Blessed + Bossed Up

Silence + Solitude


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In this deeply personal episode of Blessed and Bossed Up, Tatum returns after finals season to continue the book club series on The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer.

This conversation explores the first practice for “unhurrying” your life: silence and solitude.

From motherhood and entrepreneurship to law school and spiritual formation, Tatum shares how busyness, noise, and constant stimulation can quietly disconnect us from the presence of God — and how reclaiming moments of stillness can transform our spiritual, emotional, and mental well-being.

She unpacks:

  • Why boredom used to be a gift
  • How technology keeps us spiritually distracted
  • Learning to practice God’s presence in everyday moments
  • Why the wilderness is not weakness, but strength
  • The difference between solitude and isolation
  • How internal noise impacts peace, anxiety, and emotional health
  • Why silence is essential for healing, clarity, and abiding in Christ


This episode is both a conviction and an invitation: to slow down, reconnect with God, and create rhythms that cultivate peace instead of chaos.

Key TakeawaysBoredom Was Once Sacred

Before smartphones and endless stimulation, boredom created space for creativity, imagination, reflection, and connection. Today, we often fill every quiet moment with scrolling, entertainment, or mental noise — missing opportunities to connect with God.

God Is Present Beyond the Prayer Closet

Tatum reflects on a revelation that changed her relationship with God: His presence isn’t confined to designated “quiet times.” Through the Holy Spirit, God is present while washing dishes, driving, making coffee, or watching children play.

The Wilderness Is a Place of Strength

Referencing Jesus in the wilderness, this episode reframes difficult seasons not as punishment or weakness, but as places where God’s strength is revealed most powerfully.

Silence Is More Than External Quiet

True silence includes:

  • External silence (turning off noise and distractions)
  • Internal silence (quieting worry, fantasies, overthinking, anxiety, and mental chatter)
Solitude Is Healing

Solitude is not isolation. It is intentional time with God where healing, self-awareness, conviction, and restoration take place.

Discussion Topics from This Episode
  • Practicing the presence of God in ordinary moments
  • The emotional impact of constant stimulation
  • Why high-achieving women often struggle with silence
  • Internal criticism, perfectionism, and vulnerability
  • Creating rhythms of rest instead of cycles of burnout
  • How Jesus modeled retreat, prayer, and solitude
Mentioned in This EpisodeThe Ruthless Elimination of Hurry

A powerful book exploring how hurry, distraction, and overload are shaping modern spiritual life — and practical ways to slow down and reconnect with God.

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As Tatum prepares for a move, she discovered a limited inventory of some fan-favorite resources that are officially back while supplies last.

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A devotional created to help believers grow spiritually, stay anchored in faith, and build consistent time with God over the course of 90 days.

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