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Today's episode is about communicating with your teenager. Parenting a teen is far from easy. But remaining calm when they open up to you about something critical - well, it can be extremely difficult (but so important if you want to remain their primary "influencer.")

Related episodes: 8, 26, 57


FREE GUIDES for parents of teens and tweens:
“Emotional Awareness Strategies” (for parents)
“Why Doesn’t My Teen Sleep?” (e-book)
“6 Things You Should Understand About Your Teen”
“Helping Your Teen Overcome Negative Thinking”
"Talking to Your Teen About Sexting"

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If you've ever been curious about "tapping", now's your chance to learn everything you need to know about this evidence-based, therapeutic self-help technique. The Emotional Freedom Technique, otherwise known as "EFT" or "EFT Tapping" has been scientifically shown to help children, adolescents, and adults with all manner of mental, physical, and emotional pain. Have you ever heard of it or seen anyone practice it? It looks a little bit odd, and I was admittedly skeptical, but the evidence is clear – it works! It helps with anxiety, panic attacks, depression, PTSD, weight issues, physical pain and so much more. So, join me today to learn more about this extremely simple practice that may just be able to help you and your teen break through some complicated obstacles.

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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative. Today's episode is all about rules about rules!

Related episodes: 15, 16, and 22

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. 

You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!

Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)

The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

Check out the podcast on YouTube!

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If you haven’t listened to episode #70, you might want to go back now and listen before returning here. 

Perhaps you’ve been there; sitting on the edge of your 15-year-old daughter’s bed while she cries and pleads with you not to make her go to school because she “just can’t.” Or maybe you’ve stood outside the bathroom door while your 13-year-old son intermittently throws up and yells that he’s “never going back to that school!”

 Statistically speaking, you may have had an experience like this or you may just be in the position before it’s all said and done. School refusal or school avoidance – different terms for the same thing – simply means your kid will not go to school or will not stay at school all day long. It’s a horrible position for a parent to be in and the schools generally don’t make it any easier. 

Enter Jane Demsky and her School Avoidance Alliance. Jayne has certainly been there with her son – around four years was spent with her trying to figure out how to get her son back in school. 

Show Notes and Transcript
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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. 

You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!

Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)

The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

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Normally, Friday is a bonus episode, but you've been waiting on this one! Today is the first part of the recent conversation I had with Jayne Demsky of The School Avoidance Alliance and you don't want to miss this or the second part coming Tuesday 9-19. If you've ever dealt with a stressed out, anxious or depressed teen or tween that just couldn't go to school, we've got some great information for you in these two episodes! 
The following resources are from Jayne:

• School Avoidance Master Class for Parents (includes Parent Peer to Peer Support Group)
• Educator Professional Development course, Everything You Need to know to Get Your Kids Back to School
• Our private FB group for families
• For School Avoidance Families; The Ultimate Guide to Working with Your School (Provides guidance on how to work with your school and includes simple explanations of special education and disability laws, 504 plans, Education Plans- IEPs and School Intervention teams)
• Our website: www.schoolavoidance.org 

Helpful places to find therapists who are experienced in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, some will be trained in exposure therapy:

www.Abct.org

www.iocdf.org (even though this is the OCD foundation, mental health providers that treat OCD are usually trained in CBT w Exposure. These listings may be mostly partial and inpatient programs)

Beck Institute Cares-clinician directory 

We have a partnership with leading school avoidance clinicians at www.lumatehealth.com They are experienced therapists that do CBT w Exposure via telehealth. Say referred from Jayne from School Avoidance Alliance. Right now, only for the states of NY, CA, FL, and NJ, and coming soon to NC , CT, MD, NC, and PA

Other good places to find anxiety clinics who may be experienced in CBT are hospitals and universities in your area.

Show Notes and

Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)

The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

Check out the podcast on YouTube!

Email Ann at [email protected] 

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Middle school sucks for most kids. They feel awkward, embarrassed by everything, want more than anything to fit in and be part of the crowd. And navigating friendships can be ridiculously difficult...but when you throw smart phones in the mix, it's next-level.  

 On today’s episode I talk to Jessica Speer, the author of three wonderful books for kids and teens, who has two teenage daughters herself. She has a masters in social sciences, but what really makes her an award-winning author is her knack for writing that connects with her readers. Her books  Middle School (Safety Goggles Advised), BFF or NRF (not really friends), and The Phone Book, are packed with quizzes, choose your ending scenarios, stories, and secret codes…because she knows what she’s competing with. 

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Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)

The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

Check out the podcast on YouTube!

Email Ann at [email protected] 

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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (maybe a little less formal).

Mattering Movement
Never Enough, When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic-And What We Can Do About It   (Jennifer Breheny Wallace)
Greater Good Magazine article

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If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!

Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. 

You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!

Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)

The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

Check out the podcast on YouTube!

Email Ann at [email protected] 

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While it's impossible to be a “perfect parent” to your teen or tween, there are certain mistakes we can avoid...and it's crucial to your relationship with them, their overall wellbeing and their eventual success that you learn them now.

The parenting mistakes I talk about in this week’s episode lead to lots of unnecessary conflict between you and your teen and can cause or increase a teenager's bad behavior. I’m talking about issues that impact the way we interpret and understand their behavior, the way we handle ourselves during stressful interactions with our teenagers, our mindset and approach to discipline and how much deference we afford them in how they live their lives.

Show Notes and Transcript
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

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If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!

Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. 

You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!

Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)

The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

Check out the podcast on YouTube!

Email Ann at [email protected] 

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Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack   

Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)

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Every Friday we're dropping a BONUS episode. Shorter but no less informative (maybe a little less formal). Check out these guides to help you go deeper:
“The Challenging Adolescent Brain” (e-book)
“Communication for Teen Cooperation”
“10 Keys to Unlock Your Teen’s Emotional Intelligence” (now called "Emotion Coaching")

Show Notes
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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show. 

If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!

Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. 

You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!

Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)

The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

Check out the podcast on YouTube!

Email Ann at [email protected] 

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Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack   

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How well can we really know our teens? Of course, when they’re little we know everything just by default - we know them to their core. But when they become adolescents, our relationship naturally shifts, they want and need more privacy and it becomes much easier for them to hide bits and pieces of themselves from us. Do you think you’d know if they had an enormous secret? One they feel might be just too hard for you to understand and accept (like being gay)? Tune in today for my interview with Heather Hester, another mom who’s really been through the ringer with her son, who came out as gay during his teen years – and learn how they handled this “secret.”

You can learn more about Heather’s speaking, corporate consulting and coaching at chrysalismama.com and check out her podcast Just Breath: Parenting your LGBTQ+ Teen and the Just Breathe community

Show Note and Transcript

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"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener

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If you’re listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!

Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!

I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they’ll be ready for you in your app. 

You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!

Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)

The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50!

Check out the podcast on YouTube!

Email Ann at [email protected] 

Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram  

Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack   

Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)

See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen