The Neurodivergent Experience

Slow Burn Meltdowns: The Meltdown You Don’t See Coming


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In this episode of The Neurodivergent Experience, Jordan James and Simon Scott are joined by hypnotherapist and breathwork practitioner Ashley Bentley to explore slow burn meltdowns — the kind that build quietly over time rather than exploding all at once.


They discuss how ongoing pressure, unmet needs, and emotional overload can simmer beneath the surface for weeks, months, or even years before reaching breaking point. From returning to work after a break, to parenting, health stress, and unspoken expectations, they unpack how slow-burning meltdowns often go unnoticed until it’s too late.


Jordan shares how these meltdowns show up in children, especially in safe relationships, and why behaviour is often misread as attitude or defiance. Ashley reflects on how stress, comparison, and “pushing through” can disconnect people from early warning signs, while Simon talks about recognising the pattern only in hindsight.

Rather than quick fixes, the conversation focuses on awareness, naming what’s happening, nervous system regulation, and compassion — for ourselves and for our kids.


They discuss:


  • What slow burn meltdowns are and how they differ from explosive ones
  • Emotional and physical warning signs
  • Alexithymia, rumination, and overload
  • Parenting and why meltdowns happen in safe spaces
  • Childhood pressure, burnout, and long-term survival mode
  • Expectations, comparison, and delayed breakdowns
  • Regulation, support, and recognising the signs earlier


A validating conversation about noticing meltdowns before they erupt — and learning how to support neurodivergent nervous systems with less shame and more care.


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