Staying Uncomfortable

"Any man can be a father but it takes someone special to be a Dad."~Anne Geddes 

Today is Father's Day and the perfect time to express our love and gratitude to these special people in our lives.

"It's never too late to have a relationship with your father."

Some questions we ask: 

1. When will you stop blaming yourself for mistakes and acknowledging them as learning experiences that you can learn and reflect from? (3:00)
2. Is the intent behind a connection with a family member, significant other or friend perceived as pure with enjoyable experiences or beneficial with an underlying need? (5:00)  
3. How does your relationship with your parents change with time? (8:00)
4. Are there things that you would ask your father that you have not had a chance to? (10:00) 
5. Do you regret not thanking or cherishing time with your father when you were younger? (13:00) 
6. Which traits, morals and values have you unknowingly inherited from your father? (17:00)
7. How has your father made you proud and what has he sacrificed for you? (23:00)
8. Would you be able to make the same sacrifices for your children that your father did? (26:00)

In this episode, we reminisce on qualities, experiences and values that our fathers possess. 

What qualities of your dad do you share?

Dating can be hard, and so can finding love. Finding a soulmate? Feels impossible these days. However, it doesn't have to be difficult. 

When it comes to dating, most of us can be pretty predictable and have common denominators and distinct patterns. Do you have a type?

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results."

Some questions we ask:

1. If there is no chemistry, do you cut short your first date? (1:00)
2. What is your take on kissing on the first date? (1:30)
3. Does your approach to dating differ depending on the person you are with? (2:40)
4. Do you have a 'type'? (3:00)
5. Does the person that you are dating align with your core values and vision? (5:00)
6. What outcome do you want from a date 6 months from now? (5:15)
7. What is the commonality between the people we have dated and how can we flip it? (6:23) 
8. Do opposites attract? (8:25)

In this episode, we examine if your tried and tested dating formula works. If not, is there a variable you would change and go for someone that doesn't fit your bill?

According to Google, 'What is love?" has been the most searched phase over time.

Do songs like Michael Jackson's 'Do you remember the time?' and movies like 'When Harry Met Sally' accurately depict love? 

"Be open to receiving love."

Some questions we ask:

1. What is the difference between having sex and making love? (0:15)
2. What is your definition of love? (0:50)
3. Is it possible to balance your love life and career or is one or the other sacrificed? (1:25)
4. Is there a right age to get married (1:45)
5. How do you know when you've found 'the one'? (3:00)

In this episode, we define what romantic love is. Many of us have been in situations where we thought we were in love but in retrospect, realize that we were very far off!

We dissect elements of a partnership love ranging from compassion, empathy, acceptance, physical chemistry, and so much more.

When you've found true love, it means that you're fully committed, dedicated and devoted to each other. With true love, you and your partner work together as one unit to enrich each other's lives for the better.

"Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards". ~Soren Kierkegaard

Life is a journey filled with lessons, hardships, heartaches, joys, celebrations and special moments that will ultimately lead us to our destination, our purpose in life. 

Along the way, we may stumble upon obstacles that will come between the paths that we are destined to take. 

Will you look back and feel like you lived your best life? 

"Life is a journey, not a destination." 

Some questions we ask:

• How should you have lived at the 80% mark? (1:00)
• How have your decisions made earlier on in life influenced the remaining 20% of your life? (2:00) 
• How do you balance your social choices with career decisions? (3:00)
• Would you rather enjoy the earlier or latter part of your life? (4:00) 
• Do you enjoy the process of life or just live for each milestone? (5:00)
• If you compare your phone apps to the people you surround yourself with, do they drain or recharge you? (6:00)

In this episode, we compare the journey of life to our phone battery life. 

What apps have you installed in your life that are draining your battery? What apps are optimized? 

Ever had a boss, friend or a love partner with someone who is all about me? Someone who only listens to him or herself? A partner who changes the topic, gets defensive or mad at you when you try to talk about difficulties you've been experiencing?

Have you ever met a chutiya aka an asshole who gives no regard for anybody but themselves? Chutiyas are otherwise known as narcissistic assholes. 

They walk this earth as self centered, controlling, attention seeking and/or manipulative people who have impure intentions and use people for their own gain.

"Never make someone a priority when all you are to them in an option." 

Some questions we ask:

• What is the difference between being 'dependent', independent' and 'interdependent' on people? (1:00)  
• What are the symptoms of a 'chutiya?' (2:00)
• Have you ever confronted a chutiya or do you make excuses for their behavior because they are a family member or friend? (7:00) 
• If you are a chutiya, do you care what people say about you at your funeral? (8:00)
• Do nice guys finish last? (10:00) 
• Are chutiyas living their best lives? (10:00)
• Are chutiyas self aware or ignorant? (11:00)
• Do chutiyas surround themselves with other chutiyas? (11:00) 

In this episode, we discuss how to pinpoint a 'chutiya'. We also offer valuable lessons on how to be a better human being and provide mutual value within relationships. 

If you come across a chutiya, your mantra should be "If I cut you off, it's because you handed me the scissors." 

Be aware of your words, actions and thoughts..Re-evaluate and live a more pleasant life 'chutiya-free!' 

When you harness the power of positivity, the impact on your life can be amazing! 

Positive thinking can give you more confidence, improve your mood, and even reduce stress and anxiety. 

