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When Joe Gow was fired from his position as chancellor and professor at the University of Wisconsin at La Crosse, his superiors said it was due to “abhorrent” behavior. Joe had made porn videos with his wife Carmen and uploaded them onto the internet under the name “Sexy Happy Couple.” 

This week, Joe and Carmen tell their side of the story and explain how making porn spiced up their marriage. They also defend themselves against the argument that what they did was inappropriate. 

Slate writer Dan Kois’ previous interviews with Joe Gow:

You can check out our previous series about erectile dysfunction, called Hard, here. 

Podcast production by Cameron Drews. 

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On this episode: Jamilah and Zak talk about the popular kids. A member of the Slate Parenting Facebook group has a daughter who’s become obsessed with being popular… even though she doesn’t seem to fit in with those kids. 

We’ll help her out and then check in and share what’s on our minds this week. Then, if you’re hanging out for the Slate Plus Playground, we’re taking a look at a recent article listing some slang the teens are apparently using.

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Zak’s check-in: Rumi.

Jamilah’s check-in: getting the itch. 

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Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by Traci Thomas, the creator and host of the critically acclaimed literary podcast The Stacks.

Together, they answer questions about dealing with rude stepchildren, loving but not liking your sister, and being sick and tired of watching other people’s kids.

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This week’s podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario.

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On this episode: Zak, Lucy, and Elizabeth sit down with Dr. Sheilagh Maguinness — a board-certified pediatric dermatologist, an entrepreneur, and a social media star. 

This episode is your one-stop shop for all things skin. We’ll talk about sun protection, rashes, acne, and whether our tweens and teens really need all of those Sephora products.

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On this week’s show, Slate’s Dan Kois sits in for Stephen Metcaff. The hosts discuss the new Mr. & Mrs. Smith-like film Black Bag, starring Cate Blanchett and Michael Fassbender. Then they dive into the “inconvenient” Hulu show Deli Boys. They end by discussing the legacy of Dave Eggers’ phenomenal memoir A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius.

Endorsements:

Dana: The television show A French Village

Dan: Stone Yard Devotional by Charlotte Wood

Julia: LATimes article “I'm a martini purist. Here's what is — and isn't — in the perfect classic cocktail.” by Bill Addison

Podcast production and research by Vic Whitley-Berry. Email us at [email protected].

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Music streaming services like Spotify offer huge libraries of songs and albums—with recommendation engines that can feel unadventurous and repetitive. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace welcomes online tastemaker and podcast host Derrick Gee to discuss the shortcomings of music streaming algorithms. And, they sit down with R.J. and Brie—two music fans from different generations—to offer up tips for finding hidden gems and obscure jams that might reinvigorate your own music-seeking journey.

Recommendations from this episode:

Internet radio: KEXP (Seattle), KALX (UC-Berkeley), NTS Radio (UK), and KVRX, “None of the Hits, All of the Time” (Austin, Texas)

Podcasts and online features: Speaks Volumes With Derrick Gee, Bandsplain, NPR’s Song of the Day

Derrick G’s playlists

If you liked this episode check out How To Write the Perfect Breakup Song (with special guest Ben Folds). 

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In 2020, we made an episode about a listener who cheated on his wife with sex workers and was going through a divorce. He told us the idea to go on the website Seeking Arrangement came from an episode we made about sugar babies. A few weeks ago we called “Ethan” back to see what’s changed in his life since our first conversation, and how he navigates discussions about his past infidelity with his new wife.

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On this episode: Jamilah, Lucy and Elizabeth answer a question about separation anxiety. This listener’s 7-month-old is already showing signs of what looks like some serious discomfort with anyone who’s not mom or dad. But with a no-kids wedding coming up, this mom is wondering how to help her daughter get more comfortable with other people. 

We’ll help her out and then check in and share what’s on our minds this week. Then, if you’re hanging out for the Slate Plus Playground, we're talking about what to do to help the homeless… and how to get your kids involved.

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Jamilah’s check-in: denial but also book 

Elizabeth’s check-in: milky bottles and outsourcing 

Lucy’s check-in: the preteen serenity prayer 

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Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by comedian and actress Heather McMahan.

Together, they answer questions about believing abuse accusations, getting in the middle of a sibling’s relationship, and making boundaries with a friend.

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On this episode: Elizabeth, Lucy and Jamilah talk about secrets. A member of our Facebook community recently asked how you should handle it when a kid confides in you… and asks you not to tell your co-parent. Is her current no-secrets policy solid, or should she maybe reconsider? 

And after that discussion, we’ll of course circle up for a round of triumphs and fails.

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