Hey Fried Friends, thanks to your help on voting on this month’s #straightfromcait episodes. You told me that by far you want to know about how to actually build boundaries. You’ve probably read some ideas online and been told that you can be assertive without feeling guilty and all that, but it’s not working for you and you’re wondering how the heck you can build boundaries that anyone will actually pay attention to… well, we’re going to chat about that today!

I want you to keep in mind during this episode that if you’ve struggled with this for a long time, it might be the right moment to ask for some help - you can hop on a call with me by going to bit.ly/callcait

So let’s get into it.

Boundaries are one of the most important pieces of healing from burnout - BUT - they’re not the boundaries that you’re thinking about.

When you hear boundaries? What pops into your mind? Are you thinking about how to say no to someone? That’s assertiveness training. Are you creating language around when you’ll respond to emails, for instance - thanks for writing, I respond to emails mon-fri within 48 hours. That’s expectation management. Both of them set some sort of boundaries, but they are boundaries that live outside of you and the boundaries that count most when it comes to preventing and recovering from burnout? They are your inner boundaries.

The ones that you are mad at people for crossing but no one knows (except you!) that they exist. They are the unspoken agreements that you think you have with the world but the world has other ideas. 

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