Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay

Some Things To Consider To Make Dating Easier-Dr. Kenneth Roberson


Listen Later

For more then 20 years, Dr. Kenneth Roberson has been providing therapy for both autistic individuals and neurodiverse couples and he also conducts ASD assessments.. During this episode he shares some of the topics he discusses with clients to provide support and guidance for autistic clients who want to have successful dating experiences. Some of the topics addressed include:

  • The importance of focusing on and using your individuals strengths in the dating process (ie: kindness, thoughtfulness, honesty)
  • Focus conversation on areas of mutual interest.
  • Become aware of the triggers that may lead to a meltdown and avoid going to places that may lead to triggering reactions.
  • Understand your sensory sensitivities and plan a date that will be sensory friendly. Make sure the place you are meeting works for both of you.
  • Don't try to be something you 're not and exhaust or overwhelm yourself.
  • Pace yourself. Socializing requires a lot of energy and you may have to recharge your social battery.
  • Be patient with the dating process. It takes time to get to know someone and for them to get to know you.
  • Ask thoughtful and relevant questions without making the conversation an interview.
  • To show interest, respect and to make a connection, you may want to prepare some questions before the date.
  • Trust your suspicions, if something or someone seems "off" you can leave the date or end it.
  • Think about and get clear about what you want in a partner before you begin dating.
  • You may want to ask friends to help you write an online dating profile, as they may help you recognize some of your strengths that might be important in the dating process.
  • Determine if you want to share some of your autistic traits on your dating profile, or if you want to state that you are autistic and share what that means for you and what you are looking for in a partner.
  • Meeting for something casual for a first meeting...like a cup of coffee or a walk, instead of a formal date.
  • Fear of rejection during dating is normal. People will get rejected and ghosted. Each time it happens we have an opportunity to learn and grow and move forward to find someone who is a better fit for us.

  • You can contact Dr. Roberson by email at: [email protected] or check out his website at: www.kennethrobersonphd

    ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

    If you are interested in learning more about the support groups that Mona offers for neurotypical/non-autistic partners or neurodiverse couples, please email her at: [email protected].


    If you would like to subscribe to the Neurodiverse Love newsletter go to: www.neurodiverselove.com


    Also, if you are interested in buying a deck of the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards, the digital deck is now available for $11.  ⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠ to buy your deck today.


    Lastly, if you missed the Neurodiverse Love Conference you can get unlimited access to the 27  AMAZING  pre-recorded conference sessions

    for only $98. ⁠⁠Click here ⁠⁠to buy unlimited access to all the presentations today.


    Thanks for being a part of the Neurodiverse Love Community!

    ...more
    View all episodesView all episodes
    Download on the App Store

    Neurodiverse Love with Mona KayBy Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay

    • 4.5
    • 4.5
    • 4.5
    • 4.5
    • 4.5

    4.5

    35 ratings


    More shows like Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay

    View all
    ADHD Experts Podcast by ADDitude

    ADHD Experts Podcast

    1,299 Listeners

    Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children by Debbie Reber

    Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

    962 Listeners

    Therapist Uncensored Podcast by Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP & Ann Kelley PhD

    Therapist Uncensored Podcast

    1,378 Listeners

    Neurodiversity Podcast by Emily Kircher-Morris

    Neurodiversity Podcast

    414 Listeners

    ADHD for Smart Ass Women with Tracy Otsuka by Tracy Otsuka

    ADHD for Smart Ass Women with Tracy Otsuka

    1,500 Listeners

    THE AUTISM ADHD PODCAST by Holly Blanc Moses

    THE AUTISM ADHD PODCAST

    632 Listeners

    Unlocking Us with Brené Brown by Vox Media Podcast Network

    Unlocking Us with Brené Brown

    23,599 Listeners

    Uniquely Human: The Podcast by ART19    Uniquely Human

    Uniquely Human: The Podcast

    410 Listeners

    Meet My Autistic Brain by The Autistic Woman™

    Meet My Autistic Brain

    291 Listeners

    The Neurodivergent Woman by Michelle Livock and Monique Mitchelson

    The Neurodivergent Woman

    138 Listeners

    Healing Cassandra by Margot  Alexis

    Healing Cassandra

    19 Listeners

    ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast by Kate Moryoussef

    ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast

    176 Listeners

    YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd by Jodi Carlton, MEd, LLC

    YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd

    27 Listeners

    AuDHD Flourishing by Mattia Maurée

    AuDHD Flourishing

    101 Listeners