How "up in your teen's business" do you get? How much is too much monitoring, snooping, digging and tracking? Do you let them know you're going to be doing checking on them up front? Or, are you more of a covert operator? Do you know what difference it all makes? A lot. One of the most important things to a teenager (or a tween) is their autonomy. And if you threaten that, you'll be locked in never-ending power struggles. Find out how to navigate balancing your parental control with their need for autonomy and privacy.

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Internet PORN. Yep, that cell phone your kid has in their hand at all times – it’s where they’re getting their sex education. By the time your kid is 9, 10, maybe 11, they’ve either accidentally or intentionally seen some sort of pornography online. And we’re not talking the innocent porn of a few decades ago. Nope, some of this stuff is nightmare-inducing and can be very damaging to kid and teens. What do you do? Well, today’s guest, Amy Lang, a sexual health education expert, podcaster, author, and all-around wonderful human, is going to lay it out for you. And, you HAVE to give her podcast, Amy Lang’s Just Say This, a listen immediately! OMG – just the best thing ever to listen to for understanding how to talk to your kids, tweens and teens about sex (like EVERYTHING about sex!!!)

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

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Has your teenage son or daughter asked you to let their boyfriend or girlfriend sleep over all night? In their bedroom? No? Well, it might just happen yet. And if it does, you don't want to be caught off guard. You want to know what to consider before giving your answer - no matter what side of the  fence you're learning towards right now.

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

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When you’re struggling with your teenager’s behavior (they’re acting out, angry, sneaking out, smoking weed, drinking, getting in trouble at school, etc.) you just want it to stop. So, you try consequences, you yell, you lecture, you punish, you take their cell phone away, over, and over and over again. And at some point you may reach out to a therapist, an organization or a treatment facility to do something to “straighten your teen out”. The problem is, you’re focused on the wrong thing.

Listen as Aaron Huey (a powerhouse of support for parents of kids who struggle) explains what he's learned from 25 years of experience in helping teens and families heal.

Beyond Risk and Back Podcast
Beyond Risk and Back Parenting Masterclass
Aaron's Parent Coaching Packages
Contact Aaron
BRAB on Insta
BRAB on Facebook

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

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Full transparency:  This important episode, aired first on August 11, 2023. It's worth hearing again if you've heard it before!

If you’ve never heard the term authoritarian parenting, it’s just a way of parenting where the parent generally insists on blind obedience to strict rules. It may involve physical punishment like spanking or hitting, usually harsh non-physical punishment (like taking property or privileges for long periods of time or for the slightest infraction), and psychological control like shaming, threatening, yelling, intimidating.

THIS is not the type of parenting that instills trust, connection and long term "good behavior" in your teen. As a matter of fact, it will only do the opposite.

See also, Episode 1 and Episode 10
Parenting Science: Authoritarian parenting outcomes: What happens to the kids?
About Gwen Dewar

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

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You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!

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This episode deals with suicide and suicide prevention but contains no specific stories of suicide. It’s a crucial topic for parents but, of course, please listen with care.

Suicide Hotlines:
USA Lifeline 988
USA Crisis Text  741-741
USA Suicide Prevention Lifeline and Chat for the Deaf or Hearing impaired. Or use your preferred relay service, or dial 711 then 1-800-273-8255
Canada 1-833-456-4566
United Kingdom 116 123
Australia 13 11 14
International suicide hotlines

Teen suicide is obviously not something we like to think about. But because it happens all too often in young people, we must be educated and face it head-on. On today’s episode I talk to AnneMoss Rogers, a mental health keynote speaker, mental health and suicide education expert and suicide loss survivor . AnneMoss lost her 20-year-old son to suicide in 2015, but rather than telling her story today, she focuses on what you can do to become more aware and proactive regarding your teen (and even their friends.) Listening to the show today could literally save someone’s life. Be sure and share❣️

To connect with AnneMoss:
http://emotionallynaked.com
https://mentalhealthawarnesseducation.com
FB: https://facebook.com/EmotionallyNaked
LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emotionallynaked/
YT: https://youtube.com/c/AnneMossRogers/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/annemossrogers/
TW: https://twitter.com/AnneMossRogers

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scro

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Oh, we've all been there. Those giant explosions of teenage emotion. Those moments when you want to run out the door, get in your car (alone) and head to a country with no extradition treaty.  Well, either that OR you want to body slam your kid (just kidding of course...), maybe scream at them though, cry or take that dang phone away like forever!

Let me help you with this just a little bit. We're going to talk about gaining a little empathy for your teens that will, in turn, help you keep from losing your $h*!.

Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child (Gottman)

Ep 6

Ep 8

The Social Neuroscience of Empathy

“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence” (now called "Emotion Coaching")

“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)

“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be rea

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Okay, don't say you don't. Well, maybe you don't if you have one of those teenagers you never have to remind about homework or studying because they just love school and love reading and love studying... count yourself lucky! The rest of us out here are worried our unmotivated or uninterested teen will be lucky to get into any college, much less the "college of their dreams" (if they even "dream" about college at all!)

But that worrying and stressing and fussing and punishing - it's not doing you or your teen any good. And there are tons of reasons you should back off. I'm going to give you several today.

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show. 

If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!

Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. 

You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!

The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

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It happens all too often. And it's scary for parents. Teenagers, in middle school and high school, are pretty likely, at one time or another, to sneak out of the house in the middle of the night. Yes, it's dangerous but try telling them that. How do you make sure your teen is not the one climbing out the window and down the gutter to go take a joy ride with a friend at 1 am? Well, there are actually several things you can do (and none of them involve surveillance cameras or bells on their bedroom windows.) But what if they've already snuck out? Then what should you do? Well, if you think more monitors, grounding them for life or hiring a security guard will do the trick, I've got news for you...

Edited to Add:
YouTube Video on the brain

Ep #15
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Ep #7

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show. 

If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!

Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. 

You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!

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I’ve mentioned secure attachment in several previous episodes. We sometimes lump this very scientific concept under general terms like having a “good relationship” or “strong connection” with our kids and teens. This concept of secure attachment is the basis for these more general terms. It’s about first understanding and then meeting our kids', teens' and tweens' needs. If we don’t meet those needs, we see dysregulation,  anxiety, depression, mistrust, etc.

In today’s episode I talk to Laurie A. Couture, a licensed mental health counselor, child trauma specialist, child advocate and author. Laurie drives home the concept of secure attachment and how unmet needs and trauma (small and large) can lead to insecure attachment with your teen…and how you can repair it.

Follow Laurie:
https://www.facebook.com/LaurieACoutureAuthor/ 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurieacouture/ 

https://twitter.com/LaurieACouture 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGdDsqfg_Fu5dCl98OLZ36Q

https://laurieacouture.com/

https://laurieacouture.substack.com/p/young-male-suicide-the-epidemic-no

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show. 

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Thank you

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