"Be thankful for what you have while pursuing all that you want." 

Some questions we ask:

• What is the Stop, Observe, Shift (SOS) method? (2:00)
• Why are our minds wired to prevent us from danger? (4:00)
• Instead of thinking about all the things that could go wrong, what if you thought about all the things that could go right? (6:00)
• Do you surround yourself with positive friends that inspire you to live your best life? (11:00) 

In this episode, we discuss the power of positivity and teach tips and tricks such as affirmations, gratitude, mindfulness and visualization. 

The next time you are down in the dumps, realize hat tough times are temporary and 'this too shall pass'. 

Your body hears everything your mind says..be careful what you're putting up there!

"You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, it's a habit"~Aristotle 

Habits are aligned with who and what you want to become in life. 

We have mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, and hidden habits that we aren't even aware of. 

Research shows that it takes 21 days to break a habit. 

"The way to do great things is to do is to do small things in a great way." 

Some questions we ask:

• How do you define a habit? (1:00)
• Do your habits align with your vision or have they become reward mechanisms? (4:00)
• Instead of having pizza every 3 days, can you decrease the frequency? (5:00)
• In forming a new habit, why don't you set small, actionable steps? (7:00)
• Can you replace your sugar cravings with fruit? (8:00) 

In this episode, we discuss methods on how to control, alternate and delete bad habits to perform a complete reset. 

Good habits are formed, bad habits we fall into. Some habits that we think are bad but they actually might be good for other people but at the end comes to your own priorities and what do you want to achieve. 

Bid your bad habits goodbye, ensure your habits are aligned with your mission, and set yourself up for success! 

"People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." ~Maya Angelou

Legacy is fundamental to what it is to be human. Exploring the idea of legacy offers a glimpse not only into human relationships and building strong communities, but also the human spirit.

"What are you going to do with the time you have left on earth?

Some questions we ask:

1. Who is going to show up at your funeral and what would they say about you? (1:00)
2. What values do people take away from you? (2:00)
3. Are you surviving or thriving? (4:00)
4. Who are you impacting and what do your words say about you? (7:00)
5. Have you thought about writing a letter to pass down to a future generation? (7:00)

In this episode, we discuss how you can leave a legacy and breathe meaning into your life.

Whether a legacy involves a particular tangible achievement - like a career title - or as an advocate for a cause, or more 'simply' for being a good parent with strong values, it's entirely up to you.

To work out what you want to be remembered for, you need to figure out what's important in your life and put a stamp on the future. We all want to leave our mark on this world.

What is the roadmap you are building and working towards?

It's Friday afternoon and the clock is ticking. You're working furiously to complete a task before the five o'clock deadline, while silently cursing yourself for not starting it sooner.

Procrastination can also go beyond work, affecting other important parts of our lives. Not getting that irritating symptom checked out leaves an unknown disease untreated.

Procrastination is a trap that many of us fall into. In fact, according to researcher and speaker Piers Steel, 95 percent of us procrastinate to some degree.

"You don't have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step."

Some questions we ask:

1. Are you an active or proactive procrastinator? (2:00)
2. Why are you procrastinating? (4:00)
3. Do you have an accountability friend/coach that keeps you accountable? (5:00)
4. Do you break down overwhelming projects into manageable chunks? (5:00)
5. When do you motivate and reward yourself after a personal victory? (7:00)
6. How do you make your daily chores fun and enjoyable? (8:00)
7. Do you take advantage of Airplane mode on your phone to help you concentrate? (11:00)

In this episode, we dissect the psychology of procrastination and provide valuable tips that will change your attitude from "I choose to do" to "I have to do'.

Avoiding a difficult conversation only prolongs the conflict. And delaying an important life decision, like breaking up, making a serious commitment, going back to school, or finally changing career paths, can lead to running in place for years.

In the end, we kick ourselves as we wile away hours on distractions (social media and TV - to name a few) as escape routes instead the tasks at hand. We regret the time wasted as deadlines approach, time runs out, and opportunity slips through our fingers. Don't let this be you!

Research shows that in 2017 alone, Americans forfeited 212 million vacation days, which is the equivalent of $62.2 billion in lost benefits.

If unused time off isn't enough to convince you, stress can lead to depression, anxiety, burnout, and more serious health problems.

Practicing self-care isn't always easy. Most of us have stressful jobs or are too consumed with familial obligations and feel drained. Me-time is usually last on the agenda.

"What if we recharged ourselves as often as we recharge our phones?"

Some questions we ask:

1. When was the last time you got a massage? (7:00)
2. Remember the activities that brought you joy and excitement as a child? (8:00)
3. Have you taken the time to unplug, reflect and pinpoint your stressors that trigger anxiety? (10:00)
4. Which people bring you joy and boost your mental health? (12:00)
5. When was the last time you picked up the phone and had a meaningful conversation with a friend? (13:00)
6. Do you end your day off from your responsibilities by practicing gratitude? (14:00)

In this episode, we dissect the physical, mental and spiritual ways you can treat yourself to some rest and relaxation without having to hop on a plane to escape.

Whether it's discovering Airplane mode on your phone, taking a long walk or devouring your favorite meal, a day off can do wonders.

What if you recharged yourself as much as you did your phone?

Take a reset day to yourself..for yourself. You will bounce back rejuvenated with a renewed sense of balance.