Some examples of themes
• Taking care of yourself

Quotes:

• "And in moving into a new year, we do a lot of reflecting when we're ready."
• "I want to remind you that you can do you."
• "I do believe in utilizing the prior year to help us think about what we want."
• "Maybe just think about those two things and what you want to leave behind."
• "The doors are open for the She Doesn't Settle Program."
• "It really just helps you identify where you might be settling and what could potentially help you move through that."
• "Creating a theme allows you to grow throughout the year."
• "For me, I'm toying around with the word 'connection'."
• "The theme should be something that can cover all areas of one's life."
• "It is an intentional word or phrase that is set to guide one's decision making and progress."

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In today's episode, I am so excited to welcome my very special guest Aviva Gordon to discuss the process of making changes in one's life and not settling for less. Aviva is a highly successful super lawyer who, among her many, many other achievements, has been included in the Distinguished Women of Nevada Book, is a member of the Nevada Women's Hall of Fame and the Bar Register of Preeminent Lawyers, and has been the chairperson for the Henderson Chamber of Commerce. She is also the mother to three children, enjoys a full life outside of her work, and just happens to be a past client of mine.

Throughout the episode, we will delve into the challenges and rewards of recognizing and addressing areas in which we may be settling in our lives. We also discuss the importance of slowing down and taking stock of our progress, as well as the steps we can take to make meaningful change. Together, Aviva and I draw upon our own personal experiences and the strategies we have learned to effectively deal with negative self-talk and toxic thoughts and share this valuable information with listeners here today. Aviva is also the perfect guest to have on the podcast as I share some news about the She Doesn't Settle Group program, which is currently open for enrollment, and a new program for past clients to continue their work with more accountability and support.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• Kelly's program for past clients
• Aviva's experience in the She Doesn't Settle Group program and the changes she has made in her life since participating
• Recognizing and addressing areas in which we may be settling in our lives
• Slowing down and taking stock of our progress
• Being aware of and managing one's inner dialogue
• What has helped develop skills for recognizing and responding to toxic self talk
• The purpose or function of negative inner dialogue
• Strategies for effectively dealing with negative self talk and toxic thoughts

Quotes:

"As you may know from listening to this podcast, the She Doesn't Settle Group program is open for enrollment and you can use the link in the show notes to take the assessment to identify what areas you may be settling in and what that is doing in terms of impacting other areas of your life and what you need to do to make change and how to start."

"We are all a work in progress. That's why I want to offer something to past clients, so we can continue to do the work not at the level in terms of time that the She Doesn't Settle program offers, but definitely consistent support and opportunity for that."

"Aviva speaks directly to this [making changes in your life and not settling]. She is an amazing person, very successful in her field of work, driven, ambitious. You'll relate to her."

"And most importantly, what you taught me was you can talk back to it. What was great about what you had done with us was prepare us to talk back to it. When the voice says this, how are you going to respond to it?"

"If there is nothing else that I can talk about from going through your program, it really is having the skills to recognize that toxic self talk and to confront it is still in my head. It's always going to go away. That's never going to go away."

"There is a reason that we have that. But it doesn't mean that you have to believe it, and it doesn't mean you have to listen to it all the time."

"Processing of what it was that some of the other women were sharing, and really the vulnerability that we all allowed ourselves to feel in that context, I suspect was something unique for all of us - to allow ourselves to be vulnerable and to really safely and collaboratively tease out whatever it was that was happening. "

"What I appreciate and what served the sort of logical part of my brain is that the information that you provide and the help that you provide is science based."

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We're switching things up on this holiday episode of She Doesn't Settle. My good friend and creative genius, Kelly Bennett, suggested a few weeks back that I should be interviewed on my own podcast, so that's just what we did today. You're going to love Kelly - she's a great interviewer who asks some really wonderful questions that just might shed some further light on who I am and why I do what I do. So listen in as Kelly and I discuss the present, losing faith in quick fixes, and familiar myths about ambitious women.

Today's episode was certainly a fun one for me. With Kelly B playing the role of host, we thought it would be helpful to share a few of my many She Doesn't Settle moments. Battling an eating disorder and leaving a toxic marriage (with 2 little ones in tow) are just a couple of the many experiences I have overcome and which I share with the audience today. As a Type A individual who used to feel like she wasn't doing enough, but who went on to become the strong woman who now celebrates the little wins, I want to show you that there is hope for all of us, even if it doesn't feel that way. Most importantly, though, I want to remind you all that it isn't too late to change, and quite frankly it never will be.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• The impact of settling
• Kelly's catalyst
• Career and relationship challenges
• Focusing on today
• Why it's not too late
• Myths about ambition and sacrifice
• Losing faith in quick fixes
• Finding what motivates you
• Celebrating little wins

Quotes:

'I was so obsessed with the validation of succeeding, of showing my worth, and my value that I didn't even hear the, 'You're not happy… You're settling in these areas."

"I never actually did that internal work to recover. So for the next 12 years, I still battled with the eating disorder. I relapsed multiple times and just really struggled with letting go and being able to recover. It wasn't until I got pregnant with my first son where I really realized, 'Okay, holy sh*t, Kelly, you have got to figure this out.'"

