Tom I. from Southern Pines, NC - speaking at the 22nd Annual Men's Fall Retreat in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada | September 17th-19th 2010
Tom reflects on the strange transition from being the youngest AA member everywhere he went to now being “the oldest rat in the barn,” a role that carries both responsibility and humility. He emphasizes how deeply the Traditions have shaped his life—often more than the Steps—because they guide unity, relationships, and how we relate to the world. Through honest stories of anger, restraint, leadership, conflict, money, service, anonymity, and personal conscience, he shows how the Traditions protect groups and individuals from ego, gossip, power struggles, and misplaced motives. His biggest accomplishment is modeling what real spiritual maturity looks like: acting for the common welfare rather than himself, carrying the message across prisons, planes, states, and even to strangers in need, and demonstrating that AA’s strength lies not in rules but in humility, service, and the quiet grace of doing the next right thing.