Staying Uncomfortable

Mahatma Gandhi said "Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong". 

Not forgiving someone is the equivalent of staying trapped in a jail cell of bitterness, serving time for someone else's crime.

Forgive and forget? Keep in mind that forgiveness is not the same as forgetting. Forgiveness does not entail pretending that offenses have never happened.

"Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself to be able to sleep at night."

Some questions we ask:

1. Why is someone living rent free in your brain? (1:00)
2. Have you let someone know that they intentionally or unintentionally hurt you or suffered in silence? (3:00)
3. Have you reached out to someone that you have hurt and apologized? (12:00)
4. Have you ever looked in the mirror and said 'I forgive myself'? (16:00)
5. If someone can forgive their neighbor for accidentally killing their son, what is our excuse? (18:00)

In this episode, we discuss techniques, from letter writing  to conversation closure, to forgive someone else and yourself.

Forgiveness is hard work but it is worth it. It simply means letting go of pain and baggage from the past. If you forgive someone and yourself, you are doing this for your physical and emotional health.

You can lighten the burden that transgressions have left upon you. The power of forgiveness will set you free!

Today is the harvest of yesterday's seeds.

Your mind is a garden.

Your thoughts are the seeds.

You can grow flowers.

Or you can grow weeds.

Everyone has heard the saying 'As you sow, so you shall reap'.

If you sow crabgrass, how can you expect to reap pineapples?

The fact that we reap the harvest of our lives is rewarding for people with good habits but daunting for others who mistreat others. People often expect perfection with minimal investment.

"Life is an echo. What you send out comes back"

Some questions we ask:

1. In a relationship, can you discern between pure unconditional intentions and false motives? (4:00)
2. Do you understand your partner's love language? (5:00)
3. Have you cultivated friendships that help you flourish or plant seeds of uncertainty? (10:00)
4. If you want a good friend, are you a good friend? (11:00)
5. If you are striving to be a millionaire, do you have the work ethic of a minimum wage person? (14:00)
6. Are you taking advantage of the wealth of free knowledge at your fingertips? (16:00)
7. Do you want to eat delicious or look delicious? (16:00)
8. Are you the best version of yourself in all facets of life? (19:00)

In this episode, we discuss how you can plant the right seeds today so that you can have the garden you want tomorrow.

If you want to be treated well, then treat others well. If you want to be loved, then love others.

Imagine what the world would be like if there were a domino effect of rippling kindness.

What you put into life is what you get out of it!

How can you banish your momentary stress and anxiety? Start by practicing gratitude!

You can't feel sadness and disappointment around the past or future when you feel grateful.

Not only does gratitude gives you confidence to reflect on your achievements, it opens you up to receiving.    

"Learn to be thankful for what you have, while pursuing what you want"

Some questions we ask:

1. What is our excuse for not being appreciative? (1:00)
2. When you recover from a cold, are you grateful that you can breathe again? (5:00)
3. Do you acknowledge the friends and family you are thankful for? (9:00)
4. Do you perceive obstacles as growth opportunities? (10:00)
5. What is your gateway to gratitude? (12:00)
6. If you think of life as a book, are you happy with the chapters you have lived? (16:00)

Helen Keller said it best when she said: "So much has been given to me, I have no time to ponder over that which has been denied."

In this episode, we discuss the foundation of Staying Uncomfortable: Gratitude. Tune in as we delve into the what, how and why of gratitude.

When you focus on your blessing, you tend to be happier, healthier and experience a deeper sense of fulfillment.

What is your attitude towards gratitude?

What came first: the chicken or the egg?

Similarly, happiness and success are interrelated but can be confused for one another.

Once you achieve success, you will be happy right? What if it is all backwards?

"Is success happiness, or is happiness success?"

Some questions we ask:

1. Do you define professional success by the number of zeros in your paycheck vs. work-life balance? (2:00)
2. If you are single, are you trying to be in a relationship because society defines success as partnership? (5:00)
3. Does the person that you are with complete you or enhance your life because you are already complete? (8:00)
4. When you look in the mirror, are you happy physically, mentally and spiritually with what you see? (11:00)
5. When you think about quantity vs. quality, are the last 5 people that texted you fuelling your fire and radiating positive energy? (13:00)
6. Does material success trump good memories in humble times? (16:00)?