"​​Anybody who's been in an abusive relationship knows that it's really easy to feel like it's your fault, because they do a good job of making you think it's your fault."

"We do a really good job of convincing ourselves that we should have already done it; Like there's no time anymore. I'm sorry, but unless you are like 95, and maybe even that is not a fair statement, you can still make change."

"The Enneagram has been a part of my coaching practice for the last three years because it is a tool that allows me to understand who I'm working with, but also to support my clients in understanding who they are, validating who they are."

"We are conditioned to set goals based on what society tells us we should want or what is ingrained in us from childhood."

"I will tell you that those little goals lead to very big changes, because both of those women ended up making even bigger leaps with other parts of their lives as a result of these small goals."

"How awesome is it that you don't have to do it alone anymore? For so many ambitious women, we tend to take everything on ourselves."

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It's Never Too Late

In this week's brief episode of the She Doesn't Settle podcast, I want to talk to you all about that sense of dread we feel when we fear our dreams are overdue. As I record this episode, I'm about to lace up to run another marathon. And that's no small feat given my toxic relationship with the sport during my collegiate career. Many of my listeners might not know that I developed a severe eating disorder that ended my collegiate career. The point is that it took me years to overcome an illness and return to the sport that once brought me so much joy.

I, like most adults in their 40s, 50s, and 60s, was tired of listening to the voice in my head that said it was too late to pursue my dreams or even start pursuing a new one. I had to give myself grace to start over. So as I'm about to return to another race, I figured that now was a good time to remind you that, no matter how many setbacks you've had, it isn't too late. So listen to today's episode as I tell my story, and use it to inspire yours. And last but not least, remember that, even though your goal may seem far away, the messy middle is where the magic happens - don't forget to enjoy the journey along the way.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• My toxic collegiate career
• Overcoming an eating disorder
• Returning to running
• Shifting dreams
• Enjoying the process

Quotes:

"By the end of my freshman year, he had written up a contract for me. And he said, 'Travis, if you lose X amount of weight by the time you come back in the fall, you will get x, y and z."

"Every time I tried to return to running or racing competitively, I would relapse. So I stopped racing all together."

"And from that I had something to prove. I had to walk away from my running career way too soon, not in the way I wanted to."

"I've really been able to prove to myself that it's never too late to go after those old dreams or to create new ones, and we can change what those dreams look like to fit where we are in our life. It's never too late."

"That messy middle is really where all the magic happens. That's where you prove to yourself over and over again how badass you are."

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On this week's episode of the She Doesn't Settle podcast, I talk about expectations, what happens when we fail to meet them, and why we often pursue the wrong goals. Have you ever set a goal or had high expectations for yourself that you never realized? Chances are it didn't make you feel good, and you probably beat yourself up for it. The thing is when expectations differ from reality, we let it derail us completely. Sometimes we even reach our goal and realize that we're no happier than we were when we started working towards it. It turns out that many of us don't know how to set sustainable goals, and that's just what I want to talk about today.

In today's episode, I walk you through healthy ways to set goals and expectations and the value of resilience. See, real growth takes place when plans go awry–when you're gasping for air while running that marathon or not getting the raise you think you deserve. It's all about how you learn from these lessons and navigate their roadblocks. So instead of expecting perfection in your life, welcome adaptability, redirection, and resilience with open arms. Most importantly though, join me on today's She Doesn't Settle episode to hear about some of my great failures, a certain someone's Thanksgiving meltdown, and how you too can start pursuing the right goals.

The Finer Details of this Episode:

• When expectations differ from reality
• Pursuing the wrong goals
• Setting realistic and sustainable goals
• Adaptive expectations
• When plans go awry
• Learning resilience

Quotes:

"We can have everything planned out and try to nail it. Sometimes everything falls apart, or other stuff is going on; things get derailed. It happens. So we can either shame ourselves, get mad at ourselves and fall apart, or we roll with it."

"If we have this idea of what is going to happen, and I'll walk through some examples, then we expect that thing to happen. And then what if it doesn't? Expectations are what we think will happen, and reality is what actually happens. While we hope these two will be the same, they often are not."

"Having a set idea of what you want or need from a situation is another way that expectations play out."

"Your expectations may cause you to think that achieving certain goals will bring joy, satisfaction, and all of those things. Sometimes, these predictions are wrong, which means that we're pursuing the wrong goals."

"He kept saying, 'I never want to do this again. I don't want to do this again next year.' Because at that moment, his experience was so bad. But we can't let one derail experience– one expectation that was not met - keep us from continuing to move forward."

"I think it's important to note and acknowledge that sometimes our expectations, when we do meet them, don't actually give us the feelings that we thought we were going to get. And that's a harsh reality."

"Whether you succeed or fail, your overall expectation should simply be to learn as you go, to navigate those nasty barriers, and to pivot and move forward."

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Hi there, everyone! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of the She Doesn't Settle podcast. Today, I'd like to talk to you about the power of community. If you're currently a part of a healthy community, then you already know very well the difference it can make in your life. Being a part of a community can lift you up when you're down, it can push you to become a better version of yourself, and it can support you on your path to success. That being said, when you don't have anyone in your life to be there for you and cheer you on, it can be detrimental to your mental health. That's why it's absolutely vital to find your tribe.

