Stop Overthinking

Women often tell me how they lack confidence and doubt themselves. Listen as I describe self confidence as your ability to believe in yourself without any evidence or history of the thing that you want to do, and how to manage your mind and emotions to build your self confidence.

Perfectionistic tendencies frequently develop from the desire to feel loved and accepted… and the fear of not belonging.

This may be subconscious, deeply rooted, and even passed down from one generation to the next. Perfectionism and overachieving may keep you small, or afraid of being seen, or chronically disappointed.

Listen in to learn what some of the most common traits of perfectionists and how it may be impacting your life.

Much of what we think and say are thoughts and stories --not the neutral circumstances.

Listen in as I talk about how we discern the difference between actual circumstances (facts) in our lives, and the stories that we tell ourselves about them.

We have it so mixed up with feelings.  So many of us are taught, "They make me…" and we blame others for how we feel.

We don’t ever really learn how to identify feelings.   We think people are wrong to feel certain ways in certain situations. We don’t know what to do with the feelings we do have. We categorize half of our emotions as "bad" even though they are part of the normal human experience.

In this episode, I’m pulling the curtain back on feelings… including where they come from, what do do with them, and how owning your feelings will improve your relationships, and perhaps release some people pleasing tendencies too.

Do you feel like you are being pulled in so many directions there isn't time for what you want and need?  Do you feel unfocused and scattered?

This is a pretty typical experience unfortunately, especially for busy, working women.  The good news is you don't have to continue this pattern.  

In this episode I share a process for you to audit how you spend your time and energy, both in your personal and professional lives.  With the audit you will notice where you can be more efficent, what isn't serving you anymore, and how to better align your attention to your priorities.  

It's a common thought about other people, situations, or even yourself. Underneath the unfairness of how it's supposed to be are thoughts about how you think it should be.

Listen in to learn how you can shift out of these patterns.

"Just because you think it doesn't mean that it's true."   Thoughts are sentences in our mind- but that doesn't make them true or helpful or the only thing that is possible.  Listen in as I talk about how I came to discover mindset coaching and the power of thoughtwork. This one concept that literally changed my life and is foundational with my coaching practice.