In this episode, we discuss how we should define success in our career, relationships, physical appearances, friendships, homes and so much more!

"Success is not the key to happiness, happiness is the key to success.  If you love what you are doing, you will be successful."~ Albert Schweitzer

Society does not dictate your success and you are the master of your own destiny!

Robert Schuller says "Tough times don't last, tough people do."

Mental toughness is a measure of individual resilience that helps you prevail in difficult circumstances.

What are you doing to train your brain?

"The winner at the top is the one with the strongest mental game"

Some questions we ask:

1. Why waste energy on things that you can't control, including baggage from the past? (1:00)
2. What do you get completely lost in doing and what calls to your soul? (2:00)
3. If the majority of people who don't care about your decisions, why seek their approval? (4:00)
4. When you are alone, do you listen to the demon that tells you to eat pizza when you are trying to get in good shape (7:00)
5. Did you know that our podcast has been in the making for 2 years?  (12:00)
6. What if you compared yourself to who you were 5 years ago and measured your progress? (13:00)
7. Are you thankful that you are able to eat and walk? (16:00)

In this episode, we tap into the top 9 practices that you can emulate to build mental muscle.

1. Don't make complaints or excuses.
2. Invest energy in the present.
3. Do not devote your energy on pleasing others and follow your bliss.
4. Don't give up because failure should be reframed as an opportunity to learn and improve.  
5. Enjoy your alone time and get to know yourself.   
6. Be prepared to put in hard work because the world owes you nothing.
7. Don't expect instant gratification and  instant results because patience is a virtue.
8. Your body can determine how your mind functions.
9. Modify unhealthy self-limiting beliefs
10. Practice gratitude because there is so much to be thankful for.

Be persistent. Be patient . Show up on your journey. Mind over matter!   

I'll be happy when...I lose 10 pounds

I'll be happy when...I get married.

I'll be happy when...I get my dream job

I'll be happy when...I buy my dream house.

I'll be happy when...I have children.

I'll be happy when...I can retire.

"Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have" ~Buddha

We tend to predict that our happiness is derived from a future event. As soon as that future event provides temporary excitement, we soon replace it with another happiness milestone.

In reality, we should have gratitude for the steps taken to get to this point and be thankful that we know where we want to go.

"You'll never be happy if you don't enjoy the process"

Some questions we ask:

1. Life is a staircase. If you are at step 200 and anticipate happiness at step 750, how do you know if more steps are guaranteed? (2:00)
2. When you meet a potential partner, do you disqualify them based on superficial criteria or focus on how they make you feel? (10:00)
3. If you will be happy when you get a new job or your business takes off, what are you doing to get to that point? (12:00)
4. If you reach the top of the ladder, what if you realize you are climbing the wrong ladder? (13:00)
5. Are you surrounding yourself with people who talk about other people or people who talk about vision? (14:00)

In this episode, we examine and banish the "I'll be happy when" statement in our relationships, physical, materialistic, career goals.  

The next time you catch yourself saying "I'll be happy when..", replace it with "I'm happy because".

Instead of predicting happiness at  a future benchmark, be happy now because there is no guarantee in tomorrow.

You are exactly where you need to be for a reason and can get anywhere you want to be in if you enjoy the process. Don't worry, be happy:)

In this episode, Kaivan speaks from the place that completely changed his life perspective. He realized the true value of gratitude, patience, and pain. This place is absolutely free to visit, and if you haven't been there already, you are very likely to go at least once in your lifetime.

There are phrases we say and phrases we think. Did you know that these determine the reality you create now and in the future? In this episode we discuss the 4 toxic phrases that you must remove to have an amazing life. Additionally, we go through the way you can reframe these phrases anytime they pop up in your head.

Did you know that your success in life is proportionally dependent on the number of uncomfortable conversations you'll have? In this episode we discuss the type of uncomfortable conversations that you must have in your relationships, and your career to have the best life.

We spend 1/3rd of our adult lives in a job. Fulfillment in a job comes in many different ways, and in this episode we help you identify those. This episode will help you decide whether you should stay where you are, or find another opportunity.