soju with sarah

happy new year!! and happy last episode of season 1.5 :) thank you to all our amazing soju shotties for a wonderful and meaningful middle season where we talked about all things life transitions, personal growth, relationships & so much more ~ fridays will be a lil different while we're gone but we hope y'all use this new season of life to grow and learn more about yourselves (and reflect on what we've talked about in previous seasons) ❤️ thank you for making this such a safe space and see y'all in season 2!

today's specialty drink on the menu: spiked egg nog

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:05:36) drink of the day

(00:07:00) our years in review

(00:11:05) the art of delayed gratification

(00:15:05) lack of follow through will kill your self confidence

(00:17:02) the hustle is not "glamorous"

(00:20:50) every decision has an opportunity cost

(00:24:01) growth is really uncomfortable

(00:25:42) moving the f* out of here

(00:28:13) building a home together

(00:29:37) becoming grounded again in things again

(00:31:01) working on something together

(00:34:11) allowing myself to focus

(00:35:42) parting & sappy words

(00:38:12) *caution*

(00:39:16) bloopers

happy holiday season to all our soju shotties! it's the second to last episode of season 1.5 and we're excited to be celebrating this holidays by wrapping up the year and setting our new years resolutions together ~ today's episode will be a mix of an end-of-year audit alongside some reflections for the upcoming year ~ so grab your mugs and cheers to 2026!

today's specialty drink on the menu: spiked egg nog

chapters

(00:00:00) preview

(00:01:59) drink of the day!

(00:02:30) the 2026 lock in

(00:04:08) season update!

(00:06:03) my 2026 playbook

(00:10:58) my roses

(00:12:32) my buds

(00:13:54) my thorns

(00:15:13) why's and why nots

(00:20:40) who do you want to be?

(00:22:58) who i want to be

(00:26:24) navigating doubt from other people

(00:38:34) setting up your plan

(00:42:17) outro

(00:42:48) bloopers

it's a week for the juicy j's! in this episode, our (almost) favorite co-host james dives into the never ending quest to fit in ~ a vulnerable conversation about friendship, finding a sense of belonging, and what it means to "fit in." so grab your mugs and get cozy to navigate this feeling of trying to our people and most importantly, ourselves!

today's specialty drink of the day: miso soup

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:01:33) drink of the day

(00:03:14) today’s topic

(00:04:34) james’s story

(00:08:19) identity search through other people

(00:12:21) identity whac-a-mole

(00:13:52) intermission

(00:20:29) the never ending quest to fit in

(00:24:39) james’s relationship with sarah

(00:26:27) different friends for different reasons

(00:26:48) holding yourself back (because of social life)

(00:28:11) the “self”

(00:31:00) on loneliness

(00:32:57) what fills your cup?

(00:35:31) outro

(00:37:27) bloopers

happy soju friday, soju shotties! this week, we're bringing back our greatly requested advice column to help you navigate your 20s and now...30s 🥲 all about dealing with toxic friend groups, setting boundaries and even how to function as an adult (results may vary)

today's specialty drink of the day: peach soju

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:01:21) welcome back!

(00:04:53) drink of the day

(00:06:33) advice column (preface)

(00:07:14) how to function as an adult

(00:19:31) how to get a handsome guy like james

(00:20:48) toxic east asian friend groups??

(00:32:03) i don’t drink alcohol & friends think it’s uncool

(00:40:25) career advice: what to do when you can’t say no

(00:54:35) bloopers

today we’re diving into the simple habits that have helped me thrive (and not just survive) in my 20s ~ we're chatting friendships, money & systems that will set you up for success :)

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today's specialty drink on the menu: soy latte

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:01:48) drink of the day

(00:02:53) thanksgiving / small business update

(00:06:38) end of year plans

(00:08:28) habit 1: building up organized systems

(00:12:14) habit 2: the pursuit of “coolness”

(00:15:46) give people a chance

(00:16:36) disclaimer!

(00:17:13) habit 3: save money

(00:23:28) saily!

(00:24:24) habit 4: reframe things

(00:29:53) habit 5: have a learner’s mindset

(00:35:13) podcast recommendations

(00:38:55) habit 6: learn to do things alone

(00:43:10) outro

happy thanksgiving, soju shotties! 🦃 this week, we're keeping it short and sweet for our annual gratitude episode where we share some random, (very) serious, and not so serious things we're most thankful for…but we turn it into a competition, so we invite you to be the judge of who has the best list. may the most grateful host win!

today's specialty drink on the menu: lemon soju with cream soda

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:02:26) drink of the day

(00:03:42) weekly updates

(00:04:45) why we made 31 burritos

(00:07:35) sarah's grindset era

(00:10:18) disclaimer

(00:11:14) grateful for recipes

(00:12:15) james’ sad story (on angular cheilitis)

(00:14:43) moose is all grown up now!

