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Your daughter just got pulled after one mistake. Here's exactly what to do. Grab the free training here - https://trainhergame.com/mom đź’›Â
If you've sat in those bleachers watching her slump on the bench, frustrated for her AND with the coach, this video is for you.Â
🙋‍♀️ Hi, I'm Coach Bre, a certified Mental Performance Coach and former collegiate athlete with 14 years of coaching experience, including 4 state championships. I'm also the co-founder of The Elite Competitor and host of the Raising Elite Competitors podcast, where I help sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game so they can perform their best when it matters most. Â
In this episode, I'm giving you the inside perspective on why coaches pull athletes, and more importantly, what your daughter can actually do about it.
Here's what you'll learn:
âś… Why venting with your daughter about the coach puts her in a victim mindset (and what to do instead)
âś… How to help her separate her performance from her worth
âś… The 2-second Snapback Routine that helps athletes reset before coaches lose confidence in them
✅ 🚦 The traffic light framework coaches use to decide who stays in and who comes out
âś… What your daughter can always control - even from the benchÂ
The athletes who earn more playing time aren't always the most talented. They're the ones who reset fast, keep their chin up, and show the coach they're ready. Here's how to help her become that athlete.Â
đź’¬ Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction: The Pulling Problem
00:56 What NOT to Do as a Parent
03:30 What TO Do: Separate Worth from Performance
06:34 Give Her a Skill: The Snapback Routine
10:59 The Coach's Perspective11:48 Having Conversations with the Coach
13:05 Control What You Can Control
13:38 Wrap-Up and Next StepsÂ
đź’¬ Moms - comment below: Has your daughter ever gotten pulled after one mistake? What did you do in that moment?Â
📌 Resources & Tools
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
đź’ś Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emgÂ
đź””Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitorsÂ
P.S. A few stats worth knowing:Â
⚡️ 70% of youth athletes quit sports by age 13 - with girls leaving at significantly higher rates than boys, most citing eroded confidence as the primary reason. (Aspen Institute, Project Play)
⚡️ Athletes with high athletic identity are more vulnerable to emotional distress following reduced playing time - meaning the athletes who care most are often hit hardest when they get pulled. (Journal of Sport and Exercise Psychology, Brewer et al.)
⚡️ Athletes who use consistent pre-performance reset routines perform 22% more consistently under pressure than those without one. (University of Chicago, Sports Psychology Research)Â
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Your daughter just got pulled after one mistake. Here's exactly what to do. Grab the free training here - https://trainhergame.com/mom đź’›Â
If you've sat in those bleachers watching her slump on the bench, frustrated for her AND with the coach, this video is for you.Â
🙋‍♀️ Hi, I'm Coach Bre, a certified Mental Performance Coach and former collegiate athlete with 14 years of coaching experience, including 4 state championships. I'm also the co-founder of The Elite Competitor and host of the Raising Elite Competitors podcast, where I help sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game so they can perform their best when it matters most. Â
In this episode, I'm giving you the inside perspective on why coaches pull athletes, and more importantly, what your daughter can actually do about it.
Here's what you'll learn:
âś… Why venting with your daughter about the coach puts her in a victim mindset (and what to do instead)
âś… How to help her separate her performance from her worth
âś… The 2-second Snapback Routine that helps athletes reset before coaches lose confidence in them
✅ 🚦 The traffic light framework coaches use to decide who stays in and who comes out
âś… What your daughter can always control - even from the benchÂ
The athletes who earn more playing time aren't always the most talented. They're the ones who reset fast, keep their chin up, and show the coach they're ready. Here's how to help her become that athlete.Â
đź’¬ Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction: The Pulling Problem
00:56 What NOT to Do as a Parent
03:30 What TO Do: Separate Worth from Performance
06:34 Give Her a Skill: The Snapback Routine
10:59 The Coach's Perspective11:48 Having Conversations with the Coach
13:05 Control What You Can Control
13:38 Wrap-Up and Next StepsÂ
đź’¬ Moms - comment below: Has your daughter ever gotten pulled after one mistake? What did you do in that moment?Â
📌 Resources & Tools
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
đź’ś Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emgÂ
đź””Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitorsÂ
P.S. A few stats worth knowing:Â
⚡️ 70% of youth athletes quit sports by age 13 - with girls leaving at significantly higher rates than boys, most citing eroded confidence as the primary reason. (Aspen Institute, Project Play)
⚡️ Athletes with high athletic identity are more vulnerable to emotional distress following reduced playing time - meaning the athletes who care most are often hit hardest when they get pulled. (Journal of Sport and Exercise Psychology, Brewer et al.)
⚡️ Athletes who use consistent pre-performance reset routines perform 22% more consistently under pressure than those without one. (University of Chicago, Sports Psychology Research)Â
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