Have you realized yet that you can't parent a teenager the way you parented them as a child? It's a hard truth. After your kid hits puberty, if you keep trying to manage them and parent them the way you did when they were a child, things will not go well.

Parenting a teen or tween the way you parented them as a child, will guarantee years of power struggles and behavior problems. Instead, you must learn to pivot and give your teen or tween more control, more respect and more power to make decisions (as well as mistakes).

So many parents get this wrong and then struggle for years trying to figure out how to get their teenager to behave the way they want them to. The answer? Change your own behavior.

Other episodes in this series 130, 131, 132, 134, 135, 136, 137

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Why? Why? Why? Why do teens do the things they do? As the Parent of a teenager, you're probably used to asking yourself this question. If your teen or tween has ever done anything they've always promised they'd never do, you're in good company.

The way the adolescent brain works...well, let's just say, it can be baffling for parents. So, learning the "Why" behind your teen's thoughts, emotions and behavior is extremely import. It allows you to have more empathy, regulate your own emotions about their actions and therefore reign in the conflict. Join me in this episode and you're going to be ahead of the game!

Other episodes in this series 130, 131, 133, 134, 135, 136, 137

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This is Day 2 of an 8-part series to explain the foundational principles of parenting teens. These are the "basics" that you need to understand to parent your teenagers with less conflict and more connection (plus have more influence in their lives and even change their behavior).

Today, I continue talking about the changes occurring  in your teenager's brain.  Today, I continue talking about the changes occurring  in your teenager's brain. Specifically, I'll explain how their amygdala (the emotional center of the brain) is super sensitive, which causes them to be much more emotional - as in angry, frustrated, annoyed, irritable, moody, grumpy....

 Other episodes in this series 130, 132, 133, 134, 135, 136, 137

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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

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Do you ever think, "Why would they do that?" "Why are they so irrational?" "Why can't they just do what they're supposed to do when they're supposed to do it?"

You and every other parent with a kid between the ages of 10 and 25 have, no doubt, had these thoughts several times a day, most days of the week! It's baffling and frustrating to think your teen or tween could do better and chooses not to. But is that actually what's going on?

Join me in this first episode of an 8-part series to explain the foundational principles you need to understand to parent your teenagers with less conflict and more connection, plus have more influence in their lives and even change their behavior. I kick off the series explaining why your teen has less control over their thoughts, feelings and behavior than you think.

Other episodes in this series 131, 132, 133, 134, 135, 136, 137

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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

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The number of things we have to warn our teenagers and children about these days can be overwhelming. And when it comes to the wild, wild, west of the internet, it seems there's something new every few months.

As much as we'd like to think these things can't happen to our teens, they can and do - everyday. There are many extremely depraved individuals online who make it their job to target, groom, and extort kids and teens. They pose as someone your child's age, gain their trust, trick them and then either force them to do things online or extort them for money. It's unthinkable, but very, very real and happening across the globe.

Don't think it can't happen to your teenager or your child. It happens every day to families who felt the same way. Join me today as I explain what's going on, how to talk to your teens about it and what to do if the unthinkable happens.

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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

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It seems that there's just no end to the things that parents of teens and tweens have to worry about these days. And technology seems to always be up there at the top of the list, somehow.

Well, today I'm going to talk to you about something that's probably not even on your radar (but really should be); AI generated child pornography. Your teenager could literally be walking down the hall at school, minding their own business while a classmate generates a pornographic image of them, using their fully-clothed and totally innocent image.

Listen in to learn what AI generated porn is, how it happens, what the laws says and what you can do about it.

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Thoughts lead to emotions, which lead to actions. If we don't take time to examine our thinking, we can become stuck in some very unproductive cycles in parenting our teenagers (and in other relationships).

Just because we think something doesn't make it true or correct. And if our thoughts are untrue, what does that mean for our emotions and behavior?

Today I talk about how cognitive biases, distortions, assumptions and shortcuts in our thinking can keep us can keep us from parenting with intention. The more you think about your thinking, the more emotionally aware you become, which leads to greater emotional regulation.

Other Episodes Related to Parent Emotions

1, 8, 10, 30, 65, 77, 78, 96, 100, 102, 107, 120

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

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What the heck is going on down at the convenience store or corner vape shop? They're selling something that looks a whole lot like marijuana, cannabis, or weed. And this stuff (otherwise known as "gas station weed") can get people even higher than the marijuana sold at the legal dispensaries that contain the high-producing, delta-9 THC.

Even worse, this stuff is being sold legally to teens in many states! What is it? It's delta-8 THC, delta-10 THC, HHC, THCA, THCO and other chemically extracted hemp derivatives, which are mostly unregulated (and contain no telling what).

I'll explain what these substances are, where they come from, how they're legal and what you should do if you find your teen is smoking it or "real marijuana".

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Other episodes that will help you deal with your teen and substances

Episode 16 Collaboration and Cooperation

Episode 22 Discipline and Consequences

Episode 39 Lying

Episode 42 and 43 Drug-proofing Your Teens

Episode 60 Substance Use and Abuse

Episode 122 When Your Kid is using drugs

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Today's episode has been a long time coming. Getting your teen to do what they're supposed to do (or not do what they're not supposed to do) is a sticking point for so many parents. You probably feel like a broken record most days and then still can't get the cooperation you want (and many times end up in arguments and power struggles).

Well, in this episode I review a) the basics that you need to understand even before you try to get cooperation, b) what you shouldn't do and, c) different methods you can try for cutting back on the conflict and getting them to cooperate. You'll want to listen!

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Today's episode is a "feed drop"! Lauren Wolfe, host of Your Zen Friend, is dropping into our podcast feed to bring you a special episode of her podcast, addressing an issue you likely know all too well; attitude, disrespect, eye rolls, etc.

Lauren has graciously agreed to let me air this fabulous episode as I am still dealing with my ailing mother this week. So, listen up because Lauren is going to talk about the best ways to respond to your teenager's "back talk" and explain why the way you may usually respond, is not so helpful. You're going to get a lot out of this episode.

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