(00:16:50) grateful for torrent (iykyk)

(00:17:45) mariah carey i love you

(00:19:50) costco trail mix i love you

(00:20:29) cut the cameras

(00:20:54) grateful for cool hair

(00:22:37) grateful for community

(00:23:51) grateful for becoming my own person

(00:26:29) it's giving...thanks

(00:27:06) outro

(00:28:16) bloopers

happy soju friday! we’re aware there’s many artists in our community so today we’re diving into all the chaos of passion vs. structure, how it is dating an artist and all the messiness that comes with building your own career path and a relationship at the same time…oof!

specialty drink of the day: plum soju seltzer

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:04:03) drink of the day

(00:08:51) the "artist type" & where we fit in here

(00:10:37) growing together as people and creatives

(00:12:46) the beauty of a morning coffee

(00:14:37) the work feels duplicated

(00:17:08) artists & businesses & emotions, all together

(00:21:46) it gets messy

(00:24:21) no structure in work, no structure in life

(00:27:21) respect & understanding

(00:29:28) our self-built bubble

(00:31:45) working as an artist

(00:42:17) the public is scary

(00:46:33) carving your path

(00:49:55) parting words

(00:51:54) outro

(00:52:15) bloopers

happy soju friday! it’s been six months since i took a leap of faith and quit my corporate job and the journey brought many many lessons ~ this week we’re diving into the real and messy side of running a small business and trying to juggle life without burning out and embracing imperfection. spoiler alert: it’s kinda rough

today's specialty drink on the menu: red wine 🍷

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:03:12) update on quitting my job

(00:10:36) my weaknesses

(00:14:44) asking for help is hard (for me)

(00:16:33) investing in my own business

(00:20:52) growing from my weaknesses

(00:22:29) i’m the owner of my own time now

(00:25:55) the exhaustion that comes with freedom

(00:30:25) why do i have something to prove?

(00:36:21) imperfection is also ok

(00:39:32) perfectionism comes with restriction

(00:41:11) learning to say no to myself

(00:44:43) loneliness in self-employment

(00:48:53) realizing i can’t do it all

(00:52:05) outro

(00:52:49) bloopers

happy soju friday! now that halloween's over, we put the costumes away and got in our feelings for this week's episode. today we're talking about family dynamics and that new stage in your 20s where your parents don't need to parent anymore and you get to know them again—this time, as just humans.

today's specialty drink on the menu: oat latte

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:02:08) drink of the day

(00:03:10) our family dynamics

(00:05:09) who’s the glue of your family?

(00:08:16) call your parents!

(00:09:55) james’ story

(00:12:44) religion & family

(00:15:04) i want my parents to be my friends

(00:19:26) joy’s story

(00:34:56) traveling with 3 generations

(00:44:51) parents becoming children

(00:48:20) maslow’s hierarchy of needs

(00:50:34) lessons & thoughts

(00:52:06) anticipatory grief

(00:54:15) sorry for the trauma dump!

(00:56:34) bloopers

happy halloween soju shotties! today we dive into an emotion we all feel but are scared to admit: jealousy. we'll talk about what it means, where we think it comes from, if we could even use it for good and what does it truly reveal about you. so grab your mugs and let's get honest! (scary)

today's specialty drink on the menu: plum soju seltzer

chapters

(00:00:00) intro & life updates

(00:04:06) drink of the day

(00:04:47) oversharing (again)

(00:11:17) last time we felt jealous

(00:14:10) what do you get jealous of?

(00:16:16) is your jealousy benign or malicious?

(00:17:22) where our jealousy comes from

(00:18:24) jealousy in relationships

(00:21:40) examples, studies & observations on jealousy

(00:26:30) social comparison theory

(00:31:26) do you compare up or down?

(00:32:43) naming my haters

(00:35:04) can you be happy AND jealous?

(00:39:07) scarcity mindset in jealousy

(00:41:14) some college lore (my stolen idea)

(00:45:29) how do you navigate jealousy?

(00:51:37) why are we millenials

(00:52:48) parting words

(00:54:14) bloopers