hello from korea! today we're tuning in from asia and sharing some reflections we've been making / having / discussing while on this trip ~ for some soju shotties who aren't aware, james is actually korean and i (sarah) am chinese! through the years, we've both made active efforts to learn and inquire more about each others cultures but even then, it can be hard! so strap in, grab your soju mug and let's chat!

drink of the day: somaek 소맥

chapters

(00:00:00) preview

(00:06:36) does it matter if there are cultural differences?

(00:11:23) personal identity (as an ABC / banana)

(00:19:44) is cultural differences a dealbreaker?

(00:23:54) what language do we teach our kids?

(00:31:13) intermission snack!

(00:43:37) the perks of being korean

(00:45:00) why sarah feels comfortable in korea

(00:46:54) a funny story in japan

(00:51:47) yearning for a cultural experience

(00:54:29) soju tasting event??

(00:58:24) james is tipsy

(01:01:45) bloopers

welcome to today’s spicy episode where we answer a controversial question, “do you miss being single?” while there’s no clear answer to this, we do dive into the nuances of being single vs. in a relationship and our realities back when we had more “relationship independence” ~ for all of our soju shotties out there that are single, let us know your thoughts!

today's specialty drink on the menu: mixed berry greens

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:06:34) do you ever wish you were single again?

(00:10:01) independence & freedom

(00:18:56) being in a relationship is the new norm

(00:20:07) is life “more boring?” In a relationship

(00:24:07) friendships are different

(00:29:26) missing your “single self”

(00:30:54) what I DONT miss about being single

(00:35:37) self doubt & single hood

(00:38:50) what if we were not in each other’s lives?

(00:43:59) to our single soju shotties

(00:45:17) bloopers! (recent movie recs)

we're focusing on the male perspective today as our co-host james takes the stage to share his experience navigating love, relationships, dating, and the big ol' question of long term commitment. today he answers some hard hitting questions like his ideal type, why he never dated before sarah and how he overcame his fear of commitment ~ grab your drinks and strap in because today's episode is a juicy one ~

today's specialty drink on the menu: hana makgeolli

chapters

(00:00:00) preview & intro

(00:04:36) the male perspective

(00:05:24) james' dating history & backstory

(00:12:22) what was your ideal type?

(00:14:28) love & dating in college

(00:18:53) a dating word of advice

(00:25:37) the fear of commitment

(00:32:32) our big *breakup*

(00:37:45) being vulnerabilities & dating insecurities

(00:40:46) dating & building confidence

(00:44:12) parting words of wisdom

(00:46:12) the shame of being a bad partner (in the past)

(00:48:46) MARRIAGE DISCLAIMER

(00:51:14) bloopers

today we're chatting about mindset shifts as we entering our 30s ~ while 30 is still a few years away from me, the 20s can be a confusing & challenging period leading up to it. i've personally had my own existential crises in this time (as y'all have probably witnessed) so today let's break down the little bits of our late 20s that challenge us!

today's specialty drink on the menu: pink lemonade

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:04:13) the idea of turning 30

(00:06:48) learning more about yourself

(00:08:13) caring less about opinions

(00:11:00) aging and self-care

(00:12:36) health is wealth

(00:16:02) listen to your body

(00:17:55) my attitude towards career

(00:24:10) time feels scarce

(00:27:59) deciding what friends matter

(00:30:25) standards for my partner

(00:34:12) outro

today we're talking about family dynamics & growing up in an immigrant household ~ this is a topic that is near and dear to our hearts so we're diving into all things familial responsibilities, commitments & what we truly owe our families. so grab your mugs and let's chat!

today's specialty drink on the menu: yogurt soju

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:03:01) do you owe your parents?

(00:12:37) why do parents feel entitled?

(00:16:26) vicarious dream fulfillment

(00:24:36) pressure to help siblings or partners

(00:27:22) pressure from relatives

(00:32:38) being selfish

(00:33:21) good parenting tactics

(00:38:22) what do we owe our family?

(00:44:01) what do we *not* owe our family?

(00:50:51) bloopers

welcome to another soju friday! for today's episode, i compiled pieces of life advice that i've found personally useful and uplifting~ hope y'all enjoy :)

today's specialty drink on the menu: lilikoi passion soju

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:02:49) fail small, not big

(00:04:28) fall forward rather than backward

(00:05:24) ask stupid questions

(00:07:48) luck needs preparation

(00:12:38) just do it as a joke

(00:14:55) accept criticism selectively

(00:18:35) dealing w/ jealousy

(00:19:35) rant about grammar

(00:20:37) two minute rule

today we're having a fun chat about fashion, style & self expression ~ there will be one too many cringey outfit pics, some *lighthearted* roasts & deep dives into our fashion evolutions :)

today's specialty drink on the menu: melon jelly soju

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:09:10) drink of the day

(00:10:07) james' relationship to personal style

(00:14:45) sarah's relationship to personal style

(00:23:54) fashion & style as a creator

(00:29:13) intermission & fashion ROAST

(00:50:31) don't throw away old clothes!

(00:57:12) style tips

(01:07:54) bloopers

read all our soju shotty 💕vday💕 submissions here! ➭ https://sojuwithsarah.com

from high school sweethearts to complete sociopaths, from soulmates to exes who didn’t even know your name—this episode is a rollercoaster. we’re diving into wild dating stories, rekindled romances, matchmaking fails, and love advice straight from the soju shotties. buckle up for some unhinged, hilarious, and heartwarming moments. 💕

today's specialty drink on the menu: orange mango bikkle

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:06:27) high school sweethearts

(00:09:30) a complete sociopath

(00:12:35) meeting your partner online

(00:14:44) ex doesn't know my name

(00:16:50) driving 2 hrs for first date

(00:20:36) charging your ex

(00:23:40) are we soulmates?

(00:29:14) matchmaking for friends

(00:30:53) friends to lovers

(00:35:32) rekindling love

(00:39:49) love advice from soju shotties

(00:54:31) outro

(00:56:51) bloopers

today we're talking about being "cool" - the pitfalls and distractions that "coolness" creates in our lives. we talk about living in nyc, the death of subculture, and what to prioritize in life. get ready for another friday of putting us on your incognito browser at work, minimizing the window, and listening to the dulcet tones of our voices as you pretend to work on this beautiful day :)

today's specialty drink on the menu: pear soda

(00:00:00) intro

(00:02:04) "trendy" cities

(00:05:21) drink of the day

(00:08:13) episode topic

(00:11:47) does sarah care about coolness?

(00:18:29) are we cool?

(00:22:06) just do what you want

(00:25:57) attractiveness = coolness

(00:27:14) first impressions

(00:29:24) coolness never lasts

(00:32:32) outro

(00:35:49) bloopers

the tea is piping hot today! today we're bringing you a long overdue advice column where we talk all things relationship, life, and career based on submissions from our wonderful soju shotties (shawties). get ready for an hour of riveting discussion and maybe even a cameo from our pawducer. have a lovely soju friday! :)

today's specialty drink on the menu: red wine

chapters

(00:00:00) intro

(00:07:34) i sold my house, quit my job...

(00:23:10) relationship breaks

(00:32:18) unsupportive friends

(00:43:03) committing to *one* interest

(00:55:39) my partner is depressed

(01:03:55) bloopers