In this episode, I talk about my new 'She Doesn't Settle' group program, where I gather strong women who want to take their lives to another level together. Whether you want to get unstuck, make a big career shift or work on your self-image, you will have a much better chance of success if you have support along the way. And that's exactly what the 'She Doesn't Settle' program is here for. If you want to hear more about it as well as learn about the most significant benefits of being a part of a supportive community, make sure you join me in this week's episode!

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• 'She Doesn't Settle' group program
• The importance of community
• The benefits of being a part of a healthy community
• Lifting each other up

Quotes:

"I didn't realize how much I needed community until a certain time in my life when I was trying to make change, create change, and having the right support system. Having the right people at that time is so helpful."

"Our communities can either make us or break us."

"What I love about community is that our strengths may be someone else's weaknesses and vice versa. "

"We need to make sure that we're surrounded by people who are cheering for us, who aren't selfishly going to try to sabotage or hold us back."

"With so much stress in this chaotic world we are living in, there's never been a more important time to have support when you are struggling or when you are working on something hard and scary."

"What will happen if you don't, if you just keep staying safe and stuck? What will happen a year from now, two years from now?"

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Hi there, everyone! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of the She Doesn't Settle podcast. Today, I'd like to share with you an important lesson, and it's about the importance of doing hard things in life. Let's face it, nobody wants to do the hard thing. It's natural that you want to pick the easy path in life; after all, you're wired this way. Your brain wants to protect you from danger, and it's designed to keep you safe. So, when you're faced with a scary challenge or an uncomfortable decision, your brain will want to keep you as far away from it as possible. However, sometimes you need to do those hard things in life to be happy and healthy.

This week, I'd like to share with you the biggest benefits of leaving your comfort zone and doing those uncomfortable things. Even though staying in your comfort zone seems nice and cozy at first, nothing ever grows there. So, if you want to build new skills and reach new levels of excellence, you need to challenge yourself more. In this episode, I'm also going to give you some practical tips for tackling hard things and growing outside of your comfort zone, so if you're ready to grow, let's go!

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• 'She Doesn't Settle' group program
• Growing outside of your comfort zone
• The importance of doing hard things
• Changing your perspective and challenging yourself

Quotes:

"Just because you're not good at something is not a reason not to do it. In fact, it's probably a really good reason to do it so that you can get better and you can show yourself that you can do something and get better. "

"There's something called the hedonic principle, which comes into play; we're wired to move toward things that make us feel good, and we're wired to move away from things that make us feel uncomfortable."

"When we move through life, it's important to remember that the easiest path isn't usually the best path. "

"When we do hard things, it just builds resilience."

"We have to remind ourselves that as we progress, what we think is hard now is going to seem easy later."

"You're giving your brain a choice, you're deciding, and you can make either decision. But whatever you decide, own that decision. What happens, though, is when you can articulate the benefit, what one means over the other, we can get our brain to understand why doing the challenging thing is better."

Links:

She Doesn't Settle Podcast

She Doesn't Settle - The Experience: www.kellytravis.net/sds

Instagram: www.instagram.com/shedoesntsettle/

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In today's episode, I want to talk about three key traits we all need to become our own best coaches: flexibility, self observation, and support. As a woman who wears many hats, namely those of mom, entrepreneur, athlete, and host, it's important to me to support others and myself. And what I've learned is that giving yourself advice is more often than not the hardest thing to do. At the end of the day, we are our harshest critics. So that's why today I want to talk about listening to our minds and bodies, balancing flexibility and discipline, and most importantly, supporting ourselves.

I discuss small and big changes you can make in your daily life to help you grow and glow. From writing plans in pencil and honest reflection skills to the pitfalls of positivity and disciplined flexibility, I speak very candidly about self-coaching, because I know how challenging it can be. So listen in today, not only to learn about how you can become your biggest ally, but also about a very special program starting in January.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• The value of flexibility with discipline
• Writing plans in pencil
• Self observation
• The importance of honest reflection
• Being supportive

Quotes:

"I want you to be the coach you need, because inevitably, we are usually better to others than we are to ourselves."

"Because when we're rigid, it goes against our ability to grow; it goes against our ability to move forward, because we get stuck in that. And that is not helpful for anybody. And so what I want you to remember is nothing is set in stone."

"So be honest with your response, and then decide what you want to do with that information. So if you're exhausted and just feeling mentally spent, then maybe you know, take a break."

"I am the kind of person who's going to go hard all the time until I hit that wall. I've done it before. It's just who I am. It's my makeup. So I have to have these guardrails in place."

"Peace begins with me."

"Remember to practice self-observation. Tune in, be honest with how you're feeling– how you're doing. Try not to judge, use that information, and do something with it."

"Be flexible around your plan, right, not rigid. You can still be disciplined and flexible at the same time."

Links:

She Doesn't Settle Podcast

She Doesn't Settle - The Experience: www.kellytravis.net/sds

Instagram: www.instagram.com/shedoesntsettle/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kellythealth/

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